by chance does "cheer up" mean something completely different where you live?Nouw said:
I know somebody's going to hate me for this but listen to this song
I just find it impossible to not smile when I listen to that.
Don't hate me for this, but...I need a cheer-up thread.
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I know somebody's going to hate me for this but listen to this song
I just find it impossible to not smile when I listen to that.
Well, I can at least commend you for reaching out for help. I would never wish depression upon anybody, and it's always much worse if you try to take it on alone.
First, I'll say that I'm genuinely sorry that you're in this situation, and that your wife left you. I do care, even if I don't know you.
Now, if I were there I'd hug you. Since I'm not, I'll give you one of these: *hug*
You just need to take control of your outlook. Focus on the good things in life. No matter how sparse you might think they are, or how small they might be, there are things that make you happy. It might be a website, or it might be a person, an animal, making breakfast, etc. Learn to focus on those things, instead of glazing over them.
Another thing I find always makes me feel good, is going out of your way to help others. Try it, whether you're just holding the door open for people or going out to do volunteer work. It'll make you feel good.
Since I don't know you this could be taken as either welcome or insulting, but if you need an ear to listen to you without judging or anything, you can send me a message. I won't mind, and I'll try to be as helpful as I can. I'd feel bad if I didn't offer it, I want people to be happy and I definitely don't want you taking your own life or anything drastic like that.
First, I'll say that I'm genuinely sorry that you're in this situation, and that your wife left you. I do care, even if I don't know you.
Now, if I were there I'd hug you. Since I'm not, I'll give you one of these: *hug*
You just need to take control of your outlook. Focus on the good things in life. No matter how sparse you might think they are, or how small they might be, there are things that make you happy. It might be a website, or it might be a person, an animal, making breakfast, etc. Learn to focus on those things, instead of glazing over them.
Another thing I find always makes me feel good, is going out of your way to help others. Try it, whether you're just holding the door open for people or going out to do volunteer work. It'll make you feel good.
Since I don't know you this could be taken as either welcome or insulting, but if you need an ear to listen to you without judging or anything, you can send me a message. I won't mind, and I'll try to be as helpful as I can. I'd feel bad if I didn't offer it, I want people to be happy and I definitely don't want you taking your own life or anything drastic like that.
I know life seems like nothing but despair at the moment, but you will get past this, I promise. Everything will be alright again, you just have to keep your chin up until then.
I hope this helps! It has always made me smile when I feel down and it always gets my friends to smile when they feel down.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DGPYSE4nXUM
I hope this helps! It has always made me smile when I feel down and it always gets my friends to smile when they feel down.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DGPYSE4nXUM
I gotta hand it to you Simulord, that right there is a shit sandwich no matter how you chew it and I pray that the road gets brighter.
To be perfectly honest, I kind of look forward to each of your posts. No hogwash, I think of you as being like a riddle wrapped in an enigma wrapped in a mystery, the personality you display in your post still has me scratching my head as to who the man is behind the avatar. A devoutly Pagan, budding father, hardcore pc gamer with magnificent facial hair and a...firm, stance on the state of culture since the 19th century, you really do keep me on my toes. I've often considered messaging you or just friending you for all that, I"m seriously not joking here.
Anywho a wise man once said nothing is set in stone so let that say what it will, I'm a Godawful advice giver so this post is bound to come up short. But just remember no matter how bad you have it there's one particular person that got a much crappier deal in life:
I hope it brought a smile to your face, mate.
To be perfectly honest, I kind of look forward to each of your posts. No hogwash, I think of you as being like a riddle wrapped in an enigma wrapped in a mystery, the personality you display in your post still has me scratching my head as to who the man is behind the avatar. A devoutly Pagan, budding father, hardcore pc gamer with magnificent facial hair and a...firm, stance on the state of culture since the 19th century, you really do keep me on my toes. I've often considered messaging you or just friending you for all that, I"m seriously not joking here.
Anywho a wise man once said nothing is set in stone so let that say what it will, I'm a Godawful advice giver so this post is bound to come up short. But just remember no matter how bad you have it there's one particular person that got a much crappier deal in life:
I hope it brought a smile to your face, mate.
Keep on fighting. I know you are probably sick of songs by now, and I don't even know if you'll like this music but they might help you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c98gIxCe1zo
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIzwyO3c8AI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qy3WKWIhDYk
Remember make it through this, You'll only be a greater man. Personal battles like this are good for building strength. I wish you luck in the coming days, you will make it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c98gIxCe1zo
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIzwyO3c8AI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qy3WKWIhDYk
Remember make it through this, You'll only be a greater man. Personal battles like this are good for building strength. I wish you luck in the coming days, you will make it.
I'd take some time off from business class. If there's one thing you need now, it's room to breath and time to get a hold of yourself.
But you'd seriously best talk about this to a relative or a friend.
But you'd seriously best talk about this to a relative or a friend.
If you really are suffering from PTSD, you need to get that sorted asap. See a specialist, get yourself properly diagnosed and medicated, THEN work on the rest of your life.
I loved that forth one. Where is it from?Swollen Goat said:Sim! You have the love of a bloated farm animal, if that helps.
No?
Well...
*remember, funny is in the eye of the beholder
And now you either are happier, or consider me to be on crack. If you are happier, I have more...
In quite a few ways, your life atm echoes a portion of mine.
At uni, I was doing the course I wanted to do, but I completely lost enthusiasm in it. Half the modules sucked, because they weren't in things I gave a rat's about.
I did some groupwork - probably disappointed the group a bit, but they also became part of the problem, blaming me for not doing something that they didn't actually ask me to do (apparently one of them changed their MSN status to "meeting at suchandsuch time" but I didn't sign on much, so their status never updated. I was quite pissed about that, as they should've mailed me or IMed me when I was on).
At one point, I did consider dropping out, but in the end I went to see a councillor - basically I just didn't really get to socialise much, and that got me down most of all over everything. I also found out something about myself, which has helped me. I'm in the UK, so I get certain things for free, but one thing I did once was ring up a helpline, and they had drop-in centres too. I don't know what there is in the US, but that might offer someone to talk to, who isn't a therapist, but will still listen and may even help lol.
For the next few years, I am very unlikely to be seeking further education, and I'll probably never enter fulltime education again, unless I really have to. I just got so burned out by the end of it, it sucked. I feel much better working - so don't give up hope yet lol.
If you're really not going to enjoy the career you're thinking of heading into, you may want to discuss with your lecturers if you can transfer your course, or give yourself some modules in something else to help open doors for you. No idea how far you are thru your course tho. If you're near the end, stick it out, and at least you'll have something to show. Employers like degrees lol. In my field, if you don't have a degree you're not going to get a good job, if you can find one.
You have at least a bit of a forum following by the looks of it
. Never had much of a following ever lol. It's sad to hear about ur relationship breaking down tho I tend to lack RL friends thanks to being kinda weird lol ^^.
At uni, I was doing the course I wanted to do, but I completely lost enthusiasm in it. Half the modules sucked, because they weren't in things I gave a rat's about.
I did some groupwork - probably disappointed the group a bit, but they also became part of the problem, blaming me for not doing something that they didn't actually ask me to do (apparently one of them changed their MSN status to "meeting at suchandsuch time" but I didn't sign on much, so their status never updated. I was quite pissed about that, as they should've mailed me or IMed me when I was on).
At one point, I did consider dropping out, but in the end I went to see a councillor - basically I just didn't really get to socialise much, and that got me down most of all over everything. I also found out something about myself, which has helped me. I'm in the UK, so I get certain things for free, but one thing I did once was ring up a helpline, and they had drop-in centres too. I don't know what there is in the US, but that might offer someone to talk to, who isn't a therapist, but will still listen and may even help lol.
For the next few years, I am very unlikely to be seeking further education, and I'll probably never enter fulltime education again, unless I really have to. I just got so burned out by the end of it, it sucked. I feel much better working - so don't give up hope yet lol.
If you're really not going to enjoy the career you're thinking of heading into, you may want to discuss with your lecturers if you can transfer your course, or give yourself some modules in something else to help open doors for you. No idea how far you are thru your course tho. If you're near the end, stick it out, and at least you'll have something to show. Employers like degrees lol. In my field, if you don't have a degree you're not going to get a good job, if you can find one.
You have at least a bit of a forum following by the looks of it
. Never had much of a following ever lol. It's sad to hear about ur relationship breaking down tho I tend to lack RL friends thanks to being kinda weird lol ^^.
Hey Sim, I know I've already mentioned this, but you seem like a great guy. You've really shown through your words that you have a yearning to improve yourself. How exactly you can pull yourself out of this is...well, a little out of my league for me to know. I'm personally going through a downward spiral of horrible depression right now. I can no longer focus on my work as well in College (last semester here), and I get constant headaches all the time. The pain that I feel is at times...unbearable. I actually have an exam that I have not studied for at all today, in 3 hours. Everytime I open the book, I see the words, but I can't even grasp the concepts anymore.
Essentially, my life has been torn down to nothingness and I'm hurting all the time. Know that you are not alone. Nobody I've spoken to has been able to help me, and my family has gotten to the point of practically getting mad at me for being in this state of mind. If I could get out of this, I would. They don't understand. To be completely honest, I don't understand why I still feel the way I do.
If you want to talk some more though Sim, I'm here for ya. We can share our problems! haha
Essentially, my life has been torn down to nothingness and I'm hurting all the time. Know that you are not alone. Nobody I've spoken to has been able to help me, and my family has gotten to the point of practically getting mad at me for being in this state of mind. If I could get out of this, I would. They don't understand. To be completely honest, I don't understand why I still feel the way I do.
If you want to talk some more though Sim, I'm here for ya. We can share our problems! haha
Sounds a lot like my life except I am a bit younger - Not a student, but a home owner and my wife ran off/cheated on me 3 years ago.SimuLord said:
I lost my job 4 months ago and cause I am a native white 25 year old hetro male I can't get much help or seemingly a job - All my savings have ran dry, the banks still racking up the charges to my overdrafts and it's either eat or pay the mortgage =/
The results are that I am no longer my happy energetic self but a hate filled hermit that can't escape his ever tightening shackles...
So yeah I feel your pain mate - And I hope shit gets better for you.
Also on a side note I have yet to find something that makes me happy in a long while...Even doing things that I enjoy I find depress me more when I realise it will end and I will have to go back to reality...
*edit*
We should start a club.
I just wanted to say...
Thanks. To everyone. I'm still depressed, but the crushing, "like it would even matter whether I lived or died" despair, the worst of it, would seem to have passed.
I'm going to go make an appointment with academic advising and see if I can change majors without moving my graduation date out from 2012 to sometime after the next Ice Age. If I can't, I'll finish my business degree (hey, can't hurt to have marketable job skills, right?) and get a job that's probably a little below what my education would allow but will leave me plenty of time for my creativity.
I know I need to be true to myself, but sometimes it takes 50 people telling me before I "get it". So again...thanks. I love you all.
Thanks. To everyone. I'm still depressed, but the crushing, "like it would even matter whether I lived or died" despair, the worst of it, would seem to have passed.
I'm going to go make an appointment with academic advising and see if I can change majors without moving my graduation date out from 2012 to sometime after the next Ice Age. If I can't, I'll finish my business degree (hey, can't hurt to have marketable job skills, right?) and get a job that's probably a little below what my education would allow but will leave me plenty of time for my creativity.
I know I need to be true to myself, but sometimes it takes 50 people telling me before I "get it". So again...thanks. I love you all.
That was at once both extremely cute and just the tiniest bit frightening. It looked like a monster from some game in small scale.Skorpyo said:
OT: SimuLord, we both know everyone here loves you to bits. I can't help much, but I can make a monocle face:
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EDIT: sorry for the double post. I posted the first one and five minutes later it still wasn't there so I posted again.
I know this is going to sound freaking stupid, but I'm actually serious:
Stop feeling sad, and start feeling awesome.
It DOES actually work.
Instead of being sad, think about how awesome you are, raise your head and walk with dignity!
Think about how many people from all around the world who thinks you're neat
It might be hard, but try to greet the world with a smile... and the world will cheer you up!
As to the 13 year old emo thingy... Everyone has problems, and the internet is an awesome way to let out your frustration and get help! So please dont be afraid of coming across like a little emo-kid, and know that The Escapists are here to cheer you up no matter how much of a ***** life is.
Stop feeling sad, and start feeling awesome.
It DOES actually work.
Instead of being sad, think about how awesome you are, raise your head and walk with dignity!
Think about how many people from all around the world who thinks you're neat
It might be hard, but try to greet the world with a smile... and the world will cheer you up!
As to the 13 year old emo thingy... Everyone has problems, and the internet is an awesome way to let out your frustration and get help! So please dont be afraid of coming across like a little emo-kid, and know that The Escapists are here to cheer you up no matter how much of a ***** life is.