early relationships? your stories?

[AkumaFighter]

as the question states do you guys or girls have any relationship stories from early on that you think are mentionable? feel free to write as long as you want XD il start. first year of high school my next door neighbor and friend for grade school "Anthony" sat beside me in math class.and in front of us was this really cute shy, glasses wearing, long haired brunette. and eventually we started talking to her. one Saturday morning the guy calls me up asking if i wanted to go to the movies with him, the girl "Isabelle" and her friend so i agree we go... awful movie btw (one missed call) XD and after that her dad picks the two of them up and while waiting for our bus Anthony asks me if i like her, i reluctantly say ya, and hes like "dont worry you can have this one" we go home and apparently the next day he goes to the mall with her and asks her out... then shortly after he asks her asks if she likes me, because then he mentions that i liked her and goes on about how much better of a guy he is, so she agrees to go out with him. Anthony told the teacher i was a distraction and moved me away from them to the back of the class, and ignored me...even though we were neighbors. after 4 months of an apparently awful relationship they break up. me being friends with her brothers (shes a triplet) i saw her around and remained just a friend to her, after about grade 11 going to grade 12 we started hanging out again and me being the shy person didn't really make the first move so on a 13th of December we were walking in between our houses and she asked "so why haven't you asked me out yet" *and btw she knew i liked her still since grade 9* so i asked her out and we've been together for a year yesterday^^ you guys have any stories happy sad?... the middle?

 

[Lilani]

That's an impressive wall of ill-punctuated text you have there.

 

[InnerRebellion]

First girlfriend: I was the social outcast, wearing all black, with the long straight hair, writing poetry in the back of the classroom. She took my poetry book from my desk one day and read a love poem I had wrote, and loved it. Soon, she would constantly ask for my writing, and eventually, my friend had me write him a poem he used to get a girl. Towards the summer, (of 2009)the girl who had shown interest in my poetry said that if she wasn't in a relationship, she'd take me for herself. Days later, she's single and begins flirting with me. We started dating, and I became the happiest man in the world. She dumped me so she could protect a friend, and we then got together again later, to become a couple for about a year, with short break ups at irregular intervals. We didn't kiss until May 13th of 2010, and it was in a light rain, making her small face glow. We kissed again two months later, and then, she dumped me for her original boyfriend, and I haven't seen her since.

Third girlfriend: She went from being my best friend in the world, to my everything. I devoted my entire summer to her. Everyone thought we were a couple who had been matched before we were born. We got along perfectly; her family loved me, and mine loved her. Every week I saw her, and we held hands every chance we got. We'd go to movies with friends, but only pay attention to each other. For our 1 month anniversary, I took her to a movie (friends tagged along, we didn't even notice), and we both had our first truly intimate kisses. Then, school came along, and she suddenly called it quits, tried again two months later, but quit after day 2. I've been in love with her since the moment we met in the middle of the night outside my house, and saw a meteor shower, but she doesn't know I still love her.

(Second girlfriend was almost like a friends with benefits kinda thing)

 

[Lem0nade Inlay]

Yes, my first.

I was 13, oh God, she and I had no idea what we were doing. Went out for 3 months, I was bored and I didn't really like her. So I broke up with her, for the reasons that A. I didn't like her and B. My friend obviously did. She was pissed off, but then went out with my friend, which didn't affect our friendship at all, luckily.


It's just so embarrassing now looking on it...and that brake up. Oh man, that was so awkward.

 

[AkumaFighter]

First girlfriend: I was the social outcast, wearing all black, with the long straight hair, writing poetry in the back of the classroom. She took my poetry book from my desk one day and read a love poem I had wrote, and loved it. Soon, she would constantly ask for my writing, and eventually, my friend had me write him a poem he used to get a girl. Towards the summer, (of 2009)the girl who had shown interest in my poetry said that if she wasn't in a relationship, she'd take me for herself. Days later, she's single and begins flirting with me. We started dating, and I became the happiest man in the world. She dumped me so she could protect a friend, and we then got together again later, to become a couple for about a year, with short break ups at irregular intervals. We didn't kiss until May 13th of 2010, and it was in a light rain, making her small face glow. We kissed again two months later, and then, she dumped me for her original boyfriend, and I haven't seen her since.

Third girlfriend: She went from being my best friend in the world, to my everything. I devoted my entire summer to her. Everyone thought we were a couple who had been matched before we were born. We got along perfectly; her family loved me, and mine loved her. Every week I saw her, and we held hands every chance we got. We'd go to movies with friends, but only pay attention to each other. For our 1 month anniversary, I took her to a movie (friends tagged along, we didn't even notice), and we both had our first truly intimate kisses. Then, school came along, and she suddenly called it quits, tried again two months later, but quit after day 2. I've been in love with her since the moment we met in the middle of the night outside my house, and saw a meteor shower, but she doesn't know I still love her.

(Second girlfriend was almost like a friends with benefits kinda thing)

i never understood going back to a previous boyfriend/girlfriend... if they broke up with you once then the idea is still there that they can just as easily do it again... and as for the third did you ever really know why she broke it off before school? and so abruptly?

 

[InnerRebellion]

First girlfriend: I was the social outcast, wearing all black, with the long straight hair, writing poetry in the back of the classroom. She took my poetry book from my desk one day and read a love poem I had wrote, and loved it. Soon, she would constantly ask for my writing, and eventually, my friend had me write him a poem he used to get a girl. Towards the summer, (of 2009)the girl who had shown interest in my poetry said that if she wasn't in a relationship, she'd take me for herself. Days later, she's single and begins flirting with me. We started dating, and I became the happiest man in the world. She dumped me so she could protect a friend, and we then got together again later, to become a couple for about a year, with short break ups at irregular intervals. We didn't kiss until May 13th of 2010, and it was in a light rain, making her small face glow. We kissed again two months later, and then, she dumped me for her original boyfriend, and I haven't seen her since.

Third girlfriend: She went from being my best friend in the world, to my everything. I devoted my entire summer to her. Everyone thought we were a couple who had been matched before we were born. We got along perfectly; her family loved me, and mine loved her. Every week I saw her, and we held hands every chance we got. We'd go to movies with friends, but only pay attention to each other. For our 1 month anniversary, I took her to a movie (friends tagged along, we didn't even notice), and we both had our first truly intimate kisses. Then, school came along, and she suddenly called it quits, tried again two months later, but quit after day 2. I've been in love with her since the moment we met in the middle of the night outside my house, and saw a meteor shower, but she doesn't know I still love her.

(Second girlfriend was almost like a friends with benefits kinda thing)

i never understood going back to a previous boyfriend/girlfriend... if they broke up with you once then the idea is still there that they can just as easily do it again... and as for the third did you ever really know why she broke it off before school? and so abruptly?

Her own insecurity. She comes from a very poor and unfortunate family, stricken by divorce, mental disabilities and severe diseases, and is very hard on herself. She said that she felt awkward and nervous around me, as if she couldn't please me or something of the sort. Also, when "popular" girls took up to flirting with me because they found out I'm a writer, I believe she may have gotten extremely insecure about herself. Now we're best friends, but I still harbor my feelings for her (unbeknown to her).

 

[AkumaFighter]

First girlfriend: I was the social outcast, wearing all black, with the long straight hair, writing poetry in the back of the classroom. She took my poetry book from my desk one day and read a love poem I had wrote, and loved it. Soon, she would constantly ask for my writing, and eventually, my friend had me write him a poem he used to get a girl. Towards the summer, (of 2009)the girl who had shown interest in my poetry said that if she wasn't in a relationship, she'd take me for herself. Days later, she's single and begins flirting with me. We started dating, and I became the happiest man in the world. She dumped me so she could protect a friend, and we then got together again later, to become a couple for about a year, with short break ups at irregular intervals. We didn't kiss until May 13th of 2010, and it was in a light rain, making her small face glow. We kissed again two months later, and then, she dumped me for her original boyfriend, and I haven't seen her since.

Third girlfriend: She went from being my best friend in the world, to my everything. I devoted my entire summer to her. Everyone thought we were a couple who had been matched before we were born. We got along perfectly; her family loved me, and mine loved her. Every week I saw her, and we held hands every chance we got. We'd go to movies with friends, but only pay attention to each other. For our 1 month anniversary, I took her to a movie (friends tagged along, we didn't even notice), and we both had our first truly intimate kisses. Then, school came along, and she suddenly called it quits, tried again two months later, but quit after day 2. I've been in love with her since the moment we met in the middle of the night outside my house, and saw a meteor shower, but she doesn't know I still love her.

(Second girlfriend was almost like a friends with benefits kinda thing)

i never understood going back to a previous boyfriend/girlfriend... if they broke up with you once then the idea is still there that they can just as easily do it again... and as for the third did you ever really know why she broke it off before school? and so abruptly?

Her own insecurity. She comes from a very poor and unfortunate family, stricken by divorce, mental disabilities and severe diseases, and is very hard on herself. She said that she felt awkward and nervous around me, as if she couldn't please me or something of the sort. Also, when "popular" girls took up to flirting with me because they found out I'm a writer, I believe she may have gotten extremely insecure about herself. Now we're best friends, but I still harbor my feelings for her (unbeknown to her).

in my school ins very closed if you dont know someone no one will talk to you and vise-versa so we dont have too many accounts of people flirting with other people so much. saying that after i realized that the guy anthony asked her out i got depressed etc... basically ditched all friends for grade school because of their connection to the guy. and started hanging out with basically saying the asian group of the school, which wasnt so bad since they taught me break dancing last year. but it was a tight group of people listening to aweful k-pop gambling at "big 2" (a game similar to presidant)and basically even the early years of our realationship isabelle was and still is pretty shy and protective/insuccure mainly because she had alot of failed relationships. the first thing she told me after i "asked her out" (heavy on the quotations) basically saying she never had much to talk about and i would probubly regret this. what is a lie because i like getting to know the person im going out with and making sure what i feel for the other is not superficial so i already knew she wasnt boring. her reason for saying that however was because all of her other relationships the assholes of guys she dated always talked about themselves and in soime cases how bad their lives were. what goes without saying is the opposite now. but tieing this back i know alot about insuccurity,and the need to feel wated by someone but what always confused me is that they already lost the first boyfriend/girlfriend. whats changed, how can u get that feeling of being wanted with someone who's hurt you, or you hurt them?

 

[InnerRebellion]

First girlfriend: I was the social outcast, wearing all black, with the long straight hair, writing poetry in the back of the classroom. She took my poetry book from my desk one day and read a love poem I had wrote, and loved it. Soon, she would constantly ask for my writing, and eventually, my friend had me write him a poem he used to get a girl. Towards the summer, (of 2009)the girl who had shown interest in my poetry said that if she wasn't in a relationship, she'd take me for herself. Days later, she's single and begins flirting with me. We started dating, and I became the happiest man in the world. She dumped me so she could protect a friend, and we then got together again later, to become a couple for about a year, with short break ups at irregular intervals. We didn't kiss until May 13th of 2010, and it was in a light rain, making her small face glow. We kissed again two months later, and then, she dumped me for her original boyfriend, and I haven't seen her since.

Third girlfriend: She went from being my best friend in the world, to my everything. I devoted my entire summer to her. Everyone thought we were a couple who had been matched before we were born. We got along perfectly; her family loved me, and mine loved her. Every week I saw her, and we held hands every chance we got. We'd go to movies with friends, but only pay attention to each other. For our 1 month anniversary, I took her to a movie (friends tagged along, we didn't even notice), and we both had our first truly intimate kisses. Then, school came along, and she suddenly called it quits, tried again two months later, but quit after day 2. I've been in love with her since the moment we met in the middle of the night outside my house, and saw a meteor shower, but she doesn't know I still love her.

(Second girlfriend was almost like a friends with benefits kinda thing)

i never understood going back to a previous boyfriend/girlfriend... if they broke up with you once then the idea is still there that they can just as easily do it again... and as for the third did you ever really know why she broke it off before school? and so abruptly?

Her own insecurity. She comes from a very poor and unfortunate family, stricken by divorce, mental disabilities and severe diseases, and is very hard on herself. She said that she felt awkward and nervous around me, as if she couldn't please me or something of the sort. Also, when "popular" girls took up to flirting with me because they found out I'm a writer, I believe she may have gotten extremely insecure about herself. Now we're best friends, but I still harbor my feelings for her (unbeknown to her).

in my school ins very closed if you dont know someone no one will talk to you and vise-versa so we dont have too many accounts of people flirting with other people so much. saying that after i realized that the guy anthony asked her out i got depressed etc... basically ditched all friends for grade school because of their connection to the guy. and started hanging out with basically saying the asian group of the school, which wasnt so bad since they taught me break dancing last year. but it was a tight group of people listening to aweful k-pop gambling at "big 2" (a game similar to presidant)and basically even the early years of our realationship isabelle was and still is pretty shy and protective/insuccure mainly because she had alot of failed relationships. the first thing she told me after i "asked her out" (heavy on the quotations) basically saying she never had much to talk about and i would probubly regret this. what is a lie because i like getting to know the person im going out with and making sure what i feel for the other is not superficial so i already knew she wasnt boring. her reason for saying that however was because all of her other relationships the assholes of guys she dated always talked about themselves and in soime cases how bad their lives were. what goes without saying is the opposite now. but tieing this back i know alot about insuccurity,and the need to feel wated by someone but what always confused me is that they already lost the first boyfriend/girlfriend. whats changed, how can u get that feeling of being wanted with someone who's hurt you, or you hurt them?

Well, I often ended up back with someone who broke up with me because I was honestly convinced I loved her, and that she still had feelings for me, and that maybe if I gave her another chance, our feelings could be fully restored. I'm a hopeless romantic, I've been told. I think it's all based on whether you prefer new fresh relationships, or something familiar to you.

 

[AkumaFighter]

First girlfriend: I was the social outcast, wearing all black, with the long straight hair, writing poetry in the back of the classroom. She took my poetry book from my desk one day and read a love poem I had wrote, and loved it. Soon, she would constantly ask for my writing, and eventually, my friend had me write him a poem he used to get a girl. Towards the summer, (of 2009)the girl who had shown interest in my poetry said that if she wasn't in a relationship, she'd take me for herself. Days later, she's single and begins flirting with me. We started dating, and I became the happiest man in the world. She dumped me so she could protect a friend, and we then got together again later, to become a couple for about a year, with short break ups at irregular intervals. We didn't kiss until May 13th of 2010, and it was in a light rain, making her small face glow. We kissed again two months later, and then, she dumped me for her original boyfriend, and I haven't seen her since.

Third girlfriend: She went from being my best friend in the world, to my everything. I devoted my entire summer to her. Everyone thought we were a couple who had been matched before we were born. We got along perfectly; her family loved me, and mine loved her. Every week I saw her, and we held hands every chance we got. We'd go to movies with friends, but only pay attention to each other. For our 1 month anniversary, I took her to a movie (friends tagged along, we didn't even notice), and we both had our first truly intimate kisses. Then, school came along, and she suddenly called it quits, tried again two months later, but quit after day 2. I've been in love with her since the moment we met in the middle of the night outside my house, and saw a meteor shower, but she doesn't know I still love her.

(Second girlfriend was almost like a friends with benefits kinda thing)

i never understood going back to a previous boyfriend/girlfriend... if they broke up with you once then the idea is still there that they can just as easily do it again... and as for the third did you ever really know why she broke it off before school? and so abruptly?

Her own insecurity. She comes from a very poor and unfortunate family, stricken by divorce, mental disabilities and severe diseases, and is very hard on herself. She said that she felt awkward and nervous around me, as if she couldn't please me or something of the sort. Also, when "popular" girls took up to flirting with me because they found out I'm a writer, I believe she may have gotten extremely insecure about herself. Now we're best friends, but I still harbor my feelings for her (unbeknown to her).

in my school ins very closed if you dont know someone no one will talk to you and vise-versa so we dont have too many accounts of people flirting with other people so much. saying that after i realized that the guy anthony asked her out i got depressed etc... basically ditched all friends for grade school because of their connection to the guy. and started hanging out with basically saying the asian group of the school, which wasnt so bad since they taught me break dancing last year. but it was a tight group of people listening to aweful k-pop gambling at "big 2" (a game similar to presidant)and basically even the early years of our realationship isabelle was and still is pretty shy and protective/insuccure mainly because she had alot of failed relationships. the first thing she told me after i "asked her out" (heavy on the quotations) basically saying she never had much to talk about and i would probubly regret this. what is a lie because i like getting to know the person im going out with and making sure what i feel for the other is not superficial so i already knew she wasnt boring. her reason for saying that however was because all of her other relationships the assholes of guys she dated always talked about themselves and in soime cases how bad their lives were. what goes without saying is the opposite now. but tieing this back i know alot about insuccurity,and the need to feel wated by someone but what always confused me is that they already lost the first boyfriend/girlfriend. whats changed, how can u get that feeling of being wanted with someone who's hurt you, or you hurt them?

Well, I often ended up back with someone who broke up with me because I was honestly convinced I loved her, and that she still had feelings for me, and that maybe if I gave her another chance, our feelings could be fully restored. I'm a hopeless romantic, I've been told. I think it's all based on whether you prefer new fresh relationships, or something familiar to you.

i have been told that for a realtionship in high school most average 2 months, this is something i learned very recently, ive always had these preconcived ideas of relationships. first thar most are usually a year long, second people usually get to know each other for a while before they go out, and third i guess over all respect the person your with? these are basically what i thought people went by and what i still go by XD but thats just me XD i too have been called... well hopless and a romatic but never in the same sentance hmmm... but the romantic refering to ive chased the same girl even though she hurt me, for three years. and that now that im with her the stuff i do is apperently romatic? i dont understand how people have these set "norms" for relationships alas, it breaks down to wether your infatuated or in love with them. and whether you are in love whether the other feels the same or are they killing time. its a good point you bring with " I think it's all based on whether you prefer new fresh relationships, or something familiar to you." ive never though of it that way and assuming id did honestly think i loved someone i would take them back everytime. but this is coming from a person who even if cheated on would take the other back, sure id die a little inside but if as you say if you truly love the person (of think that you do) than theres no reason to give it a second chance.

 

[AkumaFighter]

Ha!

Spoiler: Relevant to most of these stories.

Well I'll share mine. I had dated a bit in high school and as I got to my senior year I was going to make a firm move on this girl named Natasha. She and I had a lot in common, were going to go to the same university in similar fields (Fine Art for myself, Art Education for her) so on and so forth. But a lady I had always flirted around with on the internet made a pretty bold move in 1998 (when that stuff was fairly uncommon) and we met up and well.. She stole my heart [in that special way girls know how I won't go into details] so it came to school time and I switched schools to go to hers and had a horrible experience in every way imaginable for a solid year and a half. Everything from awkward movements, a bout of anxiety, and suspicions turned true with the revelation she was saving herself full for marriage- only in regards to me.

Needless to say I stuck with dating again for awhile. Courted my fiancée for 7 years before giving her a ring for that reason.

Don't go looking for mini-marriage relationships until you're well into your 20s my friends. You'll regret it.

what do you mean "mini-marriages" and expand please on "you'll regret it"

 

[seventy7l]

the asian group of the school, which wasnt so bad since they taught me break dancing last year. but it was a tight group of people listening to aweful k-pop gambling at "big 2" (a game similar to presidant)

Something wrong with Asians ??? Don't worry I only do that all the time because its fun and i'm Chinese so i can somewhat understand what they say. Big 2 is really fun though.

OT: No I have nothing at all (still grade 9) I can give you all this though.
Me: Will you go out with me?
Girl 1: Uhhh I don't know.
(A month later,yes a whole summer of talking)
Me: So do you have an answer now?
Girl 1: I don't like you that way.

Me:Will you go out with me?
Girl 2: No

Me: Will you go out with me?
Girl 3: No

Me: Will you go out with me?
Girl 4: We don't know eachother enough so we should talk more and stuff.
Me: Sure I'm alright with that.
Girl 4: (SENDS LONG ARSE FACEBOOK MESSAGE)
Me: Damn facebook really?

 

[AkumaFighter]

the asian group of the school, which wasnt so bad since they taught me break dancing last year. but it was a tight group of people listening to aweful k-pop gambling at "big 2" (a game similar to presidant)

Something wrong with Asians ??? Don't worry I only do that all the time because its fun and i'm Chinese so i can somewhat understand what they say. Big 2 is really fun though.

OT: No I have nothing at all (still grade 9) I can give you all this though.
Me: Will you go out with me?
Girl 1: Uhhh I don't know.
(A month later,yes a whole summer of talking)
Me: So do you have an answer now?
Girl 1: I don't like you that way.

Me:Will you go out with me?
Girl 2: No

Me: Will you go out with me?
Girl 3: No

Me: Will you go out with me?
Girl 4: We don't know eachother enough so we should talk more and stuff.
Me: Sure I'm alright with that.
Girl 4: (SENDS LONG ARSE FACEBOOK MESSAGE)
Me: Damn facebook really?

facebooks seems to me as being as impersonal as texting... honestly im not a big fan i have an account and stuff but i never go on. its this usless waste of time. i kinda agree thofacebook...really? thats...uhhhhh.... romantic? i guess XDbut then again its not unheard of these days either it will be a ssd day when things like u have mention becomes normal for people to do.

 

[AkumaFighter]

Ha!

Spoiler: Relevant to most of these stories.

/snip

Don't go looking for mini-marriage relationships until you're well into your 20s my friends. You'll regret it.

what do you mean "mini-marriages" and expand please on "you'll regret it"

I can try, certainly.

Do you date?
As in when you're looking for relationships do you seek out more than one person to pay attention to for part of your time during a week? I'm not saying go try and have sex as often as possible. I mean truly just seek out a variety of people to spend your free time with to get to know?
More than likely not. The last couple of decades dating has became a strictly suffocating experience. You ask a girl if you like them, they say yes, and therefore you're locked into an emotional struggle to spend as much time pretending to be husband and wife, even if no sex is involved.
In the ye-olde days this was called going steady. Even then it more or less meant that both courting parties wouldn't seek other individuals to spend their free time with. But it was considered wise to still treat the relationship as if you were dating until the notion of settling down became an option.

This micromatromony bullshit that the media and movies and what not have made the norm leads to a lot of emotional struggles for people who would be better off dating. Not shying away from being a social being.

I believe if sane dating practices were used divorce rates would be lower, people cheating on their partners would be lower, and I think general social tension altogether would be relieved slightly. There's no possible way to test that theory other than to note the small % of people who actually do this and their quality of life vs. those poorly educated on relationships.

i understand what your tring to say bascially having this imaginary mariage with two people who get together only a few times a week and essential goes no where until as you stated "settling down becomes an option" and the concept of dating other until either satisfied, content, or of sufficiant age to "settle down" is a good idea and it definitly would reduce those rates depending of the orine of relationships, however that should not be a reason to essential date every person you meet because you can but rather selctivly would be an option. therefore what your saying by dating others selectivly and through ignoring the standoff scenario you have created, this would reduce rates of infedelity and social tension? is that a basic summary? it is a very intresting concept and well written expecial the mention of us being "social beings"

 

[SimuLord]

I had my first "girlfriend" when I was eleven. We'd been friends since we were five and we ended up spending...well, just about every minute of our time together at school events and really anytime I wasn't playing sports with my buddies (she was---and remains---a bookworm of the highest order.)

We'd go out for pizza on early-release days, sit on the swings at the park and talk for hours...although it never got into traditional "romantic" territory---it was strictly puppy-love platonic. She wasn't even my first kiss---that came later, when I was 15. But everyone at school called us a couple, so we must've been one. We went on like that all through middle school, and "broke up" when we got to high school and got to the point where we couldn't plausibly come off as a couple to anyone, mostly because we remained platonic friends (and we kind of discovered that other kids in school were more our respective "type" for the teenage-hormonal type of "dating".)

We're still friends to this day---hard to believe Elinor and I have been friends for 28 years.

 

[Jekken6]

Let's just say that every time I've attempted to get into a relationship with someone, I always get shot down. And not in a blaze of glory. More in a blaze of sadness and contempt