Does dating get better in college?

[renegade7]

Ok so all through high school I have never had a relationship. It's not that I can't, it's that the girls I have met just simply do not interest me. It's like, 99% of them are dumb cheerleader types buried under half an inch of makeup who I just can't find myself interested in. And the remaining 1% are either already with someone or uninterested (I don't really blame them for that. That's just life.) I have tried expanding my horizons a little and being a bit less picky and I have dated some people, but it never went anywhere because I just could not stay interested in someone who I had maybe 2 or 3 things to actually talk about with and little in common except for a mutual desire to make out in the back of a car. I'm not necessarily complaining about that last bit, but I kind of want more than an empty physical relationship. I mean I only want to be with someone I like and respect as a person.

So basically, does it get better after high school? Like if I'm going to a smaller, somewhat exclusive college there will be more people there that are more mature, more intelligent, and maybe have more in common with me than in high school?

 

[Jedoro]

It gets a bit better, because at least not everyone's from the same area. Colleges have people from all over the state or country, so it's a lot more variety. People's brains have developed a bit more and most everyone's realized high school drama is just that: high school drama.

 

[keiskay]

not really, the girls who were mature in high school will be mature in college and vice versa. it does differ a bit between the majors you are going into, like longer majors (medicine, science, law etc.) will generally have much more mature and realistic people. i would suggest joining a club in college though.

 

[realist1990]

if by "better" you mean have lower standards, are easier to get in the sack, and are generally nicer then yes

 

[requisitename]

Not automatically, but it can.

For one, even relatively small college campuses are usually much larger than high school campuses, so there are more people you might have more things in common with. If by "exclusive" you mean "academically exclusive" then chances are pretty good there will be smart cookies there. So, yes, on that count.

What has worked for me is a "no BS drama" requirement. I refuse to be friends with or get involved with people who thrive on drama and if I accidentally do, I excuse myself pretty quickly. It makes my life much easier.

Finally, there's NOTHING wrong with having high standards. I actually find it important to do so. If you know what you're looking for, you'll know when you find it. While it's okay to compromise on small things ("Okay, so she's not a part of incredibly obscure fandom, I can deal with that."), the really important things ("Hmm. She actively advocates murder of incredibly obscure fandom? Maybe not such a good idea..") you should never compromise on because it will doom your relationship. Know what your dealbreakers are and stick to them.

Good luck!

 

[Angie7F]

i agree. better in terms of quality? maybe not.
Easier to get laid? Yes.

College alone doesnt make dating any better, but if you get a part time job, join groups of people with similar interests etc, then you may have a better chance.

 

[bluepilot]

Not really

I never dated much and also the people around me did not date so much. Some people meet someone special and go on to marry and stuff but it just seems like there was many more things to do besides dating.

You might meet someone special or you might be having too much fun to care. There us no need to rush these things. Dating will come in its own time when you are ready.

 

[Batou667]

In my experience: nope.jpg

College isn't like what the movies would have you believe, i.e., never-ending frat parties with an ample supply of single girls ready to fall (face-first) into your lap. Depending on what kind of college you go to it could actually be a complete sausage-fest where the few available women get snapped up in short order (for example if you're doing science or engineering). And - surprise surprise! - a good percentage of girls in college are already in relationships. They don't exacty constitute low-hanging fruit.

Maybe I was just "doing it wrong" but my success rate with women improved drastically after I left college. Partly that was due to hanging around with some very toxic "friends" who did their best to ensure that if they were single then I was going to stay single too (misery loves company), and also the Real World has the benefits of having girls that are outside of your age range, academic discipline and socioeconomic group.

In general: if you were dating and getting laid before college, there's no reason that should stop being the case. Ditto if you were shy and celibate before college. The important thing is to never limit yourself.

captcha: "oh brother". Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[Chasing-The-Light]

It depends on what college you go to, really. I'd personally, from my dating experience in college say that it gets better. But it's all about what you do to help yourself and where you're looking. Girls in college are still going to be like they were in high school, for the most part. The difference is, is that it's not like in high school where it's forced association and you're forced to be around them. If you don't want chicks like that, don't look there.

Your best bet is to look in the places where you'd like girls of that type. For example, if you want a gamer girl, I'd say your first bet to look would be some kind of games club or anything of the sort.

 

[subtlefuge]

As far as 'dating' goes, yes it gets infinitely more mature and better.

If you are having a problem with finding the right person, you need to broaden your social horizons to outside of people in the same classes as you.

 

[Lock-Os]

Well, from personal experience, I'd have to say no. If they are the type of girl you could stand, chances are they are in love with their work, have work study, and on break live far from your home. So a boyfriend is low or non-existent as far as needs go.

I will say though that living on campus is a huge benefit to integrating into the social scene.