Zeconte said:
Frission said:
Zeconte said:
In the end, that's what this all boils down to. I am acknowledging that there are multiple definitions of what "gamer" means. I am acknowledging that insulting "gamers" without qualifying what you mean could be considered insulting towards any and all people who label themselves "gamer" under any definition. But I am also acknowledging that this is not the case, because qualifications as to what type of gamer he is talking about had been made in the scope of the larger discussion taking place on twitter, from which that particular comment was purposefully removed from in order to be misrepresented. I then went on to explain that likewise, people are getting upset over articles declaring the "death of gamers" are also being taken out of context, and I am putting the proper context back into the discussion for them.
Good enough for me really. I can continue about how I disagree on who's fault misunderstandings fall on, because in a professional setting, in a job where you're meant to communicate: "It's their fault for not knowing the context" is not going to cut it, but then again this is twitter which is a horrible place for discussion and is only useful for bulletin news or narcissistic preening.
Really that's enough for me. Thanks.
... It's hard to communicate when someone takes what you say in one place, removes it from the place you said it, and posts it somewhere else that you're not a part of and says it means something different. It's hard to communicate when you communicate your thoughts perfectly clearly, and someone goes out of their way to ignore what you actually said and focus on one little thing out of all the rest to attack you for it based on an altered meaning of what you actually said.
Communication is a two way street. When you communicate from your end perfectly clearly to anyone who understands how to read and understands what they read (IE possesses reading comprehension), and the other end doesn't understand you, how is it a failure on your part? All you can do is reexplain yourself in other terms and hope they understand. But what if they don't understand then? Do you reexplain it again in a different way? What if they perfectly understand you and are purposely feigning ignorance to attack you over something they know you didn't say? What if they're so incapable of understanding that nothing you say to them will get them to understand, because they're not actually interested in listening to you?
How is that a failure to communicate on your part rather than theirs, exactly?
Well are we talking in generalities or in this specific circumstance. See? The fact that wasn't cleared up first may have been an error in communication. Are we talking about communication in general of just Devin. I'm for the former, but you may be of the latter. Notice that you're also centered on the relationship between me and you or me or them, with your last sentence" on
your part rather than
theirs".
Communication isn't a black and white issue. You're taking the viewpoint of someone who's being misunderstood. Look at it like this: Imagine there's someone whom you don't understand or who seems to be advancing something you dislike or disagree with, but you're not sure. So you ask them. What if they then accuse you of being purposely ignorant and attack you? It results in a breakdown of communication. Look how quickly you were to jump on the assumption that they were being purposefully ignorant. Don't get me wrong, that is possible, but it's not a conclusion you should assume until the very end when you've given up. How do you know what the other guy is doing or if he's not understanding you on purpose?
You are also assuming malice in what could simply be something due to poor education, a different background, lifestyle or history. Diversity not only means diversity in race, religion or sex, but also thought. It's too easy to jump to the conclusion that the other person is trolling, when the issue may just be that something is going wrong with communication. In that case I will say that something went wrong when Velventian said that Zachary was a troll. Something made Velventian give up trying to answer Zachary (or it could have been arthritis from typing, I dunno).
There's a flaw in your premise. Take for example this situation. You communicate more or less clearly (I thought at times that it was hard to decipher, but I'm not sure who's fault that is), and we can both read and understand right? I mean I've hopefully been purposefully typing the correct phrases, instead of just randomly hitting keys and getting a comprehensible sentence, Chinese room style. Yet, we disagree and I outright don't understand you.
Why is that? I like to think that I'm earnest in this and I hope you are as well, so why does this happen? Is it a difference in values? Maybe, but that's still an easy answer. I'm here because I saw a guy was being insulting and unprofessional and I thought you and Zachary were being insulting to some of the posters here, or outright dishonest in debating tactics. I don't know what you were trying to do however, since your motives were never stated. It could well have been because you disliked inaccuracy in reporting and there was a piece of evidence that justified or explained Devin Faraci's behavior which wasn't available to me, since you or Zachary stated there were qualifiers to explain this(I PM'ed Zachary about it, but no response yet Back at square one).
It's too easy to say that it's other guys fault for not understanding. Too easy to push away responsibility in the matter. It's a tragedy when people don't understand each other and I say that it's a bigger source of conflict then the "Lucifer effect" or "G.I.F.T". To explain, I think that there's more fighting on the Internet, because body language and tone is not here, so it's easy to misconstrue or just misunderstand. Don't get me wrong there may be people who just like acting "dicks" because they can, but like with Velventian it's possible that it's because of bad communication rather than malice from the other party.
I'll now address your first two points about being deliberately misleading. Truth is I only have an imperfect understanding of what happened in twitter, and you don't know frequent twitter either so it's hard to known what qualifiers Devin had "put up" and what he meant. I PM'ed Zachary and I'll search for the qualifiers myself. Hopefully I'll see if the OP was misleading or not. I don't think so, but I may stand corrected.
As well for when you said "someone goes out of their way to ignore what you actually said and focus on one little thing out of all the rest to attack you for it based on an altered meaning of what you actually said." Well all I can say is
THAT'S the reason I hate cutting up posts. It's not conductive to discussions, and I guess I'll be forced to live with it.
EDIT: Okay Zachary sent a message. I'll try to dive in and look for the qualifiers or ask someone else for them. Because I might as well practice what I preach and do my research. Or mooch off someone else. Either of those.