Do I deserve to be spat on for saying this to a gay person?

[Lullabye]

I have been in the same boat as your friend. Homosexual couples don't like to see hetero couples make out either. I have that on good authority. So, no your friend didn't deserve to be spit on. Having said that, I am a hypocrite as I have done far worse in the theater.

As an aside, as an Irishman living in Canada, I would just like to point out the fact that even the *ahem* (to quote Stan's grandfather from South Park) "poofters" are down for a brawl. I love being Irish.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LE0q5cSmhaM

THANK YOU! I've been looking for that song forever! I downloaded it off limewire but it was under a wrong name and I couldn't remember any of the lyrics.....
eh, I know, terribly off topic but yeah.
More on topic, I notice that alot of my gay friends tend to kick ass. is this to become the new gay stereotype? From happy-go-lucky to kill-you-while-they-sleep

 

[Captain Pirate]

No, he doesn't deserve to be spat on at all. They should've been at the back of the cinema, and it was ap erfectly reasonable question.. not really homophobic. In fact I would've done the same if it was any couple, gay or straight.

 

[Dexiro]

Your friend did nothing wrong, if he asked them to stop politely that's no reason to get spat on. Gay people have the rights to do anything that straight people can, but with any common decency it stops when it starts bothering people.

I'm not even sure you are allowed to make out in the Cinema these days but if i was gonna do it i'd keep it somewhere where noone can see.

 

[chiefohara]

They were dicks.

Don't care who or what you are, you spoil the film for other people your a dick. Spitting on someone for calling you on this is inexcusable.

Where in Ireland was it?

 

[Teh Ty]

Yea, that's pretty idiotic. I mean, he kindly asked them to stop making out, and the guy just spit on him, and as some previous posters have pointed out, if it was a female male couple, there wouldn't be a problem.

 

[Eggsnham]

No, it wasn't a hate crime I think.

I mean, would you have acted the same way if it were a boy and a girl? I probably would have just ignored it either way, but the fact of the matter is that they were being rude and you guys are justified in asking them to stop making out in the middle of a movie.

 

[IcyEvils]

Anyway, here's the thing. Recently my friend and his friend went to see Inception (I think), and the cinema was fairly empty, except for these two other guys in front of them. And halfway through the film these two other guys got bored, for whatever reason, and started making out. And my friend was distracted, and grossed out, and couldn't enjoy the film properly. So, never being one to suffer in silence, he gently (according to him) said something alone the lines of "here lads, would you give it a rest? We're trying to watch a movie". And then, one of the guys turned and spat directly into my friend's face.

Complete overreaction. He was perfectly within his right to ask them to stop kissing, I'd do the same for heterosexual couples. To spit in someone's face because of a request is disgusting.
And to the others in the thread talking about 'lads', it's kind of a given here. Men or boys are colloquially referred to as 'lads' so it wasn't out of order.

This apparently resulted in a big brawl (as all things in Ireland inevitably do), and everyone was ejected from the cinema. The local newspaper even caught wind of it, spinning the whole thing to sound like some sort of hate crime riot.

Of course the papers would overreact. There isn't really much to report in Ireland so they jump on the slightest 'new' stereotype and blow it out of proportion.

On a side note, what county are you from? The gay community isn't exactly.. prevalent in NI.

 

[crudus]

A movie theater is not the place to "snog". It really doesn't matter how your friend said it, he didn't deserve to be spat on. I don't see how it matters if they are gay. Heterosexual couples don't have business doing that in public and neither does anyone else. The couple was wrong in the first place, then your friend was right to ask them to stop, then the gay guy was wrong to spit in his face. I am not sure of the events that happened after that but your friend was probably wrong at some point.

 

[Cid Silverwing]

Your friend there was justified. That idiot who spat on him deserves prison time for disturbing the peace. And I say this not out of disrespect for gays (I'm bisexual), but for respect to moviegoer etiquette.

 

[Dags90]

It sounds like something that should've been handled by the cinema staff. I would consider your friend and whomever else involved to both be in the wrong.

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

I think spitting on someone is one of the most degrading things you could do.

So yes, if your friend politely asked these two guys to stop kissing during the film, and one of them responded by spitting in his face. Then that gay guy definitely deserves a punch to the face.

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

If I was being disturbed by a heterosexual couple kissing in a cinema I would tell them, as I would a homosexual couple, so for me the act of asking them to stop has no correlation to their sexuality.

However, I don't know whether you would also have asked a heterosexual couple to stop. If you would then fine, you are justified in your opinion, but if you wouldn't ask a heterosexual couple to stop kissing then you are discriminating, and that's wrong.

As for them, spitting in someone's face is not the correct response for that. I can understand that they might feel like you are singling them out because they are gay, but if anything the correct course of action would be to demand to know whether you were asking them to stop because they were homosexual or because they were kissing.

 

[Dabox1]

Thats not being rude at all, I was at a hockey game once and a straight couple sitting in front of me started making out obnoxiously and I asked them to stop, i think its obnoxious to do something like that anywhere really...

 

[Jedoro]

Who the hell sits down front to make out? I take my girl to the top row, like a courteous couple.

 

[TheIr0nMike]

Spitting wouldn't be my personal choice (a bit of an overreaction, I'd probably just continue to kiss, maybe be a bit more passionate about it), but yeah, your friend should have just ignored it.

 

[MattRooney06]

i see no problem there

hey im a streight guy who has told another straight couple to knock it off

i guess im just not a big fan of massive ammounts of PDA

 

[silver wolf009]

If they were distracting your friend and he politly asked them to stop then no.

 

[maturin]

Would he have asked them to stop if one of them was girl? Regardless of the answer, they don't know that and are probably in the wrong.

 

[swolf]

Hmm, people being annoying in theatres...exactly why I typically wait until I can get the movie through Netflix. I would have considered moving to another seat because people are stupid (you never know what they might do over small "offenses"). Your friend didn't do anything offensive (according to your story. I'm not saying you're lying or anything. Just, you might have missed something he said or something.) Anyways, yeah, he should have beat the guy.

Reminds me of a gay guy I knew, he apparently thought that any time somebody did something "against him", it must be because of homophobia. He also thought that meant that he could act however he wanted without consequence because he could sue those who punished him or something. Anyways, so he was at a bar with coworkers (a group of coworkers always went to 1 or 2/3 bars in town to hang out) when he noticed a guy he found attractive. The thing is, not only was that "attractive guy" a married family man from rural Texas but he wasn't even slightly interested in homosexuality. So he ended up getting beaten to a pulp. He eventually got out of the hospital...and then he decided that he would grab my butt and tell me "you'll do good in prison". I turned around with my fist swinging but stopped within inches of his face. I told another gay guy to tell the first to keep his hands off me or I would break'em (not homophobic or anything, I don't like it when ANYBODY except my wife touches my butt.). It didn't stop so I mentioned it to the owner (family-owned place) who then fired him for sexual harassment.