Fellas, What would you do?

[ameemo]

Let's take this hypothetical situation, what would you do if you found out that the girl you've fallen for and been going out with for a while is a stripper? would it be wrong to just dump her and never speak to her again because you judged her before you got to know the situation she's in and offer her support? or do you have the right to break up with her knowing that she did not trust you enough to tell you(in essence making her own judgement) and the thought of all the guys that have seen and touched her would is just unbearable?

 

[bobmus]

Hmm, this reminds me of something...
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I wouldn't feel comfortable with her continuing with it as a career while I dated her. Being promiscuous with other guys is being unfaithful, whether you're getting paid or not.

 

[krazykidd]

Hmm, this reminds me of something...
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I wouldn't feel comfortable with her continuing with it as a career while I dated her. Being promiscuous with other guys is being unfaithful, whether you're getting paid or not.

I don't think promiscuous means what you think it means . Striper and prostitute isn't the same thing .

OT : don't care , just means she'll have skills a lot of other women don't have . Hell i might even get a poll installed in my living room .

 

[bobmus]

I don't think promiscuous means what you think it means . Striper and prostitute isn't the same thing .

I don't think it means what you think it means either. People will define different things as being promiscuous, and I personally would call getting naked for people and dancing on their laps being promiscuous. I am aware of the difference.

 

[geK0]

I'd be a little shocked at first, but I'd get over it.

 

[Dags90]

I don't think it means what you think it means either. People will define different things as being promiscuous, and I personally would call getting naked for people and dancing on their laps being promiscuous. I am aware of the difference.

Stripping laws vary wildly. Some places don't allow full nudity and require a 3 ft. distance.

Wouldn't lying about the profession sort of be a bigger issue? Especially seeing as stripping isn't exactly a 9 to 5 job, and is bound to get in the way of dates and such.

 

[HardkorSB]

Let's take this hypothetical situation, what would you do if you found out that the girl you've fallen for and been going out with for a while is a stripper? would it be wrong to just dump her and never speak to her again because you judged her before you got to know the situation she's in and offer her support? or do you have the right to break up with her knowing that she did not trust you enough to tell you(in essence making her own judgement) and the thought of all the guys that have seen and touched her would is just unbearable?

I wouldn't mind.
It could actually be an advantage. If she's a stripper, that means she's hot and she can move and excite a man and that's important, I think.
Also, she's showing off her body. The same thing happens at public pools and on beaches at times, unless you consider something like this clothing:

Spoiler: WARNING: PARTIAL FEMALE NUDITY AHEAD :D

Unless of course, a guy wouldn't want to date a girl who did that as well, but that's just silly.

It would be impossible to date her only if you were one of those oversensitive insecure guys who think that stripping is the "gateway drug" to prostitution.

 

[Rawne1980]

I'd get a pole in my house.....

She can practice.

 

[Dragonclaw]

I dated a stripper for a few years...good times

 

[CianTheMighty]

I would check out the joint where she was working, try to guage if she was having fun or not.

If it's fun for her, try to get a private dance out of it. It could be incredibly sexy.

 

[Loop Stricken]

Let's take this hypothetical situation, what would you do if you found out that the girl you've fallen for and been going out with for a while is a stripper? would it be wrong to just dump her and never speak to her again because you judged her before you got to know the situation she's in and offer her support? or do you have the right to break up with her knowing that she did not trust you enough to tell you(in essence making her own judgement) and the thought of all the guys that have seen and touched her would is just unbearable?

First off; it's better than finding out she's a man! More likely than you'd I'd think.

Secondly; you said she's a stripper, but later mention other people touching her. Fairly certain that's a big no-no in strip clubs.
Not that I'd know.

That said, I'd probably be okay with it provided the place wasn't too scuzzy.

 

[Scarim Coral]

I would be ok with it well trying to reason myself. The worse thing for me is to break up with her over something small like that. Well ok it's not small but given how hard it is to find a job as it is in the UK I wouldn't exactly asking her to find a more decency job. Sure having guys lustinf for her would annoyed me but I would be fine that she genuie lust for me only.

 

[Durgiun]

Dude, if I had a girlfriend who was secretly a stripper I'd have her do a sexy dance for my birthday with all my buddies watching as a way to make it up to me. OK, maybe not with buddies, but everything else stays.

 

[Valdus]

I wouldn't for a few reasons.

1 - Trust is importent for me and the fact that she would keep it secret would sting for me. Being upfront about it though would render this point moot.

2. Call me old fashioned if you want but somehow I don't like the idea of my girlfriend dancing around half-naked (or more) in a room of sleezy guys staring at her like a sexual object in an attempt to get them aroused enough that they'll throw money at her to do it more.

3. I don't think I've dated a girl who would be happy with me stripping for money in a room full of pervy women so I think I'm more than justified in telling them "no" as well.

It should be noted that I hate that stripping exists as a profession. And it the end of the day it's getting your clothes off for the sexual gratification of others so I don't see myself dating a stripper. Sound's harsh, but it's true.

And honesty if I did a job that existed purely to provide sexual gratification to women that directly involved me I don't think my GF would be happy, and I don't think it would be unreasonable for her to feel that way.

 

[krazykidd]

I don't think promiscuous means what you think it means . Striper and prostitute isn't the same thing .

I don't think it means what you think it means either. People will define different things as being promiscuous, and I personally would call getting naked for people and dancing on their laps being promiscuous. I am aware of the difference.

Spoiler

Promiscuity, in human sexual behavior, refers to the practice of casual sex with multiple sexual partners.[1] The term can carry a moral judgement and is viewed in the context of the mainstream social ideal for sexual activity to take place within exclusive committed relationships. A common example of behavior viewed as promiscuous within the mainstream social ideals of many cultures is a one night stand.

Straight from wikipedia , also same thing you would find in a dictionary. You can persnally consider it what you want , but it doesn't change what it actually means .

Like the color red is red . You can call it blue if you like , doesn't change the fact that it's red .

 

[Jonluw]

No, I wouldn't dump her.
Why would I?

Clearly, she wasn't comfortable telling me about her profession, and I can understand that. I will see her telling me as proof that we've become close.

 

[GrimTuesday]

I think I would be uncomfortable with it, the idea of the woman I love rubbing up against a bunch of other men would be very bothersome, but if I really loved her and she really loved me, I think I would be secure enough in our relationship to let it go.

 

[Galletea]

Ok, I'm not a fella, but I can't help but answer when I'm being excluded from something.

In this hypothetical situation the betrayal here is that she hasn't told you what she does. If you've been going out for a while, then the inference is that there is trust, and she doesn't trust you enough to have told you about her career. Also there's the possibility that perhaps she is ashamed of what she does, and did not want you to think less of her.

So no I wouldn't, at least not outright, until I had figured out her reasoning for not divulging the information earlier. The idea of her being touched by other people is not that big a deal if she is comfortable with it. She's a stripper, not a hooker right? It's her choice. But if the issue is just that she assumed I'd make a big deal of it, then it's abut trust, and that could be a deal-breaker.

 

[Revnak_v1legacy]

Personally, I would probably dump her. Partially because she lied to me, partially because I moral object to the career (though I suppose I do a relatively bad job of this in many ways, nobody's perfect), and partially because strip clubs have always disgusted me in basically every way imaginable. At the very least, I would suggest she find a different job.

Spoiler

Promiscuity, in human sexual behavior, refers to the practice of casual sex with multiple sexual partners.[1] The term can carry a moral judgement and is viewed in the context of the mainstream social ideal for sexual activity to take place within exclusive committed relationships. A common example of behavior viewed as promiscuous within the mainstream social ideals of many cultures is a one night stand.

Straight from wikipedia , also same thing you would find in a dictionary. You can persnally consider it what you want , but it doesn't change what it actually means .

Like the color red is red . You can call it blue if you like , doesn't change the fact that it's red .

[img src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-C4IEzc46L4Y/TmQ1kPKuG4I/AAAAAAAACy8/_xWAoJXj0jo/s400/col_20083_scan.jpg"]
Red.

Captcha- do more sit-ups

So now you're calling me fat Captcha! Oh, it is totally on now!

 

[Freechoice]

This seems poignant. Don't you agree?