Emotional Insensitivity.

[Raineheart]

Does anyone else feel as if they have no emotional feeling or very little sensitivity?


I'm not quite sure how to phrase what I'm trying to get across, but I'll try as best as I can.

Two weeks ago, my best mate died in a car crash. His parents are devastated, my parents are devastated, everyone is fairly horrified by what happened, except me. I really couldn't care. I mean, he was my best mate, but he's gone. I'll never see him again. And I can't feel a single scrap of sadness that he's passed away. When I was told that he died, I just kinda shrugged my shoulders. It sounds awful, and for the people around me, it most likely is.

I'm not trying to be "tough" about this, nor is this a "look at me, I don't give a shit because I'm a MAN" thread. I'm worried that I can't feel anything and that I couldn't care that he's gone.
-EDIT- I got over being worried. I really couldn't care now.

I've never truly "felt" strong emotions before he died, either, so I don't believe its a case of "numbness". I've never had emotions for someone or wished to have a relationship with someone. However, after my mate died, I've been thinking more about why I can't feel.



So, I've a question for my fellow forum viewers:

Have you ever experienced such an experience that has cause for sadness or devastation, and you simply couldn't find any emotional feeling for what happened?

 

[Souplex]

Emotions are for wusses.

 

[JRCB]

Never. I usually feel sadness when something bad happens, unless it doesn't really affect me. If a close friend were to die, I'd curse the skies and cry my eyes out.

 

[Sassafrass]

Yeah, recently when my cousin died of cancer. I just took the news and carried on doing what I was doing.

 

[zoozilla]

Sorry for your loss.

I don't think what you're describing is a lack of emotion.

I think you're still reeling in shock. One of these days, it'll hit you. You'll think of giving your friend a call or hanging out together, and he won't be there. If you don't feel anything then, I might be worried.

 

[sms_117b]

I'm the same, I have to go to extremes to feel anything at all.

 

[Insanum]

Emotions are for wusses.

Emotions are for wusses.

Woah... Thats the first case ive seen of Ninja'ing someone EXACTLY.

OT: Something really small will hit you over the next few days, It'll sink in & you'll feel it.

 

[grimsprice]

Emotions are for wusses.

Emotions are for wusses.

MMMMMMMk.

Yeah, i think you might have some mental problem. Probably a chemical deficiency or a malfunctioning gland. You never know, there might be pills you could take...

 

[ae86gamer]

I have. I hadn't seen my father for my entire life, then one day he just popped out of nowhere and acted as if we were the best of mates. I didn't know how to react, so I didn't.

I'm not the type of person who knows how to show emotion correctly. Its a problem.

 

[WrathofthePenguin]

Sometimes it hits people that way, in that it doesn't really hit them at all
I agree with zoozilla, it may not be very big now but it'll get you like a bolt o' lightning outta a clear sky. You'll be doing something that will remind you and you of him and something will probably snap.
Happened when my dog of 15 years died. I was blank and it don't really bother me until a thought hits and then sudden rage or sadness takes over

Sorry for your loss

 

[stockvillain]

Perfectly understandable reaction [or lack thereof]. My dog died recently, and though I loved her devotedly, and was even there for her as she suffered from her injuries [hit by a car], I didn't really have much of an initial reaction when I found out the next day that she had died. I simply accepted it, and went on with my life. About a week later, I was at the grocery store, and I passed by the pet treats. I started looking for her favorite ones, and then froze as I realized what I was doing.
Trust me, it'll hit you at some point. You may not break down and bawl your eyes out, but something is going to trigger an "oh crap; he's really gone" sort of reaction. There isn't any hard and fast rule for appropriate emotional response; all of us react to things differently because we all have different experiences that affect our responses. Don't sweat it.

 

[Nargleblarg]

My friend died in a car accident when I was 6 and I didn't feel sad about it like ever, it is really creepy.

Also my grandfather died when I was 10 and I also didn't feel sad about that either.

 

[IronDuke]

Are you on lithium or something?

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Maybe you're just incredibly unselfish?
Mourning is a pretty selfish thing, you know. You're not upset because they're gone, you're upset because you've lost them.

But yeah, I myself don't really do emotions, either.
I tried them for a while when I was younger, but I got sick of them pretty fast.
They're kind of a waste of energy.

 

[Raineheart]

Are you on lithium or something?

I wish, then I could stop taking it.

 

[zombflux]

My teacher died. I said "That's too bad."

Emotions are for wusses.

 

[Timotei]

Emotions are for wusses.

Emotions are for wusses.

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Ninja'ing: It can happen at the same moment.

 

[Neonbob]

I like to call myself an emotional cripple.
I've never really bothered connecting to people. And the ones that I'm supposed to have a connection with? It's a connection in the same way that a fallen tree is connected to the ground.
Hooray for disconnect!
Oh, and Aspergers.