Do you date outside of your race?

[Johnny Novgorod]

Well, I don't date much. My last girlfriend was a Jewish Ukrainian, does that count? Other than that - I wouldn't have anything against it, but it just hasn't happened yet.

To me Judaism is both a culture, a religion and a race/ethnicity. Some people adopt the culture, some convert the religion, some are descended from semitic families. Some go 2/3ds of the way, some have all of these. It's a tricky subject and you're bound to offend a lot of people by talking about Jews as a race, largely because 1) the historical stigmata of segregation and 2) the fact that separating people into races is sometimes mistaken for separating them into "better" and "worse".

My grandma was Jewish Ukranian, but converted to Catholicism to marry my grandfather. That doesn't change the fact her DNA traces all the way back to her semitic homeland. On the other hand, I dated a Jewish girl myself... but she was Jewish on her father's side, and her father had been adopted. So it was purely a cultural thing. And so on.

 

[Johnny Impact]

I don't date at all...

Obligatory

Nailed it!

I realized a long time ago -- though not until years after women figured it out -- that I am fundamentally unsuitable for companionship. I just don't have the right personality.

 

[Johnny Impact]

To me Judaism is both a culture, a religion and a race/ethnicity. Some people adopt the culture, some convert the religion, some are descended from semitic families. Some go 2/3ds of the way, some have all of these. It's a tricky subject and you're bound to offend a lot of people by talking about Jews as a race, largely because 1) the historical stigmata of segregation and 2) the fact that separating people into races is sometimes mistaken for separating them into "better" and "worse".

My grandma was Jewish Ukranian, but converted to Catholicism to marry my grandfather. That doesn't change the fact her DNA traces all the way back to her semitic homeland. On the other hand, I dated a Jewish girl myself... but she was Jewish on her father's side, and her father had been adopted. So it was purely a cultural thing. And so on.

Oh sure, people will complain about forced segregation. But segregation is also self-imposed.

My aunt on my mother's side married Jewish. Their family does all the traditional stuff: speak Hebrew in prayers and around the house, honor the Sabbath, separate sets of dishes for meat and dairy, there's a loooooooooong list. They even moved to Israel.

The thing is, Jewish heritage is maternal. If your mother is Jewish, you are Jewish, if not, not. Doesn't matter what your father is. My aunt and cousins, despite adhering more strongly to cultural traditions than many Jews (even in Israel), are not considered Jewish by the orthodox community. That, in my opinion, is rather messed up. My aunt wasn't born into the culture. She moved across an ocean, spent over a decade playing catch-up, assimilating what these people take for granted. If anything, her dedication is greater than theirs. Yet, they view her as a trespasser, simply because her bloodline isn't right. Some of the more outspoken have said she shouldn't be there, her marriage to a Jew notwithstanding.

I personally would not *want* in to that sort of community.

 

[Eleuthera]

I've only ever *dated* white girls/women. But I've been attracted to different 'races' often enough, some more then others. It's a rare thing to find an attractive black woman/girl.

 

[Phasmal]

Race isn't really a factor in who I am attracted to, but I have only dated white guys.
But I also have only had two boyfriends, so there's that.

 

[keniakittykat]

I haven't dated with any other people outside my race, but I love exotic men. (I grew up in a tiny farmer's village in Belgium, even the Dutch/Italian city guy I'm currently with is exotic to me.) And I would be with an American black guy if I wasn't in a relationship already. We're still close friends ^^

 

[Frokane]

Mmm. Well, technically I don't date.

But... Taking into account who I've been involved with in any capacity, (I'm a white european. (very white if you consider my actual skin tone.) 3 different varieties of such at the least, but whatever)...

I've so far had some brief encounters with an indian (asian indian, not native american), and a black british man. (Seriously though, he may have been black but his accent and behaviour screamed middle-class british person...)
I've also briefly had a few things with an assortment of white Australians...

Now, honestly, I really kind of hate the black guy I'm talking about. But that's because he was a selfish asshole that for all intents and purposes raped me.
That has nothing to do with his skin colour though, just that he was an asshole.
Same could be said of at least one of the Australians really...

Uh... Maybe there's a reason I don't date... >_>

But in any event, to answer the actual question, I don't care. Assuming I did date anyone to begin with, I really wouldn't care what race they were.

*Gasp* a Black person who is BRITISH AND MIDDLE CLASS?

I was convinced that all black men were in South Central LA Living on the Poverty Line!

/snark

 

[CrystalShadow]

Mmm. Well, technically I don't date.

But... Taking into account who I've been involved with in any capacity, (I'm a white european. (very white if you consider my actual skin tone.) 3 different varieties of such at the least, but whatever)...

I've so far had some brief encounters with an indian (asian indian, not native american), and a black british man. (Seriously though, he may have been black but his accent and behaviour screamed middle-class british person...)
I've also briefly had a few things with an assortment of white Australians...

Now, honestly, I really kind of hate the black guy I'm talking about. But that's because he was a selfish asshole that for all intents and purposes raped me.
That has nothing to do with his skin colour though, just that he was an asshole.
Same could be said of at least one of the Australians really...

Uh... Maybe there's a reason I don't date... >_>

But in any event, to answer the actual question, I don't care. Assuming I did date anyone to begin with, I really wouldn't care what race they were.

*Gasp* a Black person who is BRITISH AND MIDDLE CLASS?

I was convinced that all black men were in South Central LA Living on the Poverty Line!

/snark

Lol. Well, may have phrased that pretty badly (well, most of what I've said in fact), but it stood out because most racial stereotypes about black people have to do with America.

Then again, considering where I live, having had something with one who was, for all intents and purposes more English than I am... Well, it certainly makes me laugh at the likes of the BNP and UKIP...

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

Honestly if the magic was there, the skin colour would be the last thing on my mind. Dating isn't my forte though...

 

[LAGG]

Where I live we only date humans. Zoofily is even considered a crime is some countries.
Of course would do elves if they existed... Who wouldn't?

 

[TallanKhan]

While I have never dated outside of my race (or my ethnicity as I would rather put it) I would never rule it out, if I'm attrated to somone and we click I would never rule out dating them just because we don't share the same skin tone. That said, my tastes are quite narrow when it comes to people I find asthetically pleasing and with very few exceptions women I find attractive are almost exclusivley caucaisan. I should qualify that by explaining there are a large proportion of caucasian women who would be considered conventially attractive who don't do anything for me looks wise either, its just that the majority of women who do happen to be causasian.

I don't want to imply that I care about somone's looks first and formost, I wouldn't date a woman I didn't like just because she was attractive, but equally, no matter how much i liked someones personality I wouldn't date somone I didn't find physically appealing too.

Really its nothing short of a miracle that I have ever dated anyone...

 

[Evil Smurf]

I have no problem with it. I'm not racist.

 

[Raikas]

I'm another one eye-rolling over the use of "race" as a stand-in for what should be either colour or culture.

But to answer the actual question: I've spent the vast majority of my life in places where there aren't a huge number of people of my ethnicity (and my parents aren't the same nationality and each of my four grandparents had a different mother-tongue), so it shouldn't be a surprise that I didn't date/marry within the same cultural background.

 

[SouthernStar]

Dated a girl from new New Zealand who was half black and half Pacific islander. Her body was amazing holy shit ;( things didn't end well because I was a alcoholic at the time and decided to chose alcohol over her. Still regret it to this day.

 

[Not Matt]

Yupp. Beauty and brilliance come in all colours. Never had a problem with anybody of any different race. Have only dated one nonewhite though, but I live in a small town in Norway so our access to people of different races are hard to come by

 

[Valiance]

My first serious relationship was with someone from a different ethnicity. While I have no affinity for any specific group, I'm pretty much open to anyone and anything.

 

[Shock and Awe]

I have, she was half white, half Philippine, but she looked white as snow. I can be physically attracted to a girl of just about any race, though rarely black girls. The common characteristics just don't do it for me.

 

[Johnny Reb]

I've never thought about but i've yet to date a white guy (im white). Theres been 2 hispanics and one half-japanese.

 

[Angie7F]

I have dated across the specturm, but for some reason no black people.
I have nothing against them but they just dont seem to get along with me

 

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