Depressed I guess?

[Lightslei]

So as it is I've been making a conscious effort to be more social considering how much of a high school reject I was (Hi, I was a stereotypical nerd except I didn't have a pocket protector). As it is the few friends I've managed to make are like a million times worse at plotting social activities as I am. I kind of just constantly feel alone because I don't have anything to do, and I'm not really sure how to find stuff to do. I know people have told me to try volunteering, and stuff. The problem is I honestly can't find things that don't seem like pyramid schemes to me lately. Also just so you realize how bad it is that I can't find anything to do, I live in NYC. I'm also terrible at talking to people/flirting so any tips/advice/ideas would be helpful, even on better ways to introduce yourself to people.

While I managed to find one job, I've asked for set days to work each week because I'm looking for a second job preferably closer to home and they still haven't given me anything, so not sure how I feel about that.

 

[Cheesus333]

You and me both, brother.

But I find that if you make an effort to be more accomodating of what other people want to do, you'll end up having a good time anyway. And from there you can get yourself out even more.

I didn't have shit to do just a few weeks ago, now I've barely stayed in my house a whole day day more than a couple of days at once because I decided that I'd just go with what other people wanted to do. And I enjoyed it.

That's not to say you should abandon hopes of deciding an event or gathering etc. for yourself, but for now just ask your friends what they want to do and do it. Even if it seems like something incredibly boring - in my case, shopping for prom dresses (not for me) - the chances are you'll have a good time anyway.

Hope that helps

 

[NotSoLoneWanderer]

I'm only 15 and I've been depressed since 6th grade I have a lot of friends I'm currently active on a sports team and the most beautiful nicest awesome-est girl who likes videos games and reading may be interested in me yet i still just feel depressed sometimes. Around maybe the end of 8th grade (finished Freshmen year now a Sophomore) I began meditating. I don't really know what meditating should be or should feel like but i just went somewhere quiet with my thoughts and just went over how much worse my life could be. It's not like I believe in god but it just helps me go over my good fortune. I'm still incredibly pessimistic but I don't feel as depressed as I used to be. I'm not sure how much help just telling you to think alone is but it really just let me know how much life could suck. I also want to add that in public I'm not particularly outgoing either but I'm funny and people like me and i strive to be just a nice person
Niceness+Funny=Lots of friends perhaps? Not that being funny is easy for everyone it kinda just comes naturally for me.

 

[chellybelly]

I haven't found anything either, and I've been housebound for the most part, for a long, long time. I managed to attempt further education this year, and while it didn't pan out, I actually made some friends and enjoyed myself a bit. I'm probably the worst anti-social person I know, but what works for me when I meet new people is BE YOURSELF!

If you suck at introductions, let it be... make a fool of yourself, and relax. It's not as bad as it seems. Hell, I walked into the wrong class on the first day and made a huge fool, but an hour later it was forgotten because someone else had done something silly. I think what people respond to is when they see you are not a threat.

Ask questions, let them do all the talking. People love talking about themselves. Surround yourself with like-minded people, potential friends that enjoy the same things you do, but try to cut loose anyone who is depressing and makes you feel depressed. Join a club maybe, do you like art, drawing? Maybe join more online communities, although I suggest getting out of the house more. Go for walks, maybe buy a camera and take some amazing photos of NYC.

Keep at your job, and best of luck searching for a new one buddy, all the best. And if you ever want someone to talk to when those days of I-don't-want-to-get-out-of-bed-and-face-the-world are dawning on you, then I am most happy to chat.