First Break Up

[Link55]

My ex-girlfriend and I just recently broke up and where I am happy we can still be friends and such I don't know how to deal with it healthily. We dated long distance for several months until she told me that it felt like we were just going through the motions and she didn't know if she wanted to break up or not and that she would give me her answer, a day after not eating, sleeping, pretty much just crying, I realized that I understand her feelings and I would rather us be friends than her be in a washed up relationship. So I broke things off last night she cried a little but I helped her and for the most part were happier. But how do I deal with this hurt? I don't want to shove myself into video games like what I usually do with my problems so what do I do?

 

[Smooth Operator]

Pick a new hobby, go out with friends frequently, try new things,... essentially you need to establish for yourself that life goes on just fine even if it currently feels like some great tragedy has left you stranded with nothing.

Also this depends on how strong your nerves are, but if you of the over-analyzing type you might want to keep contact with the ex to a minimum until the worst blows over. Sure being friends is nice but it is also torture to have them just at the edge of your reach.

 

[Tiger King]

Sorry to hear that link55.
Being in a long distance takes a lot of work and sadly, sometimes they just don't work out.
Time is the healer they say and that is what it is going to take for you to move on.
Could take weeks or some months but eventually you will stop thinking about her as much and the pain will recede until you come to this kind of acceptance.

In the meantime, keep busy, go out with friends and pursue your hobbies and interests. There will be times when you will feel pretty low and not want to do those things, but it is important to push yourself so you move on.
Good luck friend.

 

[Blitsie]

Time is pretty much the only thing that's going to heal things up here unfortunately, but you will move on and be a better person for it

Ultimately just keep yourself busy with whatever you can and try your best to keep your mind off things, do you have any friends you can call up and arrange something with? Back when I went through my first break-up I ended up getting horribly trashed that same night with my friends which was great because I was too busy having fun to dwell on things. I also ended up taking on a new martial art which I still do to this day because its just having such a positive effect in my life.

Fact is some really low times are going to be ahead for you and you're going to feel shit, but just keep it in the back of your mind that there are fantastic highs and a much better suited girl for you to still experience in the end as well. Stay awesome man!

 

[Link55]

Thank you everyone all of your advice helped ill keep it in my mind especislly when I'm down. >^u^>