Do you hate being ignored? I feel like I am losing my mind
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I sure do. Two weeks ago, I texted my best friend with a desperate plea for her to talk to me again after five days of silence from her and no repsonses to my texts.
Turned out she had been responding and my cell wasn't working. Oopsie.
Turned out she had been responding and my cell wasn't working. Oopsie.
Nope, but then I'm not a good person to ask about that sort of thing. Outside of University semesters, most weeks I go 5-6 days without talking to anyone and regularly go months without speaking to any of my mates. I'm perfectly happy to be left to my own devices.
Sure, I get a bit down when I feel like my presence goes unnoticed here on the Escapist (which is really the only forum I visit). But that's a scale that goes up and down. Sometimes no one will seem to notice me for two weeks, but then other times I'll get quotes up the wazoo.
As for your case, OP, I can't say I'm all too surprised. You stubbornly keep sticking to that sense of superiority regarding anime and what-have-you and people are going to grow tired of you right quick. Some humility goes a long way.
As for your case, OP, I can't say I'm all too surprised. You stubbornly keep sticking to that sense of superiority regarding anime and what-have-you and people are going to grow tired of you right quick. Some humility goes a long way.
Who said that?
[sub][sub] I'm so sorry, pls don't hurt me it was a joke D:[/sub][/sub]
I'm not keen on being ignored, no. If someone ignores me, I just ignore them back. I'm not gonna waste my time pandering to them if they don't have the balls to tell me what's wrong in the first place.
[sub][sub] I'm so sorry, pls don't hurt me it was a joke D:[/sub][/sub]
I'm not keen on being ignored, no. If someone ignores me, I just ignore them back. I'm not gonna waste my time pandering to them if they don't have the balls to tell me what's wrong in the first place.
Yeah and it's something I don't understand. This texting generation who spends their entire life glued to electronics takes forever to respond. All you have to do is press buttons on a keyboard.
If there is one thing I have learned recently, it is that you shouldn't rely on other people to make you happy. Do not be so self centered to think that people owe you something, even if they are your best friend. They owe you nothing. All you can do is decide if you should still talk to them, or leave them behind. It is not easy, believe me. Not easy at all.
It really depends for me. If I'm purposefully reaching out to someone whether it be for personal reasons or otherwise, yeah it definitely bothers me. Even if you're busy with something else the least you can do is say "sorry, I'm in the middle of something, I'll let you know when I'm free." And I try to operate on the same level. Even if I can't or don't want to get together with someone, I very rarely just straight up ignore them. On the other hand, though, I really don't reach out to people all that often and am perfectly fine going days or even longer without needing that sort of contact.
Yup, same here. I don't really talk to... anyone. I mean, I keep up with my family, and see my friends whenever we all come back from college, but other than that? Yeah, I'm a pretty anti-social person. People are just... so exhausting. I never know what to say, or how to say it, or how to really get in good with them. All the friends I have are people I've known since grade school. I'm comfortable with them, since I know what they like, and they know what I like, and we just... know each other so well. I don't know how I got that familiarity with them, and I don't really know how to attain it with other people. I wish I could. Uni gets a bit lonely, but... *Shrug* I'm just uncomfortable around strangers, and I don't know how to work past that.RhombusHatesYou said:
I get sad about it, in a distant sort of way. But even being a friendless loser, I'm still pretty comfortable with my life and who I am, so it doesn't really bother me that much.
I- I've noticed you, Shinji...Casual Shinji said:
[Insert senpai joke here]
I'm not anti-social, I'm just unsociable. (Yes, there's a huge difference but it only really matters in Sociology and Psychology)Saetha said:
Social skills aren't my problem, even if I have let mine atrophy a bit over the years. I just don't find socialising with most people worth the effort.
In my experience, you get used to it, at least in real life.After a while it doesn't even register in my brain anymore that I'm holding conversation with basically just myself. As for online interaction, I haven't really had it happen to me that somebody just up and stopped talking to me.
I'm probably not the best person for this, I don't think I can say I ever REALLY got ignored.
For what it's worth, here's my advice. Do try not to let it get to you. Letting something fester like that isn't healthy.
I'm probably not the best person for this, I don't think I can say I ever REALLY got ignored.
For what it's worth, here's my advice. Do try not to let it get to you. Letting something fester like that isn't healthy.
Definitely, I'm way too social for it. Something that seems to be bit of an oddity so far in this thread.
I get crazy cabin fever when I'm isolated in my room for more than a day or three. Even quicker when the few friends I really Skype with say nothing too. I crave social interaction oh so much.
I get crazy cabin fever when I'm isolated in my room for more than a day or three. Even quicker when the few friends I really Skype with say nothing too. I crave social interaction oh so much.
As someone who's networking skills has to run full blast all the time to keep up with other artists, my projects, their projects, baby shaking and hand kissing, and the various activities, charities, and run about that I do on a daily basis just to keep myself in the loop, and my pockets full with enough cash to make it to tomorrow, any time I have to be alone, that isn't filled with sitting at my art desk pounding my head against Bristol board in hopes art happens, is so rare and beautiful that I must take full advantage of it by ignoring everyone.
When a friend vanishes for an artist, they're either dead, on hiatus, or so engrossed in their own projects that they forget things, like bathing and people, and general people skills, but after that deadline passes they tend to come back to life and reconnect so it's nothing to much.
Sung-Hwan, that feeling you have now is going to get worse as time goes by. Every year your friends will become "friends" as in you can remember them and maybe see them once a year. It happens to all of us as we get older, and it's just what happens, but don't feel sad, because something is going to come along soon that'll make you forget this problem completely...
Responsibility!
Yes that's right, soon the hands of responsibility will ring you out for every last drop of time, money and fucks you can give. Leaving you to a husk of an adult, and placing you in a world where what your friend does is not nearly as important as where you put the electric bill. As time goes by you'll find yourself without the time to spend doing things like watching anime, and will have to pick and chose specific shows to watch through out the year because you can't see everything, becoming less and less informed until you're so far out of the entertainment loop that everything is alien to you.
That leads us to stage three, the nostalgic old man, where you have the time and cash to spend on stuff again, but everything is so different now that all you want to do is buy up the stuff you remember as a child because at least that makes sense. So you grab those dvds of 90s anime and shows because you feel comfortable with the purchase and can't take the risk. Also, anime shows worth it will have been digitally downloaded into your kid's head, and you couldn't afford to get the chip, having spent all your money raising the little buggers.
Then you'll get to watch your friends, the two or three you still had in touch with, grow old and die.
Wait, what was I talking about again? Oh, right. Dude, either apologize because you want to keep them as a friend regardless of ideology, or understand that these things happen, paths change, and you should look into new friends. These things happen, and it sucks, but it'll get better if you step back and get out every once in a while. Better yet, it'll help strengthen you to get along better with people in the long run. (Going back to learning to deal with the masses thing from before). If you care, show them it.
Or, you know, the paragraphs before this one'll happen to you first. Whatever. I'm going to go pay my internet provider, electric, water, gas, sewage, car insurance, health insurance, car payment... rent.. buy groceries.. pay netflix..
When a friend vanishes for an artist, they're either dead, on hiatus, or so engrossed in their own projects that they forget things, like bathing and people, and general people skills, but after that deadline passes they tend to come back to life and reconnect so it's nothing to much.
Sung-Hwan, that feeling you have now is going to get worse as time goes by. Every year your friends will become "friends" as in you can remember them and maybe see them once a year. It happens to all of us as we get older, and it's just what happens, but don't feel sad, because something is going to come along soon that'll make you forget this problem completely...
Responsibility!
Yes that's right, soon the hands of responsibility will ring you out for every last drop of time, money and fucks you can give. Leaving you to a husk of an adult, and placing you in a world where what your friend does is not nearly as important as where you put the electric bill. As time goes by you'll find yourself without the time to spend doing things like watching anime, and will have to pick and chose specific shows to watch through out the year because you can't see everything, becoming less and less informed until you're so far out of the entertainment loop that everything is alien to you.
That leads us to stage three, the nostalgic old man, where you have the time and cash to spend on stuff again, but everything is so different now that all you want to do is buy up the stuff you remember as a child because at least that makes sense. So you grab those dvds of 90s anime and shows because you feel comfortable with the purchase and can't take the risk. Also, anime shows worth it will have been digitally downloaded into your kid's head, and you couldn't afford to get the chip, having spent all your money raising the little buggers.
Then you'll get to watch your friends, the two or three you still had in touch with, grow old and die.
Wait, what was I talking about again? Oh, right. Dude, either apologize because you want to keep them as a friend regardless of ideology, or understand that these things happen, paths change, and you should look into new friends. These things happen, and it sucks, but it'll get better if you step back and get out every once in a while. Better yet, it'll help strengthen you to get along better with people in the long run. (Going back to learning to deal with the masses thing from before). If you care, show them it.
Or, you know, the paragraphs before this one'll happen to you first. Whatever. I'm going to go pay my internet provider, electric, water, gas, sewage, car insurance, health insurance, car payment... rent.. buy groceries.. pay netflix..
Yep. I get ignored all the time. Family never picks up their phones, any time I try and get myself into a conversation, I get ignored. I garuntee this is the one post that people will ignore as well.
It's also why I'm so hostile towards what I dislike instead of "I don't like this and here's why".
It's also why I'm so hostile towards what I dislike instead of "I don't like this and here's why".
Well, it's more an issue from my end, lacking selfconfidence and whatnot -- 'I didn't get a response for that funny post I just made..?! NOBODY LIKES ME!!!'Dead Century said:
Usually when it comes to philosophical disagreements, I like to maintain that there is no 'wrong' just two different opinions. But yes, your stance is revolting, and it's not your place to decide who should be born. People are going to have difficulties in life regardless of how or what they're born into.Sung-Hwan said:
But putting that aside, you've alienated your friend and they have every right to ignore you. Though it doesn't really sound like that's what they're doing, sounds like they just want to discontinue they're association with you.
Maybe you should take his advice? Medical professionals are sort of obligated to not ignore you.