Dear Escapist, I F*cked up.

[wootsniper]

~Snip~

Do you still love her?

well, if she refuses to get an abortion she can't force you to raise the child right?
But then again, you can't just leave her with it since your whole town knows about it :S

 

[Captain Schpack]

Dug yourself into a pretty nice little hole there didn't you? Well, I'm sorry it backfired on ya, but look for the silver lining.

A child can be a wonderful blessing, if you look at it the right way.

This and best of luck to you.

 

[TerribleAssassin]

Well, looks like your stuck between a rock and a hard place.

A suggestion is join the Army, or just like say well it's my kid too so I deserve a say in what happens to the baby.


Good luck for what ever happens.

 

[TermOfEndearment]

First of all: Your friends were dead on. You don't forget to take your birth control. She either did this on purpose to keep someone (maybe you!) around (yes women do this, my fiancee's sister has done it twice and it worked neither time).

To quote forrest gump: "Thats all I have to say about that."

You're SoL for at least the next 10 years. Good luck and God speed.

 

[reg42]

Either abort it or man the fuck up and take responsibility.

 

[robobengt]

Well, if abortion and adoption are being refused, then here's what you do.
-Get married (assuming you're old enough, i'll check your profile... oh, its on that post. seventeen. yeap)
-Have the kid
-Raise the kid
-Get a divorce if you really need to

It's the standard got-her-pregnant problem, just become a natural father. You're a bit young, but it's definitely legal. Surely you don't want a bastard child :O

You can't be serious?

Why the fuck does everyone think that the best place for a child is in the care of one person who's obviously totally fucked up, and one person who clearly isn't ready for dealing with this sort of responsibility?

The best thing for everyone involved is for you to fulfill your legal obligations and leave it at that.

 

[escapistraptor]

She had told me on the pill (PEELZ!)

You should probably not make Left 4 Dead jokes while posting a serious conversation about your IRL problems man. Kinda inappropriate

 

[The Stonker]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nBGRu-pLnOE



But still are you ready to sacrifice all of your plans for a woman? Think about your self because she is a ***** for only thinking about her self but not you at the same time I guess she WANTS to put you in a shithole.

 

[JoshGod]

remember one thing
people always say dont punish the child what has it done to deserve it.
well most people who say that arent in your position and secondly, dont punish the father what has he done to deserve this. (i'm understanding you believed she was on the pill before hand?)

 

[WickedSkin]

Testicular-cancer has helped me a lot. Haven't gotten a woman pregnant for years. Or felt like having sex at all actually...

Mate you could either:
1. Consider yourself lucky
2. Hope she has an abortion or agrees to one and then consider yourself lucky
3. Don't get coupled up with her yet, wait and see how shit works out. If you don't want her you still will have to pay child support. But it's still cheaper then living with the kid. You both fucked up. Shit is now serious man.

Also, she is a woman, always keep in mind that she is highly likely to lie to you or try to manipulate you. make sure it's really your kid.

 

[SpAc3man]

How long after she stopped seeing your friend did the coitus occur?

 

[EchetusXe]

Well don't listen to the people telling you this kid is your responsibility. It may well be your legal responsibility, but it is not your moral responsibility. You did fuck up by taking a risk with this girl. You should have worn a condom, you didn't. But the risk was that this is a normal woman who does not lie about taking the pill in order to trap you into a relationship.

You have two choices:

1) Get the hell out of Dodge.
2) Man up and support the child financially (through child support).

You also have extra choices:

3) Go into a stable relationship with this woman and raise the kid. Now I would not recommend you commit your life to someone who does such a despicable and unforgivable thing as lie about "forgetting" to take the pill.
4) Get a paternity test and discover you are not the father (this is a long shot so don't get your hopes up).
5) Persuade her give the baby up or abort the foetus (seems like you have tried and failed to go down this path).
6) Sue for custody of the child. You probably don't want to raise it yourself, but I would bet my house that the child would be better off with you as a single father than its mother as a single parent or with her and a step-father dumb enough to come along.

Realistically expect to lose a significant amount of income as I imagine option 2 will be the story here.

I feel sorry for you bro, but most of all I feel sorry for the baby.

 

[CLEVERSLEAZOID]

Someone didn't watch this video


Re-post for win.

Not really much I can say that hasn't been said already.

DNA test, whore sounds like whore, kick her out the door.

 

[bad rider]

Unlucky, hopefully things will work out for the best. Life gets like that when you trust people.

 

[The Warden]

Well, at this point the only options I see for you are:
GTFO and change your name and appearance
Kill yourself
Kick her in the stomach
Man up and raise the fucker
Pay child support
Kill her
Convince her to abort
Paternity test
and convince her to adopt.
Now I'm not telling you that you should kill yourself or kick her in the stomach or anything like that (I'm saying this because I don't want people telling me I'm a monster and all that)
I'm just laying out what paths you could take on this that I can see.

 

[Scaredpanther0101]

Don't trust anyone

Seriously No one

 

[tsb247]

her period was late, which scared me shitless. But she got her period.

I would like some clarification here. Are you certain that she had a period following sex with you?

If she did in fact have a period after having sex with you, then I am not sure what you are worrying about. To my (limited) knowledge, it is a very good sign that a woman is in fact not pregnant if she has a period. Then again, I'm not a gynocologist... There could be something I am missing.

If it makes you feel better, my girlfriend and I had scare a while back. Despite all of the proper precautions being taken, she missed her period altogether. We were both scared shitless for about a week, but we were absolutely relieved when she went to the doctor and her bloodwork was negative for certain pregnancy hormones. As it turns out, some forms of birth control can cause women to miss periods ater prolonged use - even if they are not pregnant! This sort of thing could be happening to you as well.

I suggest you really examine the situation, figure out what the hell she is up to, and try and get as many facts as you can. I am getting the sensation that you are at a loss for information, and you need all the info you can. From what you described, it sounds like you may not have anything to worry about at all.

Rule #1: The pill does NOT gurantee a woman will not get pregnant!

-If it's any consolation, you could be in this mess even if she was on the pill.

Rule #2: Condoms are the worth every penny and work 99.9% of the time (when used properly - pull the fuck out!)

-I consider the money I spend on condoms to be my 'Sanity' fund. It's money I spend so I can have a life and enjoy it too!

Rule #3: NEVER trust a woman you may not know well enough when she says she's on the pill, and never forget a condom!

 

[DoW Lowen]

The useful advice I can give isn't to you unfortunately but to everyone else.

Cover your stick!

 

[RicoADF]

This probably isn't what you want to hear, but you need to man up and be a father to that kid. Still, are you certain it's yours? If not, then be cautious about it, the last thing you need is to raise someone else's kid.

Regardless though I have to ask, exactly how old are you?

I'm seventeen, and really, this is the first place I've heard the whole man up bit. Really, she does kind of get around.

Oh, btw, SHE WAS NOT WITH THE GUY WHEN WE HAD SEX, THEY HAD BROKEN UP BEFOREHAND.

Sorry, I felt that was necessary.

All I can suggest is to have a DNA check and make sure its yours. If so then you can either pay her child support and have nothing to do with the child or (and my suggestion) you raise the child yourself since the girl clearly is incapable of doing it herself.