McCa said:
Bourne said:
McCa said:
When you spend years of you life dedicated for someone for them to turn around and get bored of you. Then until this very day you still love the it's two months on and you haven't started to be over them. When they were over you in a matter of days then tell you to "get over it" over and over. And despite saying they want to be close treat you like shit like that did for the whole relationship.
Yeah I hate that.
Reading this I form the assumption any ex girlfriends I mass will have a deep loathing because while I shall not "treat them like shit", I recover from a loss of a relationship be it friendship, love or what have you in an hour at the absolute most; frequently less than ten minutes. I do not possess long standing attachments, life is such a hassle otherwise.
On topic, I, in passing mentioned I was assisting a friend with relationship advice given his difficult at the time. My cousin decided because I had not ever been in a relationship myself this was absolutely ridiculous and I held no knowledge upon the subject. He could not grasp the notion one can learn through research and observation. He would ridicule me briefly until ever so ironic, he himself had difficulty with his own relationship and guess who he had to inquire to for help?
He was not at all pleased of my gloating, especially since I was correct.
Then you sir have no notion of love.
Perhaps, I cannot entirely refute such given I love less than a handful of people. Nonetheless I hold preference in attributing this as a variation of logical feelings. Using a break up for an example, the relationship has come to a conclusion, this is unlikely to amend, and thus I immediately seek a positive. Such would be to move on; wallowing in the past only impedes future progress.
I do not intend to come across callous, and admit wholeheartedly it is a depressing time however it is in the past; dwelling, crying, neither can nor will alter the past thus it is futile. I am grateful to the individual for the memories and experiences however now I shall await new experiences and establish new memories.
Charley said:
Bourne said:
He could not grasp the notion one can learn through research and observation.
Sorry, but I just read this and I really have to step in here. In that context, my friend, you couldn't be more impossibly wrong.
You could tell me that the Pope is a dolphin, and that my hat was on fire, and you'd still be more correct than that statement.
I wonder, since that event have you been in a relationship?
I am intrigued to know how I can be "impossibly wrong." Such may amass to a misunderstanding, for I do not insinuate
all could be learned through research and observation and my assumptions lead me to believe such was your interpretation of my post. Undeniably there exists aspects which cannot be taught by any other means excluding personal experience however, numerous portion; arguably significantly more, can be acquired in the aforementioned manner. Example, if a friend has a destructive relationship, one you are well informed upon; are you liable to reenact their failures? I would certainly hope not and that is one of many instances of prior knowledge.
No, I have not, albeit entirely by choice. Upon this juncture I do not possess much of an interest in dating. My focus is upon my career and future success; additionally I have moved quite frequently and shall continue to do so in the immediate future. My success is immensely more important than a relationship, of course such works for me and opinions differ.
Nevertheless... it matters not as to my statement because I foresee any reply not indicating "yes" will be thought as I am a loser unable to "score" for lack of a better word. Unfortunately it is usually - and I stress usually, so as not to generalize - believed impossible to have no desire in sex in today's society... so believe whatever it is you choose.
