first date and asking out ideas
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Sort of. I mean there are a shitload of possibilities for first dates that could work, it really depends on you and the person you want to date. I only give suggestions because it gives someone an idea on how to think of something fun and interesting to do on a first date.SillyBear said:
Still, there are a few key tips that DO work.
-Do something that tells her something about you. As a gamer, taking a girl to an arcade is a great idea. Obviously not all girls go for that, but if you're interested in that kind of girl, then she might not like the fact that you're a gamer regardless of what you do for dates. Shit, just doing something like going to an arcade, then asking here "Where to next?" lets her make her own suggestions about what to do.
-Doing something original, or at least not typical makes you stand out. Girls, especially the attractive ones, tend to be more receptive to someone who stands out, or does things that could be considered out of the box.
-Don't plan for a long evening out. First dates are just testing the waters. If you choose to do so, then you could easily find something to do on the fly.
One thing's for sure. For first dates, there are a few don'ts.
Movie: It might work for high school dates, because, like, dating is like, soOOOoo cool! For anyone else, it's just not a good idea. The point of a first date is to get to know the person. You're testing the waters. What's the point of spending an hour or two fixated to a giant screen when you won't be talking to each other?
Romance: Ugh... Nothing says trying too hard than being too romantic. Adding small bits of romance to a first date isn't bad (in fact it can probably work) , but focusing mainly on romance on a first date just won't work. You're not really romantically involved yet. Being too romantic makes it seem like you're trying to force things.
If you have trouble maintaining a conversation with someone (like me, seriously what the fuck do you talk about?), then take her out to something that is engaging. For example, playing pool, you can focus on your shot, which gives you time to think a little. When you get a conversation to click, then the rest just falls into place really.
Nope, sorry. You're doing exactly what I told the OP not to listen to. If a girl wants to date you, she'll date you. Before the date she knows exactly how much she likes you and if she is serious she'll stick with you and if she is just going to be polite, she is not going to stick with you. Sure she might have fun, she might not, but she would have already made up her mind on you and things like attraction, chemistry, body language, perception and natural personality are the things that matter. The arbitrary shit you do on the date itself means next to nothing.Zer_ said:
Relationships aren't a science. There is very little you can do on a first date that would "woo" girls over. We females are pretty much the same as you, we don't need to be lead through ridiculous and elaborate hoops to like you. We do or we don't. Simple. If a girl likes you, than just simply inviting them over and going for a walk in the park is enough.
I really can't stress this enough OP, don't buy into this rubbish. You are going to be way too preoccupied on the activity you chose to do and you'll forget the really important thing: SHE HAS TO LIKE YOU. And you aren't going to win her over or make her realise how much she wants you by taking her out for a game of putt-putt golf or doing something that you think is really "cool, fun and unique". Sorry, we aren't five year olds. We might like the day out and have a really fun time, but if we don't like you - we don't like you.
It's really fucking simple haha.
SillyBear said:
You seem to think that I'm putting this advice forward as some magical way to get the girl, and that's just plain stupid. Of course there isn't. If there's no way she'll like you, then there's shit all you can do about that. I'm making my post on the assumption that the OP isn't a complete retard that thinks he can "woo" the girl with some dating formula.
The idea that a movie is a bad idea for a first date assumes that you and whoever you're going out with don't know each other beyond a first impression. So no, beyond maybe a little bit of curiosity, and physical attraction. If there's something that can help you express yourself better during a date, then why not take advice into consideration.
Unless you really don't care for dates at all, you can't tell me that going out and having a blast on a first date doesn't factor into things at all. Let's say you date two guys (I don't care if you're not like that, it's hypothetical for a reason). You see equal potential in both of them. One takes you on a pretty typical dinner/movie combo. The other takes you somewhere that appeals to you more. Aside from that difference, there's nothing that really stands out between one or the other. Who do you go for in the end?
