The best thing you can do when you hear people talking about it, is to just try and understand why they're talking about it. Maybe they're genuinely caring human beings, they're deeply concerned, and they want to talk about it in order to somehow try and make some sort of difference, or at the least cause others to think in a different way about the issue. If this is true, can you really hate someone so deeply concerned with others?
Maybe, and admittedly this is more likely, they're using the disaster for various selfish reasons. They want people to think that they are caring people. Hell, maybe they even just want any sort of attention because they're so starved for love that they'll take any attention over what they're getting now. Maybe they're even just bored and a little tasteless, or genuinely ignorant enough that the gravity of the situation hasn't really sunk in to them. These possibilities aren't really hatable are they? They are far from perfect, but which of us does not have our flaws? Maybe they're pitiable, but can you not see any chain of events which might have lead you to sit in their spot?
It's understandable to get aggravated with these posts, maybe because the people who make them often say more about themselves than they realize with the fact that they have chosen to make the posts in the first place. There are some ways in which, perhaps, they do take some of the feeling of gravity from the event, even if just for a second or two until one remembers. But, I guess what I would say is that they don't really do a lot of damage, and might occasionally even help, even if it wasn't necessarily their end goal to help. If you can see into their shoes, can you really find them as annoying anymore?
You're not a bad person, you're human, and if you may be a little rude in telling people to shut up, you're certainly not a horrible person. You feel guilty, which shows that you've got a conscience, as does the fact that you even bothered to wonder if what you did was wrong. I would suggest that you just try to see into the shoes of the people who annoy you. Maybe it won't work, but maybe it'll help you understand instead of feeling annoyed, or even just distract you from your annoyance long enough that it won't bother you as much. Life is all about perspective, and if you can learn to expand and change yours as life demands, you'll find that people become a lot easier to deal with.
