Ever had problems with premature ejaculation?

[NoeL]

Ok, pretty embarrassing to talk about, so I'd rather talk about it with a bunch of people I don't know.

I'll keep it short and sweet (no pun intended). I'm pretty new to sex (maybe ~20 times in total, and ~5 with my current girl I just started seeing), and having some trouble with control. I have to start off slow, and even after I find my rhythm I'm only able to last a minute or two on most occasions. I'm also kinda big, so the tightness doesn't help the situation :/

So, for any of you that have gone through similar things, any tips? Did you just naturally accrue more stamina with experience and confidence, or did you have to train yourself by stopping and starting, or both?

 

[King of the Sandbox]

Don't stop at just one. Problem solved, /thread, etc.

 

[gazumped]

Don't stop at just one. Problem solved, /thread, etc.

Yup, a boy I was with who had this problem found he could last far longer the second time in the night. To be honest, I didn't mind either way because they boy took a great interest in my satisfaction during foreplay.

 

[Emperor Platypus]

Ever tried one of these?

http://www.durex.com/en-GB/Products/condoms/Pages/Durex-Performa.aspx

Dunno if they actually work. But from what I get it uses chemicals to numb your member. Hence you last longer.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Go in on the second nut

Slow down when you need to

Focus on her

Practice at home!

Woot! I last about an hour a nut if I try. So Im sure you'll have no problems

 

[NoeL]

Don't stop at just one. Problem solved, /thread, etc.

-_-!

Yup, a boy I was with who had this problem found he could last far longer the second time in the night. To be honest, I didn't mind either way because they boy took a great interest in my satisfaction during foreplay.

Yeah, I wasn't so self-conscious with other girls because I could usually give them an orgasm or two during foreplay, but the girl I'm with now is on medication which makes it really hard for her to get off. But I guess that's beside the point, and I just need to man up and do my duty there.

 

[Sevre]

Don't stop at just one. Problem solved, /thread, etc.

-_-!

Yup, a boy I was with who had this problem found he could last far longer the second time in the night. To be honest, I didn't mind either way because they boy took a great interest in my satisfaction during foreplay.

Yeah, I wasn't so self-conscious with other girls because I could usually give them an orgasm or two during foreplay, but the girl I'm with now is on medication which makes it really hard for her to get off. But I guess that's beside the point, and I just need to man up and do my duty there.

I suggest regular exercise at the gym to work on your stamina. It'll also give you a big confidence boost, which is usually the root of the problem. Stop thinking about your own performance and just concentrate on the job at hand, coupled with some more practice in bed and you should get over it.

 

[LT Cannibal 68]

a couple of things you could try:

1 when she says shes coming over to do the deed go into your bathroom and fap twice then when you get it on you'll last A LOT longer

2 the blue pill don't know if it helps with early arrival but it doesn't hurt to try

3 go oral at first that will get her started good and you can finish with a literal BANG!

4 tell her to not take her medication before you do it.

that's all i can think of at this particular juncture so use it lose it do with my advice what you will good luck and happy fucking.

 

[Kanebou]

I seem to last longer as long as I'm on bottom. If I'm on top, putting in more effort seems to make me last half an hour at max.

Different positions could be the simplest solution. That and the more frequent you have sex, the more likely you will to last, but it's never as great as the first few times with a new girl.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

I seem to last longer as long as I'm on bottom. If I'm on top, putting in more effort seems to make me last half an hour at max.

Different positions could be the simplest solution. That and the more frequent you have sex, the more likely you will to last, but it's never as great as the first few times with a new girl.

This, this, a million times this.

I'm guessing you're probably on top, where you have a bit more control. She'll enjoy it more on top, and you won't take as little time. Don't stop there though, there's literally millions of different positions and there's bound to be one that'll put you in better stead.

 

[jobu59749]

I have a problem similar, it gets a bit better over time. I've discovered that the durex perfomax or the Trojan version of these help. The create a little numbness, nothing on the extreme of no feeling, just enough to make things less sensitive. I use these, start on bottom, my wife goes slow to start. Part of the problem comes from excitement. This increases the bloodflow to the penis which also greats higher sensitivity. Also, a couple of beers helps to, but don't go overboard or you could be prone to "whiskey-dick". Google and research, also talk about it, a lot of guys get embarressed, but most women will be pretty understanding and willing to try some different things that might help....as long as those things are involving swinging from the chandeliers or voodoo magic....the ladies aren't usually into that.

Again, the condoms and slow to start help a lot, I went from being like a 5 minute man to anywhere between 20 min to an hour...awesomesauce.

 

[Bloedhoest]

Don't stop at just one. Problem solved, /thread, etc.

True.

Don't stop at two if you're up to it.

 

[JKain]

I think often Relaxation is key
When you build up to the "point of no return" - there can also be increasing muscular tension involved...making it harder to keep control (a reason while most last longer being at the bottom)
Being aware of that can help to relax
especially the perineal-region is an influence (the muscle that is tense when you stop urination mid-stream f.e. - between asshole and scrotum)
Not sure if training that muscle can actually help in itself- but it does help in making it easier to relax it apart from other muscles being in tension (like thighs etc.)

And Breathing can help a lot (try not to stop your breath - as that builds tension as well)
If you(and she) don't mind even moaning like hell may help with that

As mentioned trying different positions (maybe even positions like doggie - which i heard is not recommended in such cases- but I for one can last exeptionally long that way)

Don't think too much - Relax - and if you have the feeling there's an elephant in the room whose name is sex...communication can work wonders

Have Fun


..as I for some reason feel a lil bit awkward now contributing such a long post to the topic

 

[Tallim]

Really weird one but "remember to breath", proper deep slow breaths too.
Also don't worry about it, easier said than done I know but it helps. If you think it's going to happen it is more likely to happen.

Also just for a bit of info there was a study done a fair while back that showed that 3/4 of men ejaculate in 2 minutes or less in over 50% of sexual encounters. So what I'm saying is this is pretty normal. It's very dependent on circumstances.

 

[Harla]

Since you're after advice, I thought I'd drop this in for your consideration:

There's absolutely nothing wrong with three minutes. It's only premature ejactulation if you're litterally comming without the orgasmic sensation thereof. If you're reaching your orgasm in a few minutes after putting it in, that's not premature ejaculation; you're just coming moderately quickly.

Since you are actually climaxing, I'm assuming your concern comes from a worry that you're not doing as well as you might/should/ought for your partner. that beign the cs,e the best thing you can do is paty attnetion to her, and talk to her about it, make sure you're learning what she wants and needs.

I'll also say this: longer lasting doen'st mean better, not at all. In fac,t how long it lasts has almsot nothign at all to do with the quality of hte lover or the lovemaking. I've had lovers who thought htey were the absolute awesomeness of sex ebcuase they would put it in, then bang away for forty-five minutes tirelessly... you knwo what? It was rotten sex, for me... and heck, after a while the bits get too sensetive to continue to be enjoyable... often if my partner has been hammering away for twenty minutes or more, and it's not doing anyhting for me, I simply find myself wishing he'd hurry up.

I've had very short enounters that were spine-tinglingly erotic, and fantastic for it as well, even if we both came, myself reaching round three, in under five minutes.

I've also had long sessions that have lasted half a night that were great, and short quickies that I'm glad were short.

So, main lesson, don't concern your self about duration, so much as focus on both enjoying yourslf, and making sure your partner enjoys herself. If, at the end of the day, you do need to last long than you are becuase your partner simply takes longer to get there than you do, others here have offered some good tips for extending yourself, but don't feel like you need to go longer simply for the sake of going longer; that's not what it's about.

 

[WolfThomas]

I'm also kinda big, so the tightness doesn't help the situation :/

Are/were you wearing a condom? If so you should check if it's the right fit. I went up a size and I found I last a bit longer now that they're not too tight.

 

[Death_Korps_Kommissar]

Trouble with Premature ejaculation?

Why not think of Zoidberg?

http://www.funnyjunk.com/funny_pictures/2546695/why+not/

But seriously, I'm probably not much help, I'm still a virgin, but everyone else here seems to know whats what.