I take them in stride, I guess. I don't get embarrassed or anything, but it's not like I get excited either.
Do you take compliments well?
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Me getting complimented goes along similar lines as Spector Von Baron: I reply with something like "I try my best", "I do what I can", or something similar. I feel like I get more out of criticisms honestly; you can do something with a criticism. Compliments are nice but they don't really do anything for me.
That was a very well thought-out post. And might I add you look ravishing today!Weaver said:
OT: I always appreciate them but am almost never sure how to respond other than "Thank you"
I sometimes try to return it but it's not always applicable;"You did really well on that exam!"
"Thanks! You too"
"I... didn't even sit it..."
"..."
Compliments in general I take and usually reciprocate and compliments about how well I'm doing either make me feel bad for not doing better or I brush them off because I feel I had to do a decent job/whatever because it was necessary.
I thank the person and usually say something nice back anyway though. When I'm drunk I compliment everyone. The look on their faces when they're confused and wondering where you came from switching to a little smirk when they think you aren't looking and you're gone is adorable. Everyone deserves a compliment now and then, I don't see them as bad.
Although if the compliment comes at an odd time/out of nowhere it can feel like the person is just rolling their personality dice to try and raise your disposition high enough so you tell them where the Lord's Mail is.
I thank the person and usually say something nice back anyway though. When I'm drunk I compliment everyone. The look on their faces when they're confused and wondering where you came from switching to a little smirk when they think you aren't looking and you're gone is adorable. Everyone deserves a compliment now and then, I don't see them as bad.
Although if the compliment comes at an odd time/out of nowhere it can feel like the person is just rolling their personality dice to try and raise your disposition high enough so you tell them where the Lord's Mail is.
Well, I usually want to deflect compliments, but I actually feel rude doing so in some situations, so I just say "thanks" and not much more than that. I'm a music student, so people hear me perform from time to time, and I sometimes get compliments after performances that I was disappointed in. My temptation is to reveal everything I did wrong, but then I realize that the people that I've either never met or barely talked to that went out of their way usually don't even notice the things I'm beating myself up over, and it did nothing to impede their enjoyment of the performance.
Some compliments sink in better than others for me. It's a very specific type of praise from either someone who knows me very well or someone I look up to that will actually feel genuine for me, even if I end up a little embarrassed.
Some compliments sink in better than others for me. It's a very specific type of praise from either someone who knows me very well or someone I look up to that will actually feel genuine for me, even if I end up a little embarrassed.
Actually when people compliment me, I tend to freak out, A LOT. I never received compliments as a kid without the feeling of pity or sarcasm. So when people really mean it when they say things like that to me, I get super defensive and hide under a rock, and spout my anti-trickery shit.
If I'm paying attention I don't take compliments well, usually assuming they're condescending or sarcastic and have to bite back the urge to respond in a similar manner towards the perceived insult, as I live in a place where the prerequisite intelligence required for proper sarcasm generally isn't met by the vast majority.
If I'm not paying attention, I respond to compliments the same way I respond to people in general, with a nondescript grunt.
I've got some issues.
If I'm not paying attention, I respond to compliments the same way I respond to people in general, with a nondescript grunt.
I've got some issues.
I thought I didn't take compliments well but after reading other people's responses I think I'm OK in that department. I'll say thanks but I usually still feel a little embarrassed if someone compliments me; my ears turn red when I'm embarrassed too, it's very noticeable. My father and I look, sound, and even think very similarly too.
I got a compliment from an old lady, recently, she asked where my beard went, and said it was a lovely colour. Now in this case, I sighed, shook my head and said my mum didn't like it. In that case, I shook it off, completely. It's an old lady being nice, that's all. Same with the one who said I was a "smasher". I told her I appreciated it, but come on, old ladies are just like that a lot of the time.
It really depends on the situation, if the compliment is on a skill that is nowhere near good enough to have any application, I blow it off entirely and usually get annoyed. Even worse, if the compliment is false. It's just insulting. I hate false compliments, people usually have good intentions, but I think it patronises the person more than anything else.
I was told I was "very convincing" by a teacher once. I just kind of put my hand to my chin as he explained himself further. I didn't respond to the compliment in that case. When I was a kid, compliments, any sort of collective attention, positive or not, kind of upset me. Shy, I suppose. Still don't like it.
I, myself, don't give out compliments, often, because I like to think that makes them valuable. Even then, i have to compliment a lot, because I have much less practical skill than a lot of people I know, so I admire and envy it at the same time. I especially envy visual artists. God damn. I'm only mediocre when it comes to that kind of stuff. Such a cool skill.
To conclude this rambling (which I had to retype because the site was being weird) I take compliments badly for the most part, but it really comes down to how well-versed my knowledge of the asset is. If someone was to compliment my looks, I'd take it better than if someone complimented my cooking skills, because I know what a good cook can do, but not entirely what makes a handsome man. But of course, it all depends on who gives the compliment, and in what way it is given.
I went too deep into this, didn't I? If only I could channel this kind of thing into something useful.
It really depends on the situation, if the compliment is on a skill that is nowhere near good enough to have any application, I blow it off entirely and usually get annoyed. Even worse, if the compliment is false. It's just insulting. I hate false compliments, people usually have good intentions, but I think it patronises the person more than anything else.
I was told I was "very convincing" by a teacher once. I just kind of put my hand to my chin as he explained himself further. I didn't respond to the compliment in that case. When I was a kid, compliments, any sort of collective attention, positive or not, kind of upset me. Shy, I suppose. Still don't like it.
I, myself, don't give out compliments, often, because I like to think that makes them valuable. Even then, i have to compliment a lot, because I have much less practical skill than a lot of people I know, so I admire and envy it at the same time. I especially envy visual artists. God damn. I'm only mediocre when it comes to that kind of stuff. Such a cool skill.
To conclude this rambling (which I had to retype because the site was being weird) I take compliments badly for the most part, but it really comes down to how well-versed my knowledge of the asset is. If someone was to compliment my looks, I'd take it better than if someone complimented my cooking skills, because I know what a good cook can do, but not entirely what makes a handsome man. But of course, it all depends on who gives the compliment, and in what way it is given.
I went too deep into this, didn't I? If only I could channel this kind of thing into something useful.
This is the usual exchange:
So yeah, I'm really kinda bad with taking compliments.
Code:
Them: "Wow, [insert compliment here]!"
Me: "No it isn't."
Them: "Yes it is."
*continue ad infinitum, until...*
Me: "GEEZ. FINE."
Oh no. I do not. I am notorious for this behavior. I try so hard to just make sure that anything I did wasn't such a big deal. But I've been told numerous times that I need to be a little prouder of my achievements and self worth.
I try to just say; 'thank you, you're very kind'. As a default.
I used to try and put down everything said about me, and try and make it seem as though any compliments were an over-exaggeration or a misconception, especially when I was a teenager. But... Egh. I see now as an adult how damaging that can be.
It's a hard habit to break. I went to a school where most of my achievements and effort were put down at an early age. So now when someone compliments me I'm just so taken aback... I have no good grasp on my own worth, I mean I do want to do well at things I do, and I always work hard at anything I set my mind to... but I do it for my own fulfillment ...anything extra and I just mentally freeze up.
It's really hard for me trying to sell myself to employers or potential customers. I hate bragging, or presenting...well, me. But at the same time I really do try...for the sake of my future.
I try to just say; 'thank you, you're very kind'. As a default.
I used to try and put down everything said about me, and try and make it seem as though any compliments were an over-exaggeration or a misconception, especially when I was a teenager. But... Egh. I see now as an adult how damaging that can be.
It's a hard habit to break. I went to a school where most of my achievements and effort were put down at an early age. So now when someone compliments me I'm just so taken aback... I have no good grasp on my own worth, I mean I do want to do well at things I do, and I always work hard at anything I set my mind to... but I do it for my own fulfillment ...anything extra and I just mentally freeze up.
It's really hard for me trying to sell myself to employers or potential customers. I hate bragging, or presenting...well, me. But at the same time I really do try...for the sake of my future.
I have gotten much much better at it, nowdays, at least half the time, I manage to just say thank you and then shut up about it... I used to try to explain to the person how they were wrong when they complimented me.
I have zero clue on what to do.
I know how to take a criticism like a boss 'cos it's something you can work on and improve.
A compliment is meaningless to me, what am I meant to do with "well done!"? I feel it is so patronizing or condescending sometimes, especially if what you have apparently done that was praise worthy was easy.
For example, I have done an employ-ability course 3 times, at 3 different colleges. I then went for an apprenticeship, the start of which was a 5 week employ-ability course ... I aced the fucking thing, I powered through everything with no trouble. At the end of the 5 weeks we had a graduation ceremony (which was actually the organizers chance to pat themselves on the back) and I had about 20 people say how well I did and how proud I should be or how proud they are of me ... the course could be completed by a pre-teen, I've done it 3 times previously, how is what I have done something to take pride in?
I know how to take a criticism like a boss 'cos it's something you can work on and improve.
A compliment is meaningless to me, what am I meant to do with "well done!"? I feel it is so patronizing or condescending sometimes, especially if what you have apparently done that was praise worthy was easy.
For example, I have done an employ-ability course 3 times, at 3 different colleges. I then went for an apprenticeship, the start of which was a 5 week employ-ability course ... I aced the fucking thing, I powered through everything with no trouble. At the end of the 5 weeks we had a graduation ceremony (which was actually the organizers chance to pat themselves on the back) and I had about 20 people say how well I did and how proud I should be or how proud they are of me ... the course could be completed by a pre-teen, I've done it 3 times previously, how is what I have done something to take pride in?
Employ-ability covers things like what is a prejudice, health and safety, dealing with customers, your rights and responsibilities (don't read too much into that, it's literally name of act followed by year and you're not tested on it) and personal appearance/hygiene.
It's not exactly probing stuff, it is all very base level. Prejudice is stuff like "give 2 examples of sexism/racism/etc". Health and safety is stuff like "lift with your legs" and "highlight dangers in this picture" (the picture being of like bleach next to food, wet floor and no sign). Dealing with customers is always take it to a supervisor/manager. Personal appearance is always wash your ass, little to no smelly stuff (deodorant/perfume/cologne etc) and no jewelry.
I could give anybody on this site all the question papers for it and without telling you anything not one of you would have trouble with it, with the exception of the rights and responsibilities.
It's not exactly probing stuff, it is all very base level. Prejudice is stuff like "give 2 examples of sexism/racism/etc". Health and safety is stuff like "lift with your legs" and "highlight dangers in this picture" (the picture being of like bleach next to food, wet floor and no sign). Dealing with customers is always take it to a supervisor/manager. Personal appearance is always wash your ass, little to no smelly stuff (deodorant/perfume/cologne etc) and no jewelry.
I could give anybody on this site all the question papers for it and without telling you anything not one of you would have trouble with it, with the exception of the rights and responsibilities.