Fellas, What would you do?

[Strazdas]

Nothing. Her profession has nothing to do with it.

 

[HardkorSB]

I couldn't date a stripper, not because 'it could be a gateway drug to other evil things, like veganism!', but to me a woman who strips for (usually) a living is okay with multiple men watching her nightly.

Yeah, so?

Jealousy? Not really, its more of having standards, which to me a girl who strip has either low or nonexistent standards.

Have you ever met and talked to any strippers or are you just making a generalization?

Also, lol, "if you wont date a stripper, you are oversensitive and insecure".

Not what I said but whatever.

Call me crazy but I don't see the big deal in showing your body to other people. I've been to nudist beaches and it was a lot of fun. I don't have any issues with taking off my clothes in front of other people. Other people may have issues but if they don't than it's OK.
Plus, the girl is making money that way, usually quite a decent sum. To be honest, I find working as a janitor and cleaning up leftover shit from toilets or standing behind the counter at McDonalds and being nice to assholes (both for minimum wage) more degrading than that.

Again, that's just my weird little opinion.

 

[Fuhrlock]

As someone said before, if your immediate thought of employment is taking your clothes off instead of a respectable job, then you have some major issues that should be looked into.

also, nude beaches =/= strip clubs.

While working at a fast food restaurant is degrading in some parts, at least you had your dignity. Again, if you would rather take your clothes off for complete strangers than do actual work then you have some issues.

Would I date a Stripper, no, even I have standards, one of which is that the woman has to have standards herself, showing off to numerous guys every night shows that she doesn't mind it.

But hey, its your opinion, if you would want a girl that doesn't mind shaking her ass at complete strangers that could lead to other things, go for it, I would rather have a woman that has self respect

Feel free to enlighten me but why is what a stripper does instantly cost them their dignity and self respect? They take off their clothes and people pay them, wheres the harm in that? They offer a service people want and it doesn't hurt anyone, my word how very shameful. There are people who do alot more harm in their jobs than strippers do in theirs so you've got alot more of humanity to add to that 'will not date a' list

 

[HardkorSB]

I couldn't date a stripper, not because 'it could be a gateway drug to other evil things, like veganism!', but to me a woman who strips for (usually) a living is okay with multiple men watching her nightly.

Yeah, so?

Jealousy? Not really, its more of having standards, which to me a girl who strip has either low or nonexistent standards.

Have you ever met and talked to any strippers or are you just making a generalization?

Also, lol, "if you wont date a stripper, you are oversensitive and insecure".

Not what I said but whatever.

yes you did.

It would be impossible to date her only if you were one of those oversensitive insecure guys who think that stripping is the "gateway drug" to prostitution.

Eh, I don't like doing this but here's a short tutorial:

"It would be impossible only if you were one of those guys" means that otherwise, it is possible. It doesn't have to happen but it's possible.
"If you won't date a stripper, you're one of those guys" means that saying no automatically makes you oversensitive and insecure.
Those are 2 different things.

if your immediate thought of employment is taking your clothes off instead of a respectable job

I've worked some of the crappy minimum wage jobs and I don't perceive them as respectable.
Most of the time, you're surrounded by people you don't like, getting treated like shit by the people in charge, doing things you don't like doing (no one does) and getting paid little for it.
Again, just my opinion.

I'm of the mind that stripping is perfectly fine. Heck, if done right, pole dancing could qualify as an olympic sport.

Exhibit 1A:

 

[solemnwar]

Poledancing/stripping looks fun. As a heterosexual female I don't really get anything out of it in a sexual sense, but it's fairly entertaining to watch on an aesthetic level.


OT: I wouldn't dump them. It's the year 2012 FFS I thought we were supposed to be done with the whole slutshaming thing?
Orite that's never going to happen silly me...

 

[recurve6]

That would be weird but that wouldn't change her as a person, honestly, because it's just a job, really.

 

[Right Hook]

I think you'd be in the right to break up with her, plenty of people are uncomfortable about such behavior and it isn't your fault if it is simple a line you don't want to cross. She should be understanding of it but you need to explain yourself, not simply break it off and disappear because that would be shitty.

I'd be a little upset that she didn't tell me right away but I'd understand why she didn't. It's important to get to know who someone is before you know what they are doing on a daily basis, you'll miss out on a lot of opportunities if you judge people based on activities alone.

I'm against stripping, I don't mind that some guys like it but it isn't for me. I've never been to a strip club and I plan on keeping it that way for as long as circumstances allow me to. With that being said, I think I'd have trouble dating her, simply because I don't like it and I don't associate well with the type of men it usually tends to attract.

For me I think it would depend on why she was doing it, if she had some other aspirations she was working towards then I might be okay with it. If it was something she planned on doing permanently, I'd probably walk away from the relationship. Also I'd have to know the conditions she was working in and how far things went on the job, if she's getting felt up and doing "stuff" to dudes in backrooms then there is no way I could stay with her.

 

[the abyss gazes also]

Let's take this hypothetical situation, what would you do if you found out that the girl you've fallen for and been going out with for a while is a stripper? would it be wrong to just dump her and never speak to her again because you judged her before you got to know the situation she's in and offer her support? or do you have the right to break up with her knowing that she did not trust you enough to tell you(in essence making her own judgement) and the thought of all the guys that have seen and touched her would is just unbearable?

In this hypothetical several people have assumed a lie was said. Let's define find out? Was theoretically guy going to a strip club? How did he find out? Was there actually any deception?

Unless there was an actual lie (which goes to the trust issue) then dumping her would make you an uptight prick.

And even if there was deception it is probably because we have this huge stigma. I went to college with several strippers. They were really cool people. It's a job. Sack up.

 

[ameemo]

i really appreciate peoples thoughts and comments. I think that relationships should be based on trust and truth right from the beginning, if not then little things will start to creep up later on and will make it difficult no matter how much love you have and will eventually destroy the relationship. Bottom line is feelings change, people change, no matter how much you love someone and no matter how much you believe you can never leave them, a time will come when you'll feel nothing for them and you'll actually be like "what was i thinking?"