Facebook Angst

[Machiavellian007]

Recently, a girl who was in my year level posted this on my facebook page:

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i dislike that you need to do something with your hair, get it styled or something. Also the fact that throughout school you always thought you were more intelligent than or above others. Also i dislike that you're oblivious to the fact that almost every single person in our grade dislikes you or maybe you're not and you're smarter than us all.. Sorry it's brutal but you asked.

The problem I face is that I find myself more amused by this than hurt (although I am hurt as well). The girl in question is like the classic high school slut; always wears tonnes of make-up, never works for anything, is dropping out of school this year (we're in year 10) and is generally a fucking asshole. I've never hated her, and I've always felt a sort of empathy towards her.

Now, should I reply to this post, or should I leave well enough alone?

EDIT: In regards to if I asked her opinion or not, yes, I did. She posted one of those, "like this and I'll tell you what I dislike about you," things, but to my knowledge, they're generally done more light-heartedly than this.

Also, I've been very nice (at least, by my standards) to her all year, complimenting her and the like.

 

[Fangface74]

If you have to ask....

Your setting yourself up for some unnecessary BS, her immaturity belies her own issues & insecurities. See if she can walk tall and discuss this face-2-face, otherwise steer clear and let her suffer the embarrassment this kind of behaviour fosters.

 

[TriggerHappyAngel]

ignore it, if you get mad at her she will just turn it around and make you look like the bad guy

 

[Severin90]

Sure it's a mean thing to say but I rather feel pity for her than for you.. I say just ignore it, she is not worth it.
But if you are confident and have a great comeback, go ahead. Lets see if she can handle a intelligent discussion, if not her argument is kinda invalid.
Also it seems that you asked her about yourself.. Its there any details you havnt told us?

 

[Palademon]

People thought that of me, but they were way wrong. I am far more intelligent, just not academically, and people only ever said no one liked me at the moments where my friends weren't around to disagree.

And she does sound like a slut if your hair is as big apart of your personality as the rest.

Don't worry about it. You know you're better than that, right?

 

[Machiavellian007]

Sure it's a mean thing to say but I rather feel pity for her than for you.. I say just ignore it, she is not worth it.
But if you are confident and have a great comeback, go ahead. Lets see if she can handle a intelligent discussion, if not her argument is kinda invalid.
Also it seems that you asked her about yourself.. Its there any details you havnt told us?

I liked her status that was a, "Like this and I'll tell you what I dislike about you," but from my knowledge those are generally done more jokingly than she did. But, yes, I did invite this upon myself.

I've tried to be really nice to her all year, though. She has problems with her weight, so I complimented her, telling her she was pretty, etc, etc. My friends hate her, they think she's a back-stabbing ***** (probably the truth), and they were confused as to why I always complimented her.

Thank you guys. I knew that I shouldn't reply to her, but it was helpful to have your advice, as a sort of reinforcement, you know?

 

[The Rockerfly]

Act really rational back at here
for example

"I'm sorry you feel this way, however I feel it is rude to post it on a public wall. It would be far more mature of you to have private messaged me"

At least that's what I would have done

 

[6unn3r]

Did you actually ask her opinion? Or is she just being like most stereotypical American drama queens and forming her own ideas and implanting them into others even if they where not asked for, based on the mindless drone Tv programes (Jersey Shore) she watches?

Giving her the idea that no matter what, she is always right and will get into an argument over whatever pops into her tiny mind at any given point while the hamster that turns her wheel takes a short break to shoot itself with steroids because its so starved of interlectual imput that it has to keep itself going somehow????

I may has digresed a little there...

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

I would just reply with something like "lol" to piss her off.

 

[Fenring]

Ignore it, but just going by what you said, there's probably a large amount of truth in what she said.

-She says you feel you're more intelligent than most of your class, your response is to insult her and add that she is dropping out.
-You needlessly added the airquotes[fact]airquotes that she's a slut, the only thing I can see having any relation to the subject at hand is if you two have any past.
-Again, you called her a slut. Classy. You're tying to make yourself look better than your peers by insulting them. Also just saying she's an asshole is pretty much the same.
-That's pretty patronizing to just tell us you feel empathy towards someone after what you said right before that.

You're in high school. Just chill, don't respond, stick with your clique of friends and don't act aloof. Less than three years from now you'll be out of school and on to bigger things and likely never see her or anyone else from your school regularly.

 

[Bon_Clay]

As a rule of thumb, if it involves facebook its stupid bullshit and should be ignored.

Now that you've clarified how exactly "you asked for it", I would say shes a pretty big ***** that was looking for an opportunity to insult someone. I don't think there's any really good response unless you can think of something REALLY clever, best to ignore it or just be like "Oh wow."

 

[TomLikesGuitar]

Take it from me, being socially awkward gets old when you hit your early 20s... get out early.

But yeah don't respond. And if a girl went out of her way to comment on your hair then you should probably just get it cut; at the very least, you'll increase your chances of getting laid.

 

[Machiavellian007]

Ignore it, but just going by what you said, there's probably a large amount of truth in what she said.

-She says you feel you're more intelligent than most of your class, your response is to insult her and add that she is dropping out.
-You needlessly added the airquotes[fact]airquotes that she's a slut, the only thing I can see having any relation to the subject at hand is if you two have any past.
-Again, you called her a slut. Classy. You're tying to make yourself look better than your peers by insulting them. Also just saying she's an asshole is pretty much the same.
-That's pretty patronizing to just tell us you feel empathy towards someone after what you said right before that.

You're in high school. Just chill, don't respond, stick with your clique of friends and don't act aloof. Less than three years from now you'll be out of school and on to bigger things and likely never see her or anyone else from your school regularly.

I never said she was wrong, but it was pretty harsh, don't you think?

 

[PeePantz]

Did you actually ask her opinion? Or is she just being like most stereotypical American drama queens and forming her own ideas and implanting them into others even if they where not asked for, based on the mindless drone Tv programes (Jersey Shore) she watches?

Giving her the idea that no matter what, she is always right and will get into an argument over whatever pops into her tiny mind at any given point while the hamster that turns her wheel takes a short break to shoot itself with steroids because its so starved of interlectual imput that it has to keep itself going somehow????

I may has digresed a little there...

Or maybe she's being like the Australian drama queen that she is and picking it from some Aussie tv show.

OT: If you have the backbone, tear her apart. Rip her a new one but be honest and make sure it stings. Talk about her weight and the fact you only complimented her because you felt she was pathetic and hefty, and probably in need for a little ego boost.
If you feel you might get in over your head and be part of a school wide mocking of you, then back off.

 

[Fenring]

I never said she was wrong, but it was pretty harsh, don't you think?

Not really, she's leaving and wants you to know how she's feeling. In Internet terms, she's doing a personal Thanks.txt (link)(link to an actual one).

You may think she is being harsh, but if you're really like that, then I wouldn't exactly say so. Doing something like this is almost accepted in some ways. Don't take it too seriously, again, you're in high school and this isn't one of your close friends so it shouldn't really matter to you.

 

[Kurokami]

Recently, a girl who was in my year level posted this on my facebook page:

Spoiler

i dislike that you need to do something with your hair, get it styled or something. Also the fact that throughout school you always thought you were more intelligent than or above others. Also i dislike that you're oblivious to the fact that almost every single person in our grade dislikes you or maybe you're not and you're smarter than us all.. Sorry it's brutal but you asked.

The problem I face is that I find myself more amused by this than hurt (although I am hurt as well). The girl in question is like the classic high school slut; always wears tonnes of make-up, never works for anything, is dropping out of school this year (we're in year 10) and is generally a fucking asshole. I've never hated her, and I've always felt a sort of empathy towards her.

Now, should I reply to this post, or should I leave well enough alone?

EDIT: In regards to if I asked her opinion or not, yes, I did. She posted one of those, "like this and I'll tell you what I dislike about you," things, but to my knowledge, they're generally done more light-heartedly than this.

Also, I've been very nice (at least, by my standards) to her all year, complimenting her and the like.

...Empathy? Is that the word you meant to use?

That does seem incredibly harsh, course there's not much I can say as to whether you fit the description so... Meh. Don't reply if you asked for it in a 'like this blahblah' kind of way as you said. Thank god I stay away from facebook.

Also, Aussie?

 

[dragonslayer32]

never argue with an idiot; they'll bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.

This has to be one of the best lines I have heard on here for a while. Great advice, it sounds like one of those philisophical quotes from COD...