Did I potentially blow it with this girl?

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mocruz1200

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overthinking things:number one way to FUBAR your chances with a girl.
also, when i read the title my mind instantly went to the "Shiny Pidgey" story =P
 

The Wykydtron

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Aww and here i was hoping that this particular girl problem thread would be slightly more interesting than all the other whiney girl problem threads on this site...Well at least you didn't come off as too whiney OP.

Oh back on topic you're overanalysing, chill you're fine
 

bassdrum

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Dude, just relax. Relationships aren't so fragile that admitting that you're actually interested in seeing a girl will make her run screaming--if she agreed to do stuff with you as often as she has, it's probably because she WANTS to--she didn't have to say yes, she chose to. All in all, I'd say that you're in great shape--just chill out, stop thinking too hard, and let it happen.
 

lewism247

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Thebiggestpanda said:
Ok so I met this girl at a party last friday at college. We spent the whole time talking and then we went back to her place afterward to play some drinking games and chill. We made out for a bit but didn't have sex cause she seems really cool and I wanna take things slow (plus I don't like to have sex when either person is really drunk). I call her the next day and we spend saturday evening hanging out with her roommates who are really cool. Her roommates would occasionally joke around and say that she wants me bad etc. We didn't drink at all on saturday and kissed a little before I left. Everything she did seems like she digs me.

Ok, so fast forward to monday. I get back from the gym and decide to call her on a whim. While we were talking I decide to ask her out for lunch or something outside of a party setting, but before I can do that she asks me if I want to go hiking with her and her friends this weekend. I love hiking so that sounded awesome. After we establish the date for this weekend I ask her if she wants to meet for a late brunch on tuesday. She said sure but she doesn't really drink coffee but hot Chocolate would sound great. I then say that I don't drink coffee either and that I was just thinking of something to do and that hot Chocolate sounded great.

I feel like I might have rushed things by asking her out for tuesday after she already just made plans with me for this weekend and that saying that I was just trying to think of something to do makes me sound desperate or something. I'm not desperate or anything like that, I just think shes really cool and wanted to hang out with her again. Did I blow it with this girl? Did I just board the creeper train? Am I safe and need to not worry about it?
I feel like I might bee cramming too much activity into too narrow a timeframe.
YOU FOOL, ASKING A GIRL WHO YOU'RE GETTING ON GREAT WITH FOR SOME HOT CHOCOLATE!?!??

Nah Seems fine man, in fact it'll show her you're interested if you're arranging this too. Relax.
 

manythings

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Irridium said:
Now if you said you called her and mentioned some growth on your penis, they yeah you might have blown it. But you didn't, so its fine.
I don't think anyone can argue with that kind of advice. Really mentioning any growths anywhere would be ill-advised.
 

Gudrests

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I call either Troll....or you be buggin son... I see no where in that wall of text where she said no to anything...your going hikeing...(idk why its friggin cold where i live) and then you have a date....umm bro...you do know thoes are all good things right.

BUT YEAHH im sticking to my guns on this and sayin this guy wants a confidence booster from the internet in which case......GO GET EM TIGER
 

Roamin11

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Nah you got your finger on the pulse thats what cha gotta do when it comes to these ordeals, but if it makes you feel any better take it slow next week, just go out for sushi then fake food poisining till friday.
 

GeoPB

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Ah, hello fellow self sabotuer.

I knew there were more people like me.
 

Jake the Snake

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Woah, woah, just take it easy kemosabe. There was nothing that raised cause for alarm there. You're fine.
 

MasterOfWorlds

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I'd say you're fine. Chances are, if her friends/room mates are teasing about her wanting you, and those invites and such...she probably likes you. You're overthinking things. I know it's easy to do, I do it all the time, even about my relationship and my gf and I get along great. XD
 

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Thebiggestpanda said:
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Believe me, it's all good. It's not like you asked her to move in with you.
Also, it's good to get involved, you lose more if you just do nothing and someone else grabs her. Initiative is good.
Seal the deal.
 

Sion_Barzahd

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I'm gonna go ahead and reckon a lot of people have said this already, but i'll say it again. Reiteration is a powerful tool after all.

You're fine. By the sounds of it, you're playing this just fine. She seems into you, and offering to meet in a non-party setting where it'd be just the both of you probably scored some points in her good book.
Also there is a good chance that if her room mates are making jokes about her liking you, she probably does, or at the very least shes been talking about you two hanging out. Which is a good sign for her liking you.

buona fortuna to you my friend.
 

quantumsoul

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Relax she likes you. Over-thinking and worrying about blowing it will eventually cause you to blow it. So don't do it. Have fun you lucky dog.
 

Ham_authority95

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Thebiggestpanda said:
Ok so I met this girl at a party last friday at college. We spent the whole time talking and then we went back to her place afterward to play some drinking games and chill. We made out for a bit but didn't have sex cause she seems really cool and I wanna take things slow (plus I don't like to have sex when either person is really drunk). I call her the next day and we spend saturday evening hanging out with her roommates who are really cool. Her roommates would occasionally joke around and say that she wants me bad etc. We didn't drink at all on saturday and kissed a little before I left. Everything she did seems like she digs me.

Ok, so fast forward to monday. I get back from the gym and decide to call her on a whim. While we were talking I decide to ask her out for lunch or something outside of a party setting, but before I can do that she asks me if I want to go hiking with her and her friends this weekend. I love hiking so that sounded awesome. After we establish the date for this weekend I ask her if she wants to meet for a late brunch on tuesday. She said sure but she doesn't really drink coffee but hot Chocolate would sound great. I then say that I don't drink coffee either and that I was just thinking of something to do and that hot Chocolate sounded great.

I feel like I might have rushed things by asking her out for tuesday after she already just made plans with me for this weekend and that saying that I was just trying to think of something to do makes me sound desperate or something. I'm not desperate or anything like that, I just think shes really cool and wanted to hang out with her again. Did I blow it with this girl? Did I just board the creeper train? Am I safe and need to not worry about it?
I feel like I might bee cramming too much activity into too narrow a timeframe.

*EDIT* Thanks for all the advice. I don't think shes the type to flake out at the last minute and if she is it just wasn't meant to be. This is just the first girl I've cared about for more than just sex in a while and it kinda freaks me out a little.
She is totally into you, so you haven't blown it. In fact, you're making a smart move by hanging with her as much as possible.

If you keep cool and have a good time, you won't seem desperate.