Do you think you're 'Normal'?

[Palademon]

I'm attracted to women. Never doubted it despite most of my life getting on with men better.
I haven't experiemented because I haven't felt the need.
Besides I haven't experimented with a relationship with a woman yet.

Overall I wouldn't call myself a "normal" person. That implies average, which I am not. However my sexuality has little to do with how "normal" I am.

 

[Doclector]

Well, this brings up a rather funny and kinda stupid story.

So, when I was about 17 I started to toy with the idea of being gay. This had nothing at all to do with any kind of feelings for anyone, I just started to look around and noticed that I was practically the only person I knew who had never had any luck with the ladies, and one of the possibilities I came up with as to why was, maybe I simply didn't want it enough, that maybe subconciously, I was intentionally being cr*p at talking to women, because I was actually gay.

I tested it in the only way I knew how. I thought of the most inmistakably attractive male I could think of (Dean from supernatural) and I tried to...do the one hand dance to it, and it was nigh on impossible to even..."get excited", so I dismissed that suspicion.

So yeah, kinda a dumb little misadventure. Still don't know why I suck at talking to women, though.

As for being normal, well, often doubt I'm even human. I mean, if something doesn't look like a normal duck, and doesn't act like a normal duck, the logical conclusion is that it's not a normal duck. I do not look like a normal human should, and I definately don't act like one. So no, I'm not normal at all.

 

[Fieldy409_v1legacy]

I never really doubted my sexuality. I had it figured out pretty well from porn in my teenage years. When you happen across gay porn by accident and are horrified instead of attracted while liking the straight stuff, you know you are straight.

Just because you notice some of the feminine qualities in a really girly looking gay man and feel a little arousal doesnt make you gay. Your just noticing the feminine, I admit I did feel some doubts when looking at a couple of images of very feminine gay men, but then i realised it was just the girly look of them.

 

[Monkeyman O'Brien]

I am incredibly twisted, a sexual deviant and have the potential to stoop to such low acts of base vileness that it sickens me to even think about what I am capable of.

So yes, I am perfectly normal because everyone is massively fucked up.

As for the sexuality thing. I am and always have been 100% straight. I have never lusted after a man and the very idea of even kissing a man makes me feel ill.
And yet I make the most fucked up, sexually harassing jokes about my male friends.
Go figure.

The closest I have come to being gay is wishing I could be gay after dealing with yet another insane, mind fucking chick. Then I always realise that a large number of gay men are actually way worse.

 

[JoesshittyOs]

When I was younger, I didn't really care what the sex of the person was when I first saw naked people. I just liked nakedness.

But yeah, I would barely call that anything. It got quashed out pretty quickly.

Maybe when I reach 40 I'll do the second half gay.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

I really never was attracted too much to girls when I was a kid, nor was I with boys. It was very confusing at times. I have realized as I've grown older that I am not attracted to looks as much as I'm attracted to personality. Which makes much more sense why I wasn't attracted to anyone in high school. Mostly because my peers seem to spend most of their time copying everyone else and they were boring.

 

[ximma]

I thought that I was very unique and cool for a long time. But over time I found out that I'm just an ordinary normal young woman in so many ways, and actually I don't mind that. There is still stuff about me, that's unique, but hey being normal is quite okay

 

[Phasmal]

Never had doubts really.
I wasn't really under pressure to define myself as anything, as I knew my mum wouldn't care if I liked girls or guys.

I did get a lot of crap for being a tomboy, people saying I must be a lesbian because I was more interested in games and climbing trees and playing with swords than the pink eyestrain that are female aimed kid's toys.

But I always had crushes on guys, at school, on telly, so I never really doubted it. When I was 16 I briefly wondered if I was asexual because I couldnt find any real people to be interested in, but that passed too. I consider my development normal, really.

 

[Riku'sTwilight]

The response for this has been amazing. Reading all your comments, about how each of you has your own normality and reading your own experiences has been eye-opening. I'm glad you shared, and I hope that reading others responses has helped you in some small sense.

Feel free to keep on posting though, it is a discussion after all

 

[Smertnik]

Nope, never had any doubts. My image of the ideal partner has indeed changed greatly over the course of years, but not the gender. Been straight since the day I was born (or at the very least since the time I have clear memories of)

Well, I never really doubted my sexually per-say.

It's "per se", by the way.

 

[Torrasque]

I can appear normal, I can blend in but should you get to know me...

I do not consider myself normal. I really don't want to be normal. I want to be me.

^ this.
I make an attempt to be myself and be as un-conforming as possible. I only like things when I come to terms with them, and very rarely give a damn about popular opinion of something. But this is a question about sexuality, so I'll address it at such.

I am decidedly "odd" when it comes to most things, because I will be open to trying most things at least once before deciding that I don't like it. This applies to all food, most movies, books, games, music, and most other things in my life. When it comes to sexuality, I was definitely conditioned to prefer girls, but over the last 4-5 years I occasionally ask myself "what about guys?" but after contemplating it for a minute or two, the answer is always "lol, no".

I think everyone should try everything at least once before deciding they like it or dislike it, but that does not apply to things that may be physically or psychologically harmful. Listening to a new band will not kill you, but trying to be homosexual "just to try it" can potentially be really dangerous to the psyche (depends on you of course).

So to answer your question, am I normal? Lol no. Sexually speaking? Mostly, but not really. I choose girls a while ago, and while I may occasionally play with idea of dudes, it never sticks. Guys just don't have that "thing" that I like about girls.

 

[hazabaza1]

I can't really tell if you're asking if I'm normal or if I'm straight.
I'd say I'm probably both. Never had a girlfriend, but that's due to me being a massive coward and/or not really communicating with that many people overall, but I certainly wouldn't call myself gay.

 

[s0p0g]

I want you to think about this hard, and not just give responses like 'I was born straight/gay/whatever so therefore I grew up and followed it' because sure, that may have been your case, but can you honestly say there has never been a time where you doubted your sexuality, or experimented?

also, i find it strange (as in surprising) that you and your friends had to actually think about it, for some time even - topics like this pop up every now and then, and my answer here is the same as always:

i don't have to think hard about it, because since i can think/remember, i always was into girls/women, never had any doubt, never had any reason to doubt, and the strange feeling like one has after an evening/night/morning with too much alcohol metabolites i have when i see homosexual men kissing or whatever confirmes my conviction that i am as straight as can be.

no, i do not hate trans/bi/homosexuals, i just don't like seeing man on man action; nor do i say to be as straight as a linear accelerator is the bestest way to be

 

[Yopaz]

In most terms of normal I'm not. When it comes to sexuality I am so straight it's not normal.
I have never had any problems finding out if I want girls or not. There was the time when I was young and didn't care, but around 6 or so I opened my eyes for them. Yeah, I'm the definition of boring.

 

[2733]

I will explain my sexuality as soon as I figure it out. you see I definitively like women (sexually) in kind of a vague way, I've never had sex. The problem I run into is that not only do I not really like people, but the few I do like I have no ability to get close to. I just don't know how to deal with people. now this is not to say I haven't had friends but I never really trusted them. Those I've "dated" are just friends to me, the same platonic love but with the added physical desire for sex. Perhaps that is not wrong but I wonder if I will ever understand romance and deep true love, or if I even can.

And I've seriously begun to ramble, but I kinda feel better to type this out.

 

[Suicidejim]

Hmmm I've considered that I was bi before because I do find some men vary attractive.
When I think about getting down and dirty however, I have no desire to receive or give any love.

Yeah, pretty much that. Had a brief phase where I considered guys, but I suspect that was due more to the fact that I was convinced no girls would ever find me attractive. I stopped wondering shortly after I got proved wrong on that score.

 

[OniaPL]

So to conclude - how 'normal' are you? and do you do specific things to appear normal? and also how did you know what gender you like? have you ever had any doubts about your sexuality?

I would say that I am not normal, when you consider normal to be average. My sexuality is straight though, so I guess that's "normal".
I appear pretty abnormal, or so I would guess. People say that my usual look is that of a murderer. Although that's just how I am, I guess, since I don't try to look that way.
How did I know? I felt a stiffy in my pants when I saw bewbs. I did not feel a stiffy when I saw a dick. Simple, I guess.
I haven't had any actual doubts.

 

[Racecarlock]

Normal is a buzzword invented by high school cliques and family sitcoms in order to ostracize and estrange anyone who isn't similar to them or one of those sitcom families that were bred in laboratories to be perfect sitcom families.

I'd rather be strange, because then I stand out. Of course, I am straight. But seriously, it's 2012. Anyone who still can't accept that gays exist is a relic that has outgrown it's usefulness to society, and is therefore trying to leave it's stink on the next generation.