Escapists...i need relationship advice.

[launchpadmcqwak]

Okay here goes. A few months ago i started dating this girl, a few weeks later we fell passionately in love (like REALLY in love), we get along great and she seems to love me as much as i love her, but there's a catch, her ex boyfriend is really close too her to the point of them hanging out almost every day...this bugs the hell out of me and make me really really jealous. I trust her completely but that f*cking hipster ex keeps doing things that makes me feel really uncomfortable, like how they text constantly, like she would stop making out so she can text the ginger wanker...the main problem is that i am insanely jealous when she talks about him, with his car and his job. He is just better than me in every way...so what can i do to get over this jealousy because it just feels awful. THAT F*CKING HIPSTER C**T F*CK!!! WHY CANT HE JUST BE OUT OF THE PICTURE

EDIT: they dated for a year...i know its not long but yeah

AAAAND ANOTHER THING, he left these cutesy love notes and she put them up on her door, AND SHE STILL HASNT TAKEN THEM OFF! JESUS ITS NOT HARD TO AT LEAST ACKNOWLEDGE THE FACT THAT YOU DONT LOVE HIM STILL EVEN THOUGH YOU DO!!!,

sorry for wasting your time brothers and sisters, i just needed someone to talk to..

 

[Vault101]

uhhhh

I think you just need to deal with it...he may not actually be the devil, even though it seems like that from yoru perspective

but if its really that hard then..mabye break it off before you do somthing nasty

and calm down

 

[Evil Smurf]

Try make friends with the guy. He could be cool.

 

[manic_depressive13]

How did they break up? Is it possible that she's not over him yet?

You should just talk to her and ask her to stop being so close to her ex. It's not very fair on you, and it really isn't very nice of her to keep talking about him to you. I definitely wouldn't hang around in such a situation. Dropping everything she's doing with you to text someone is rude enough, let alone if it's her ex. If you really trust her as much as you say you do it shouldn't really be a problem, but I think it's less an issue of trust and more a matter of consideration for your feelings. No one would be thrilled if their partner was super chummy with someone they had previously been in a relationship with, and she should at least acknowledge that.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Firstly, you are asking advice form a bunch of people that you have never met, but who happen to play lots of video games. Yeah, might want to be careful there.

Secondly, for what it's worth, why can't you talk to her about it?

 

[x EvilErmine x]

Okay here goes. A few months ago i started dating this girl, a few weeks later we fell passionately in love (like REALLY in love), we get along great and she seems to love me as much as i love her, but there's a catch, her ex boyfriend is really close too her to the point of them hanging out almost every day...this bugs the hell out of me and make me really really jealous. I trust her completely but that f*cking hipster ex keeps doing things that makes me feel really uncomfortable, like how they text constantly, like she would stop making out so she can text the ginger wanker...the main problem is that i am insanely jealous when she talks about him, with his car and his job. He is just better than me in every way...so what can i do to get over this jealousy because it just feels awful. THAT F*CKING HIPSTER C**T F*CK!!! WHY CANT HE JUST BE OUT OF THE PICTURE

EDIT: they dated for a year...i know its not long but yeah

AAAAND ANOTHER THING, he left these cutesy love notes and she put them up on her door, AND SHE STILL HASNT TAKEN THEM OFF! JESUS ITS NOT HARD TO AT LEAST ACKNOWLEDGE THE FACT THAT YOU DONT LOVE HIM STILL EVEN THOUGH YOU DO!!!,

sorry for wasting your time brothers and sisters, i just needed someone to talk to..

Talk to this girl about it. Do it very very soon before you become even more emotionally committed. There are somethings that you really need to talk to your partner about even though you may feel very uncomfortable doing it. This is one of them things.
A good and lasting relationship is built around three main pillars, trust, communication, and friendship. [footnote]Personally i'd add having a good sex life too[/footnote] It sounds like you have the trust and friendship but not the communication.
You mentioned the example of her braking off a make out session to text her ex back. That sets alarm bells ringing in my mind. This should not be happening.
It sounds like she may not be over this ex of hers, and if that's the case then she's not being fair to you and you need to evaluate the pros and cons of this relationship. It may be better to get out now to save your self more hurt in the long run.

In summery:
- Talk to this girl.
- Explain how her being so close to her ex makes you feel.
- Don't freak out if she says she is not over him, but ask her to be considerate to your feelings.

*edit for grammar.

 

[Baron von Blitztank]

Psst. There's an advice forum you could have put this in, just saying.

Anyway, on to the job at hand!
I'd say go talk to both of them and tell them how you feel! It may not have been a dreadful break-up between the two and they're still just good friends. If all else fails, then I'd recommend a bell tower and a rifle for you.

 

[hazabaza1]

Okay, so this may surprise you, but there's this thing people do.
It's called talking.
Sometimes, when one person has an issue with something, they talk to someone about this thing. It's a strange idea, I know, but sometimes I found that this mystical "talking" idea can help.

Captcha: in over my head
Ain't that the truth.

 

[Padwolf]

Please talk to your girlfriend about it. I know it must be hard, and it may make you uncomfortable to mention it to her, but you really have to. Jealousy can drive a person mad. You really have to talk to her about it, tell her how it makes you feel. If she says she is not over him, don't freak out, try hard not to freak out, and tell her to consider your feelings. This is all really unfair to you, especially if she drops everything to respond to him. Normally I'd say just leave her and be done with before it gets worse, but you should talk to her about it first really.

If all else fails, then I'd recommend a bell tower and a rifle for you.

And this!

 

[Galletea]

Talk to the woman, geez.

Let you know that you do trust her and you know your jealousy is somewhat irrational, but you can't help it. That way she is more likely to be understanding, then if you blow up in a fit of envy one day and look like you don't trust her at all. Be honest, tell her it makes you uncomfortable when she's constantly texting him or whatever. If she's worth keeping she'll understand and be cool about it.

 

[Kailat777]

Do talk to her about it. From the sound of it, she may be going a bit too far.

That said, my best friend is an ex-girlfriend of mine, and her husband HATED me (while they were dating) until he and I met (we're good friends now). There's nothing between her and I, just as there may be nothing between your girlfriend and this guy. Just giving you the perspective of a guy in the opposite situation as yours.

 

[artanis_neravar]

uhhhh

I think you just need to deal with it...he may not actually be the devil, even though it seems like that from yoru perspective

but if its really that hard then..mabye break it off before you do somthing nasty

and calm down

well, he is a Ginger. I mean if he was left handed and a Batman fan then he very well could be the devil.

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what everyone else said, talk to her.