For ME2, I found femshep to be very bland, as if Hale was just phoning this one in.
As for the character itself, I think Shepard is very well written. If all of you ended up as an extreme and weren't happy with that outcome than you can only blame yourselves. I played through the game mostly as Paragon, but there were plenty of people who I didn't like right off the bat and I used Renegade options for all of them. In the end I had about 3/4 of my Paragon bar filled with just under 1/2 of my Renegade filled up. My Shepard is a nice guy who doesn't take shit from anyone.
As for the character itself, I think Shepard is very well written. If all of you ended up as an extreme and weren't happy with that outcome than you can only blame yourselves. I played through the game mostly as Paragon, but there were plenty of people who I didn't like right off the bat and I used Renegade options for all of them. In the end I had about 3/4 of my Paragon bar filled with just under 1/2 of my Renegade filled up. My Shepard is a nice guy who doesn't take shit from anyone.