First date advice/experiences

[Leemaster777]

Personally, my chosen place to take someone for a first date is the local comedy club.

There's this place in Tampa called Side Splitters that always great for a good time. And they usually get pretty famous comedians there, too.

I've seen Larry Miller and Ralphie May live. Got to meet both of them briefly, too.

So, yeah, that's my advice, try a comedy club.

Also, for personal experiences, if your date decides to bring up her dead fiancee during the date, it PROBABLY won't end well. Just saying.

(for anyone interested, this is Larry Miller and Ralphie May)

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[Colour Scientist]

A casual dinner or drink is usually a nice starting point. To me, the cinema is where you go for your very first date ever, like when you're 12 or 13.

 

[MassiveGeek]

Okay, so blah blah backstory blah I'm going on a first date with someone but I have no idea what to do. I've heard movies are bad because you talk too little, but dinner is bad because you talk too much. I've only been on one date before where we walked around the local park, and it was a trainwreck of awkwardness.

What would you guys recommend for a first date, and how have your previous first dates been? Feel free to share stories and whatnot. (And ftr, she's not a stranger, I've known her since school started, and we already hang out.)

You don't have to take a completely different turn just because you're going on a date. If you already hang out with her, then you already know, or should at least be able to guess, what she and you enjoy doing.
If what you've done when you've hung out is walk around town and look at shops, or had coffee, or just been at home acting like dweebs, just do that.

There's absolutely no need to change how you hang out, really.
But if you're really looking for some sort of mold for how to make the date good, here's what I would do:

I'd meet up with her in town, have lunch together, then if we're up for it and it isn't crowded as hell I'd walk around a bit with her, check out the stores, have a chat, just casually hang out. Then when we got tired, or felt like it, we could just go back to mine or her place, relax, maybe watch a movie or a TV show, play some games, if we could get to that point, cuddle and have a nice meal maybe go out to a restaurant if we were up for it or get a take away. If she wanted to, she could even stay over, or I'd just walk her home(or at least to the train *Lazy*).

Something like that. It doesn't have to be a huge deal.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Asking her what she wants to do might work better than asking net randoms.

 

[Firefighting Bear]

Pretty much created an account just to help you out, I used to have crippling anxiety about this.

2 general rules for a first date. First is to pick something where you can have fun. There's no one location for this, it depends on what you enjoy yourself, and what she enjoys. If you're into sport, go to a sports game, arty things go somewhere arty etc. Dinner and drinks can go with anything but on their own I find it awkward to start conversation at a restaurant.

Second rule is to be confidant. Without it you're boned. Which is why I always do something i find fun first, to help me relax.

And as for first date stories, can't get pretty much worse than mine. My first first date, we arrange to meet at a bar (we were 18), but I arrive early, much too early. I start drinking to get my courage up, and by the time she arrives I've had more than a few. So we start talking and drinking and keep it up, having pretty good banter throughout and things are looking good. We stay until closing time, and then walk home (I am completely hammered at this point). I walk her to her front door, and as luck would have it, get a goodnight kiss. However after this kiss I was immeadiately sick. On her face. Never did hear from her again.

 

[Red Bomb]

I am going out with someone on saturday and here in the UK it's bonfire night so we are going to a nice pub in a decent part of town and then going to see the fireworks. Not overly "romantic" but not too casual either. Apart from that, no idea mate. My perfect night is pizza, beer and 6 or 7 mates crammed into my living room with eir xbox's :/
(I'm female btw)

 

[Fireshot25]

A great first date Ive been on was when I took a girl hiking a mountain. You mostly just walk together but since its tiring you have an excuse not to talk as much. . If you find a good rest spot then you can talk and get to know her more, talk about the view etc. If things get awkward or you run out of things to say just ask her if shes ready to keep climbing. Its the perfect scapegoat. Plus, there are other people there so its doesn't have the same pressure on you as 1 on 1 would (you can always venture a little off the trail if you want to be alone). It's a good hour or two together and you can show that you can enjoy nature and are an active person.

 

[ViciousTide]

Avoid Bars at all costs. See posts above! Plus your date can easily meet new people and be swindled away from you by someone who doesn't care about people and just sex, see the Jershey Shore.

Activity Clubs are a great first date, and going out to do something fun is vital. When you are taking action to do anything it shows your personality, your confidence, your compotence, and who you are. All things the girls want to see and you want to see of them. Most will judge you and see if you are worthy for them for the first ten dates...even if you kiss it means nothing until they have finished their judgement period...

Also never ask about beliefs on a first date, not until your 20th date...it will scare any woman away for some reason. Beliefs are to complex and personal for a first date chatter.
Lutherans will judge/hate Catholics with a passion, but will marry them if they didn't know about it at first and get to know you/trust you first..stupid right?

The secret gates will open when trust and security for longer relationship are formed. If those gates are rushed, than expect to lose that person, or you to have fallen for a psycho ***** who slaps u everywhere in public! Don't stand up for any person/date anyone who is irresponsible, pychaotic, unmmoral/intentionally evil, or who just wants sex with you, your roommates, and all your friends boy or girl. Those type of people will destroy you, your relationships, and your future.

Be warned!

 

[DiMono]

Since you're already on good terms with her, just do what you do already with her, only with more physical contact. You know what you're both interested in, so do that, toss in some innuendo, grab a bite to eat, and when the time is right, whip it out and say "Here's your dessert."

Note: that last part is satire. Don't actually do that.

 

[NezumiiroKitsune]

If you're friends, do something you both normally do, with the intention this time of becoming closer, which is just what you do normally but over a much shorter period of time. Since you're both aware it's a romantic date, you have no problem being a little more intimate.

Mostly though, what you normally do. Also by no means do I mean you have to talk about intimate things. If you both really want to talk about how much you like synapse transmission and hate how unfairly it's portrayed in rom-coms, then do that.

Surely this should be easier since you know each other. It doesn't have to be resoundingly romantic, an enrapturing cascade of wonderment. It's a FIRST date. Not your 5 year anniversary. Stupid small stuff full of nostalgia potential is the basis for cliché ridden first date stories. If it's awkward and a bit shit, it wouldn't be the first successful relationship to start that way.

A film is fine though, John Green did it.

 

[Eggsnham]

Okay, so blah blah backstory blah I'm going on a first date with someone but I have no idea what to do. I've heard movies are bad because you talk too little, but dinner is bad because you talk too much. I've only been on one date before where we walked around the local park, and it was a trainwreck of awkwardness.

What would you guys recommend for a first date, and how have your previous first dates been? Feel free to share stories and whatnot. (And ftr, she's not a stranger, I've known her since school started, and we already hang out.)

Go bowling and tell as many dead baby jokes as you can. Make sure to have someone film it in the background.

The date won't be successful, but the resulting video will be worth a few laughs.

Seriously now, I'd recommend something like bowling. Something that gives time to socialize, but provides something else to do when conversation material runs thin.

Then, if all else fails, you can just talk about bowling. It's a bit desperate, but it's better than awkward silence.

 

[sanomaton]

No idea, I've never really been on a date. Even though I've been with 3 girls and am now married.

I can tell you what I did do. We invited each other over to each others houses and did whatever. Sometimes we played video games, sometimes we watched movies, sometimes we left the house to go get something to eat or walk in the park. But it always was a "hey do you want to come over?"

Never understood the "dirtiness" of just going to their house or them going to yours. It doesn't mean your having sex...

I'd suggest the same, just hanging out! Going to the movies might be a good idea and having a cup of tea/coffee at your house or her house afterwards... I don't know why it should be made such a big deal.

I've only been on an actual "date" once and it was waaaaay awkward (at least for me). We went to this fancy restaurant to eat, the food was good but it just felt really silly and awkward to be there. But, thank goodness I had already hung out a lot with the guy a lot so we just laughed it off afterwards. (How it happened: saw each other at a club, danced, came back over to my place, hung out at each other's places every now and then and now we're officially a couple... Didn't need a date for that to happen but we both took the date as an experience that doesn't necessarily need to be repeated )

 

[pppppppppppppppppp]

Pretty much created an account just to help you out, I used to have crippling anxiety about this.

2 general rules for a first date. First is to pick something where you can have fun. There's no one location for this, it depends on what you enjoy yourself, and what she enjoys. If you're into sport, go to a sports game, arty things go somewhere arty etc. Dinner and drinks can go with anything but on their own I find it awkward to start conversation at a restaurant.

Second rule is to be confidant. Without it you're boned. Which is why I always do something i find fun first, to help me relax.

And as for first date stories, can't get pretty much worse than mine. My first first date, we arrange to meet at a bar (we were 18), but I arrive early, much too early. I start drinking to get my courage up, and by the time she arrives I've had more than a few. So we start talking and drinking and keep it up, having pretty good banter throughout and things are looking good. We stay until closing time, and then walk home (I am completely hammered at this point). I walk her to her front door, and as luck would have it, get a goodnight kiss. However after this kiss I was immeadiately sick. On her face. Never did hear from her again.

Thanks for going through the trouble just to help, appreciate it.

That really sucks, though I don't need to worry since she doesn't drink and we're under 21 anyway. She loves (crappy) music, so I wanted to take her to a concert, but we hardly ever get musicians playing here, and I need something to do this weekend. I do share that awkwardness problem though.

I'm thinking just going to the town square and getting pizza and coffee, something like that...

 

[Firefighting Bear]

Thanks for going through the trouble just to help, appreciate it.

That really sucks, though I don't need to worry since she doesn't drink and we're under 21 anyway. She loves (crappy) music, so I wanted to take her to a concert, but we hardly ever get musicians playing here, and I need something to do this weekend. I do share that awkwardness problem though.

I'm thinking just going to the town square and getting pizza and coffee, something like that...

You're welcome.

Coffee and pizza sounds cool. Don't worry about taking her to see a massive band or whatever, how about a local band of whatever genre she likes? They don't even have to be that good, as long as it creates an enviroment where you're comfortable, and it gives you something to talk about.

Let us know how it goes as well.