Do you feel your life has direction?

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A_Parked_Car

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I suppose my life has some direction, even if it isn't really going anywhere great. I have applied to graduate school, so ideally I will be continuing my education. If not then I hope that I will find some administrative/support staff position at my university, since I like the scholarly atmosphere.

As for my personal life, I really don't have much of one. I have a handful of distant friends and have never had a girlfriend.
 

Squiddles

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Not so much direction, more of a basic shaded path. I have a goal that I'm working towards in my life, there's just quite a lot of obscure obstacles that loom over the path now and again. Just need a few good days to go my way then hopefully my ultimate direction will become clear.
 

Spinozaad

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The traverse into the great unknown I took nine years ago, when I decided to continue high school at a higher level for two more years, as opposed to going straight for "middelbaar beroepsonderwijs" is almost done; the great unknown has almost been navigated and charted.

I'm doing a so-called "research master" in 'Modern History and International Relations', which ideally trains you for a PhD. I'm in my final year, about to start my MA-thesis. I made it from the lower tiers of the Dutch educational system to the top.

So I'm standing here, and when I look forward, all I see is another great unknown. I'm looking forward to the challenge, and I wonder where I'll be in ten years time. Perhaps I'll work at a university as an Assistant Professor or University Teacher. Perhaps I'll be somewhere else.

We'll see what happens. I'm ready to take the plunge again, because I know I can swim. It'll be fun!
 

anthony87

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None at all. Right now I'm in college doing something that I've recently come to realise that I really don't want to be doing as a career. While that realisation has crippled my motivation to even do the work well, it also raises the question "What would I like to be doing?", to which the answer is "Fucked if I know".

Needless to say, it's slowly been driving me nuts.
 

Alandoril

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Since I finished university 6 years ago and have only been able to find part time shop work...I'd have to say my life lacks any meaning let alone direction.
 

Not Matt

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ha ha ha. my dear boy/female boy'

life doesn't make sense. it's not logical, it's not safe and it's defiantly not fair. it's this slick, insane, it's miandering thing that is just dumb. it's like a Michael bay movie. everything seems worst than it actually is, it doesn't stop being crazy before it's over and if you are very lucky, you may see a naked girl.



my life is pretty okay. i have a ton of cock-ups in the past and many more to come. i study something i wanna work with and hope that i manage to get a wife and children. but i am willing to bet my right hand on that it will be so more twists to that story later. bye bye.
 

xDarc

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Yes and no. Does sideways count?

I didn't even really much get started on a direction until I was 26. Up until then, my only real goal was to have a job. But then I bought my first new car, lost my job, and had to live off of a credit card for 6 months while I saved my stashed cash to make car payments. I did get a new job, and I worked for a year until I paid off my bills, all the while looking for a new job. I was trying to sell myself as help desk/tech wonk and it paid off. I went from making like 12 bucks an hour to 18 bucks an hour. I've had that job for two years now and it's been good. Bought my first home last year, have a mortgage now, good times.

I kept it small, 1,000 sq. ft at 12 mile, about 4 miles away from Detroit. A nice little pocket of suburbia where the only crime is petty vandalism and theft for the most part. Costs me 617$ a month on the payment. Not bad, if I lost my job I could still pay my mortgage working at Burger King- that was the plan.

Eventually, I will make some rather large payments on my mortgage until the principal is knocked down by more than half. (around 35,000$ needed) Then I will try to renegotiate a smaller payment, say 250-300 a month. Then I will buy a second house, and rent out the first for 700-800 a month. Let someone else pay the rest of my mortgage, and keep the asset.

I will then use that asset as collateral for a small business loan, open a coffee shop or something when I don't feel like working in an office anymore. And if the business fails, at least I'm not out in the street- just out an extra house. If it succeeds, I have business and rental income and life will be good.

A lot of people my age or younger are not planning long term and people not retiring will continue to get worse over the next 30-40 years. A 401K just isn't gonna cut it unless you make the maximum contribution and your company has a great match. You need assets, currently you have student loan and credit card debt. At this point in your parents lives, maybe for some of you, your grandparents- they had homes, careers, money... and hell, most of them are still broke and pushing off retirement.

There will not be social security checks large enough to offset the lack of retirement savings or assets for this generation. It's gonna cause a big spike in crime as young people will be accustomed to not having/finding work. Young people are the prime demographic for most all crime. Good thing the birth rate is the lowest it's been since like 1910. If it stays low it won't be apocalyptic, but god damn it won't be pretty either way.
 

Libra

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Actually, for the first time I feel like I have found my calling, so to speak. I always worked hard on my studies because 'that is what you are supposed to do', and I wanted a well-paying job because 'that is part of being an adult' and all that. However, I never felt like it was really something I wanted to do.

Lately, however, I've noted that I really enjoy peer reviewing, checking essays and grading exams and papers. So I'm currently trying to become a TA at my university. It doesn't pay well at all, but I'd rather do something I enjoy than have a bloated bank account.
 

Shadow-Phoenix

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aether-x3 said:
As an almost 20 year old Unemployed college "drop-out" who sits on her ass all day playing games and editing various screenshots, id say my life has no direction. Originally I had planned to go to college last year unfortunately I failed the year before rendering me unable to progress due to no funding being available for doing the same level again. So until I have a spare £1000+, I've got nothing.

I mean the next big thing in my life will be a new game that comes out the day before my birthday. What a life I lead.
I'm pretty much in the same boat only I'm 25 and did 4 years of college studying 4 different IT areas, only I finished college during the 08 recession and since then haven't had any luck landing a proper career let alone a job and my skills just amount to nothing these days when all they want is someone super specific for the job.

Though I'm still with my folks I have acquired a college room mate who keeps me sane just a little and I'm pretty much in the same boat when it comes to looking forward to a new game or maybe even a movie, sometimes technological updates or whatever's on BBC news.

I've always thought to myself that my life has no proper set path because I'm still trying to find my life's place and purpose while also wanting it to be unique instead of generic and boring but then again that's found me.
 

xDarc

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I hope people start focusing less on school and more on starting out in any workplace with the realization that the job hunt is never-ending, always on. You are always looking for work, even when you have a job these days. You pick up not only skills, but you learn how to skirt around HR people and how to get a job.

I work for a corporation where I am constantly turned down by HR for some of the higher positions because I only have an associates degree, never finished a bachelors. I am one of the most antisocial people I know, I have literally 0 friends outside of work. But what I did is I sent some emails to some of the people that I worked with in that other department I had good experiences with. Next thing I know, I'm having lunch with the head of my company's tech center. He sizes me up, and says WHEN you get in over here, don't coast. We want people like you, and we will talk to the hiring manager for you.

That was just before Christmas and I am still waiting to hear back on the position we were talking about, things move slow in big companies. But I have the connections now. At the end of the day, it's still who you know, how you present yourself- and I'm not even talking just dressing nice. I am not a big believer in dressing for success, you should be judged on your work and what you know- and that's what I mean by how you present yourself. Everyone I've worked with in my company is very surprised at what I can get done and how clever I am at getting around red tape without stepping on anyone's toes.

Anyway, my point is- it's not enough to just show up to a job. You gotta start somewhere, work your way over to a corporation that has a good culture, perform well, make connections, and you will advance.

I don't think there's anything special about having a degree anymore. Guy I work with does the same job as me has a masters from that phoenix online university. Most of the time, I'm doing the work he can't figure out anyway.
 

Sonicron

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Sure do. About one year of uni left until I attain my Master degree, and then I'm off to find a job as a teacher - looking forward to it, too. Also, all of a sudden I find myself in a meaningful relationship, and despite not really knowing what the future brings it does look a whole lot brighter now.
 

hooblabla6262

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I'm currently a payroll manager/head accountant for a company which I don't really respect. My contract is up in October, which gives me 8 months to prepare for my departure in to the wild.

I also grow my own produce which I sell to some loyal customers. Just another method for saving a little cash before October.

And once October arrives? I plan to travel. Work on my organic chemistry degree. Other various ideas swimming in my head. Essentially I just want to lead the life I currently live but under different circumstances, such as the job I have and the locale I live in.

So yes, I suppose my life has some general direction. Nothing overly specific though.
 

Scarim Coral

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I pretty much go with the flow as I no longer see the point in planning something that you can never predict.
I mean I graduated in a 3D media degee and plan to find a job relating to that and then the recession happen so I was unemployed for a whil (even then it's very hard to find jobs related to my degee).
 

dfphetteplace

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I am a paramedic and will continue to be one the rest of my life. I am going to be a critical care medic soon, and I am now an instructor, so I have a lot of classes to teach for years to come as well.
 

M920CAIN

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I'm 23 years old, I live in a corrupt country in East Europe where most good jobs come from having the right connections or the money to buy the spot (yes, people buy places to work at... boggles the mind.. I'll never do such things). I got my BA, and working on the MBA. I'm unemployed and make money from doing other people's homework and troubleshooting stuff... software, hardware, etc. My parents are in debt a lot since they took a bank loan to build the house we live in so I try NEVER to ask them for money, hell I gave them money more often, but hey! I have a roof over my head, crazy parents and a good little brother. I would say I have no real direction as in established path (reach point A, B, C), but I do know that I got an engineer in telecommunications degree, I'm IT savvy, I know both english and my language pretty well (made some money for translations in the past), and I dabble in fixing a bit of electronics - basics. I'm hopeful that direction will come with time. I just do my best to learn from every experience and try not to f--k up the life I already have.
 

N3squ1ck

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Well, I started studying Anglistik and Germanistik (I'm German) last year, so I follow through my courses right now, but I don't have really an endgoal apart from "try to be a journalist somehow"
 

thespyisdead

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Studying in IT right now... guess to graduate is my goal... my other goal is, since i have never been employed, am a "foreigner" living in my current country and because of this economic situation i do not see myself getting any kind of work, so i have set my eyes on self employment through indie game development, but even that seems slim, since i lack the skill right now :/
 

Waaghpowa

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My answer is the Buddhist one. Life is not about the destination, but the journey.

I don't care about how I get anywhere so long as I enjoy it.
 

Beautiful Tragedy

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Yep! In the past 2-3 weeks my life has made a 180, i have a new lease on life. I am one happy girl! I have had a couple of HUGE turns in my personal relationships, and i feel in my heart things are only getting better.
 

NightmareExpress

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Inherently, no. Whatever direction there is to be had is given by me.
Which is to say, unfortunately, not much at all. I feel stretched apart by several options on a constant basis, extremely hesitant to really go down any one particular route. My greatest hope is that I will be torn into several different people that master the singular thing of their fancy so that I as a collective whole can be an omnipotent scumbag capable of being hired pretty much anywhere I wish.

That kind of got metaphorical/crazy, but I think it's...understandable. Like, say you want to be great at writing but also want to be good at such things as animation and audio engineering. That's more or less my dilemma. Is it better to be a specialist or a really good generalist? Pros and cons on both sides.

From observation and prediction, I don't think you can really project where your destination will be in life.
Things can fall apart from the simplest of causes, and you can easily change your mind as the result of numerous factors.
Best you can do is pick a general direction, put up sail and let the wind take you somewhere.