Do you think i did the right thing?

[thespyisdead]

i was at this party yesterday and there was this hot chick. so we go to the bathroom.

but here's my dilemma: I've never had sex before, and have and have genital warts. right before we do it I tell her of my problem, and that sent her into full flight.

i know i probably did the right thing, but the other part now wishes i didn't, as my self esteem plummeted after this incident, quite drastically actually. and i have this minor depression coming on.

 

[manic_depressive13]

What exactly do you mean by 'genital warts'? Is it even possible to have those if you haven't had sex? Have you been to the doctor?

You really shouldn't be trying to have sex with strangers when you potentially have a contageous venereal disease.

 

[Silverslith]

You did the right thing. HPV is quite contagious and looks nasty on your genitals. Have you seen a doctor to see if they can do anything about your condition?

 

[Raven's Nest]

i was at this party yesterday and there was this hot chick. so we go to the bathroom.

but here's my dilemma: I've never had sex before, and have and have genital warts. right before we do it I tell her of my problem, and that sent her into full flight.

i know i probably did the right thing, but the other part now wishes i didn't, as my self esteem plummeted after this incident, quite drastically actually. and i have this minor depression coming on.

You deffo did the right thing. Personally, I would have made up a different excuse so as not to inevitably have everyone on facebook knowing I had genital warts... Top tip for the future.

But you say you've never had sex yet you have genital warts? Is confirmed by a doctor or do you have these...

Sorry for the graphics, but the cause seems legit. Anyway spoilered for those with an adverse reaction to penis... (fair warning)

Spoiler

These are actually called pearly penile papules, they are pretty common but are considered completely harmless. Still, if you haven't already go get them checked out by a medical professional...

 

[Angie7F]

sorry, "for those who have an adverse reaction to penis" had me laughing for a while...

HPV can really piss a girl off as it causes cancer for the girls, and not so much for the guys.
Its could become a life threatening matter for your partner in the future so you really should get something done with it.

If its not HPV, then you still need to get something done with it.
Living in shame and not having sex is not going to help you or make it go away any time soon.

But you did the right thing.
You really dont want rumours starting just because you rushed it with the wrong girl

 

[bluepilot]

It is possible to get HPV from your mum during birth (no offense intended here) otherwise I cannot think of another reason why you would have HPV. If you have something going on downstairs then you should always get it checked out before playing in case it is dangerous or contagious.

If you have visible warts (types 6 and 11), these do not cause cancer but they need to be treated as there is a risk they will grow and spread. I think you should get yourself down to the GUM clinic and get whatever you have going on down there checked out. Whatever it is, it is important that you are safe and your future sexual partners are safe.

Yes, you did the right thing. Keep it up (no pun intended)

 

[Jonluw]

Yes, you did the right thing.
But like everyone else here, I need to ask: Have you been diagnosed with genital warts by a doctor?
I was originally going to post the same as Raven's nest, you see.
Some people - even some doctors, I've heard - can mistake penile pearly papules for genital warts, when they really aren't.

 

[Raven's Nest]

Also another thing you may be confusing warts with....
http://www.genitalwartsreport.com/fordyce-spots-genital-warts/

 

[renegade7]

If you've never had sex, you shouldn't have genital warts. Maybe go see a doctor.

In any case, it's probably a good idea that you didn't have sex with a stranger, who knows where a girl like that has been.

 

[AceofStaves]

At this point, I'm just parroting what others have said, but yes, you did the right thing. This is not the sort of thing you want to be wrong on. Go see a doctor and get checked out.

 

[Karhukonna]

quoted for attention

You should pretty much get an Escapist medal for "Posting a penis pic with legitimate cause" or something.

On topic: Hell yeah that was the right call. She probably wouldn't have noticed it before it was too late, and it takes some balls to man up and say that to her face.

But I'm still gonna hop on this little wagon and ask again, how the hell did you grab those warts without sex? A cheap alleyway BJ or something? Can't say, 'cos I ain't no doc, but it still sounds kinda fishy to me.

A word of praise to you, for honesty is a disappearing virtue. Don't let this setback get to you.

 

[James Ennever]

Aids, And all other STDs are stds because you HAVE to have sex to get them, un less you are some sort of devine miricale, Then I think you have something else buddy. Exma, or pimples are another possibility, but for the love of god go see a doc if you are worried. If IT drops off then you are screwed(Pun intended)

 

[Raven's Nest]

Aids, And all other STDs are stds because you HAVE to have sex to get them, un less you are some sort of devine miricale, Then I think you have something else buddy. Exma, or pimples are another possibility, but for the love of god go see a doc if you are worried. If IT drops off then you are screwed(Pun intended)

This is heinously incorrect my friend. Any sharing of bodily fluids can lead to the transmission of aids. And many std's can be caught or spread by a severe lack of hygiene, such as using the same wash cloths on affected areas. It is not just sexual acts that can lead to their transmission.

 

[James Ennever]

This is heinously incorrect my friend. Any sharing of bodily fluids can lead to the transmission of aids. And many std's can be caught or spread by a severe lack of hygiene, such as using the same wash cloths on affected areas. It is not just sexual acts that can lead to their transmission.[/quote]

We are talking about genital warts my freinds ,that would require hygene so bad that even if you dry humped a mouldy sandwich the odds of getting it are only real if you have had sex and since I am assumein the OP is a virgin then the odds are in his favor, I still reccomend A profeshional opineon it is just very, very unlikly to be genital warts...

Getting stds from yourself is the sort of thing that christians catholics and all other major reilgeons against and personel sex with one person IE masterbation use to fear monger.........

 

[Raven's Nest]

Yeah

We are talking about genital warts my freinds ,that would require hygene so bad that even if you dry humped a mouldy sandwich the odds of getting it are only real if you have had sex and since I am assumein the OP is a virgin then the odds are in his favor, I still reccomend A profeshional opineon it is just very, very unlikly to be genital warts...

Getting stds from yourself is the sort of thing that christians catholics and all other major reilgeons against and personel sex with one person IE masterbation use to fear monger.........[/quote]

I was referring to your first sentence. I've already discussed the OP's issue.

 

[Avistew]

Obviously you don't get STDs or STIs from yourself, but you can get them from other people without having sex. Many are transmissible in other ways, such as from one's mother if she had it before they were born through blood transfusion, in some cases through saliva (depends on the disease, HIV for instance is way less transmissible than many other diseases).
They're called sexually transmissible because they can be transmitted through sex, not because they have to be.

OP: 1) yes, you did the right thing
2) make sure you know exactly what it is, try to figure out how you got it, and treat it if it's something treatable.

Stay honest but if it's not something serious, make sure to stress that fact. Practice safer sex either way (and yes, that includes oral sex). And good luck.

 

[Matthew Kjonaas]

Plus one positive Karma, yes you did the right thing.

 

[Angie7F]

I kinda want to know what happened after every body replied...