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This sucks. I hate it when a girl does the whole 'just friends' business and expects everything to go like it was before. but, from my experience, it wont (go back to the way it was before) as feelings have changed and memories that were not there are there now, it changes everything from how comfortable you are around each other and how you react to each other. However, its not impossible to still have a good time (before escapist jumps down my neck, I dont mean sexually fwb stylee) just try to think of months down the line instead of how your feeling now, whatever your feeling emotionally will be diluted, it might even seem funny and you'll think back and have a laugh about it,
but if I can give you one piece of advice that I am certain will help you whether you do or dont want to be gf/bf with this dream girl of yours, find another girl, not only will this take your mind off the fore mentioned hotty, but this will increase your chances that the 'dont know what you got till its gone' cliche will arise, and she will be all 'I shouldnt have broken up with you, seeing you with that girl made me think of how much I enjoyed being with you/it should be me blah blah blah' chin up soldier!!!!!
but if I can give you one piece of advice that I am certain will help you whether you do or dont want to be gf/bf with this dream girl of yours, find another girl, not only will this take your mind off the fore mentioned hotty, but this will increase your chances that the 'dont know what you got till its gone' cliche will arise, and she will be all 'I shouldnt have broken up with you, seeing you with that girl made me think of how much I enjoyed being with you/it should be me blah blah blah' chin up soldier!!!!!
Damn, that really sucks mate, sorry that she broke up with you 
Well, I know this is going to sound horrible but from the sounds of things this seems like the best way possible that you could have broken up with her, truthfully - she still wants to be friends with you, and is supportive of you, as is the rest of your friends.
I'd advise to just try and cruise the wave here, accept that you two had a thing, but are now just friends - hey, at least you can still be around her who knows, maybe some day in the future things might possibly kick off again?
Also, bare in mind that things could be a lot worse, it seems like she still cares for your feelings and tried to break up with you in the kindest way possible... I too had a similar situation (had girlfriend, thought that we both loved each other, girl says she doesn't after a couple months etc etc, I made a whole thread on the thing) eeexcept in my case she wasn't kind about it, she dumped me over an email (which never arrived so I found out through FaceBook), and she started going out with one of my best friends less than a week later - it also turned out she was cheating on me as well, which I had a suspicion of after she broke up with me which was later confirmed...
So, yeah! I'm glad at least that that didn't happen to you ^^'
Life has its ups and downs my friend, and breaking up with people you love is just one of those experiences that one must endure in the end. Accept that it happened, remember the good times with her, and look forward to the good times to come
Well, I know this is going to sound horrible but from the sounds of things this seems like the best way possible that you could have broken up with her, truthfully - she still wants to be friends with you, and is supportive of you, as is the rest of your friends.
I'd advise to just try and cruise the wave here, accept that you two had a thing, but are now just friends - hey, at least you can still be around her
who knows, maybe some day in the future things might possibly kick off again?Also, bare in mind that things could be a lot worse, it seems like she still cares for your feelings and tried to break up with you in the kindest way possible... I too had a similar situation (had girlfriend, thought that we both loved each other, girl says she doesn't after a couple months etc etc, I made a whole thread on the thing) eeexcept in my case she wasn't kind about it, she dumped me over an email (which never arrived so I found out through FaceBook), and she started going out with one of my best friends less than a week later - it also turned out she was cheating on me as well, which I had a suspicion of after she broke up with me which was later confirmed...
So, yeah! I'm glad at least that that didn't happen to you ^^'
Life has its ups and downs my friend, and breaking up with people you love is just one of those experiences that one must endure in the end. Accept that it happened, remember the good times with her, and look forward to the good times to come
Yeah, better this way than some others (My fiance of over a year simply left, told me she'd come back, but then I recieved an email several months later that she was never coming back). Although I have to say, the feelings you have now... You probably won't shake them, it's hard to say if you'll ever really be able to be friends with her. If my fiance came back and offered me the friend card, I might try it for a bit, but eventually I'd likely grow too stressed from it...
I wish you all the best, but it's best not to dwell on it. This is why I tell all my friends not to fall in love. :C It's just not really worth it. Too bad it's so hard not to...
I wish you all the best, but it's best not to dwell on it. This is why I tell all my friends not to fall in love. :C It's just not really worth it. Too bad it's so hard not to...
Start spedning time with other people, not only is there a chance you will meet someone else, it will probably make her really think about her feelings for you. Of course, she may not have any as far as being more then friends. And if that happens, then move along... there's really nothing else you can do.
For long proper review see the review Aylain left. For short guy to guy advice.
Yeah that happens, it sucks. Sorry man, I would buy you a beer if you were here. Here is the stuff you need to know.
Don't try hitting on that girl. If you really care for her become her friend, and forget about the romantic feelings. Yeah it feels like they will never leave, but they will with the next girl you date trust me.
Remember we are younger then 21 here. Our brains haven't fully matured yet, all our feelings can't said to be forever as long as our brain hasn't reached adulthood yet.
Yeah that happens, it sucks. Sorry man, I would buy you a beer if you were here. Here is the stuff you need to know.
Don't try hitting on that girl. If you really care for her become her friend, and forget about the romantic feelings. Yeah it feels like they will never leave, but they will with the next girl you date trust me.
Remember we are younger then 21 here. Our brains haven't fully matured yet, all our feelings can't said to be forever as long as our brain hasn't reached adulthood yet.
It can sometimes be very easy to mistake being emotionally drawn to someone (especially someone whom you know is into you) for being sexually attracted to them. It sounds like that's what's happened here.
It's obviously difficult for her because it doesn't make any sense. She's said it herself, you're perfect for her on an emotional level. I don't think she really understands why it isn't working for her, but you have to accept that it isn't and that's reason enough. You could build a perfectly functional relationship on that, but you need to accept that it wouldn't ultimately be a happy relationship on her side.
You need to take some time to think about what you really want from the situation. As a friend you would still be able to be emotionally close to her, but you would also have to learn to back off. Friends are important, in many ways they're more important than having a relationship, but they're structured very differently and a lot more casually. You'd also have to deal with the fact that she's going to be attracted to other people and quite possibly have other relationships, and as a friend you can't expect her to hold back or prioritize you.
Speaking personally, I would very much cool down towards her, at least for a bit. Tell her you need some space to come to terms with things, and then maybe don't speak to her too much for a few months until you're more comfortable with your life away from her. If you're really that compatible, you'll have no trouble getting back in contact with her after that time.
She might not like that but what she wants is a fantasy which isn't going to happen. Noone turns around after being dumped and immediately starts giving out all the emotional love and support they did before with none of the physical intimacy or tension. You need time, she has to accept that.
It's obviously difficult for her because it doesn't make any sense. She's said it herself, you're perfect for her on an emotional level. I don't think she really understands why it isn't working for her, but you have to accept that it isn't and that's reason enough. You could build a perfectly functional relationship on that, but you need to accept that it wouldn't ultimately be a happy relationship on her side.
You need to take some time to think about what you really want from the situation. As a friend you would still be able to be emotionally close to her, but you would also have to learn to back off. Friends are important, in many ways they're more important than having a relationship, but they're structured very differently and a lot more casually. You'd also have to deal with the fact that she's going to be attracted to other people and quite possibly have other relationships, and as a friend you can't expect her to hold back or prioritize you.
Speaking personally, I would very much cool down towards her, at least for a bit. Tell her you need some space to come to terms with things, and then maybe don't speak to her too much for a few months until you're more comfortable with your life away from her. If you're really that compatible, you'll have no trouble getting back in contact with her after that time.
She might not like that but what she wants is a fantasy which isn't going to happen. Noone turns around after being dumped and immediately starts giving out all the emotional love and support they did before with none of the physical intimacy or tension. You need time, she has to accept that.