Escapist, Did I Screw Up?

[Soviet Heavy]

Okay so story goes: I meet a girl who is very nice and shares a lot of the same ideas I do, and she is also in two of my classes. We sit together and talk a lot, and we are friendly to each other.

Coming out of class tonight, I ask her if I could get her phone number so that I can keep track of her. She asks me suspiciously if I want it to "just be friends", to which I hastily say yes. Honestly that's all I was looking for.

But now I'm worried that she thinks I'm hitting on her. Does she think my quick response to clarify is just a cover? I don't know what she's thinking, if I was fooling her or if she believes I was sincere.

I have trouble meeting new people, so it would suck to see her start avoiding me over a misunderstanding. Has this happened to other Escapists? If so, how did it turn out for you, and what sort of advice could you give me?

(For the record, we did get each others numbers)

 

[sir.rutthed]

Did you actually say you wanted to keep track of her? You may have creeped her out if you did.

 

[Aspergo]

Did you ever got her number? If no, yer suspicious.
If yes? You'll get tested about yer true goals on several occasions ;3

 

[05026]

I did almost exactly the same thing, and it was fine for me. The suspicion may linger, but if she is your friend for long enough then she will see through what it may have appeared to be.

 

[Soviet Heavy]

Did you actually say you wanted to keep track of her? You may have creeped her out if you did.

She told me that she sometimes is stuck on the campus all day due to her classes being spread apart, so sometimes she has nothing to do. I asked her if she'd maybe want to get lunch sometime or hang out if she was bored when she was stuck on campus.

 

[MirkoP]

What the...okay,lemme read it again...what the?
I was actually expecting a complex story 'bout how you actually don't want to be "just friends" but you told her otherwise and she wants to be just friends and you just don't know how to approach her and teddybears are stealing those berries or something like that.

You got her number.If you like her,especially if you just friendly like her,just give her a call,hang out,you're both in the same classes,you could get a drink or something before/after the class,and topics should be easy to start off (classes ofc).
Don't be scared!

 

[Zen Toombs]

It's probably going to be alright. And if she starts to avoid you, basically ask her what's going on. Be blunt, be truthful, and don't beat around the bush.

IF YOU DID make a mistake, I would go with the "so that I can keep track of her" reason for getting her phone number. That could be taken as creepy.

Edit: But the above is probably not a mistake.

 

[Vampire cat]

Meh, your over-thinking this =3. Just keep hanging out as if everything is normal and she'll shrug off any suspicions she may have had...

 

[Vegosiux]

Meh, your over-thinking this =3.

Exactly, don't try to over-analyze it, what happened happened, and you losing sleep over what she might be thinking about you isn't going to help you make a good impression next time you meet.

 

[camazotz]

Well, years ago when I was in your shoes I'd have probably done the same thing. Nowadays I'd be a lot more direct and straight forward about my interest; she might as well know I'm interested in her because otherwise we're both wasting each others' time....I am not one for timid women, either.

Um, anyway: direct approach has always worked out better for me than the beat-around-the-bush "no I really just want to be friends" approach. But never admit to, suggest you are, or even imply that there might be stalking involved...even if there is....that's bad, mm'kay!

 

[sir.rutthed]

Did you actually say you wanted to keep track of her? You may have creeped her out if you did.

She told me that she sometimes is stuck on the campus all day due to her classes being spread apart, so sometimes she has nothing to do. I asked her if she'd maybe want to get lunch sometime or hang out if she was bored when she was stuck on campus.

Well, if she gave you her number I'd say you're in the clear. Just play it cool and relax. She won't bite. And if she does, I'd say you've made it free and clear

 

[Chase Yojimbo]

I see nothing wrong. Just listen to everyone else and stray away from that irrepressible urge to go into Deep Thought. That's my problem, and that's why I stop here