First date for a high schooler?

[FinalHeart95]

So yeah, asked a girl out, got a yes, woo hoo. Now the problem is finding where the hell I'm supposed to go. I know movies aren't exactly great first dates, but my town doesn't have much else. I've seen walks in the park as a good choice, which might work. We're both also huge into music, so I was considering going to Tunes (a local music store) and just walking around the other stores afterward.

My main problem is budget. Being a high schooler without a job I'm low on money. So expensive options are a no-go. Any other options here? I'm pretty much run dry of ideas.

 

[lemiel14n3]

Ok, don't go wandering around stores for a first date, especially if you're working on a budget.

The important thing to remember is, that on a first date, what you want is conversation. This is the date where you get to know each other.

One of the best things you can do for a first date is having a meal together. Go to a decent restaurant. or if you're really strapped for cash, make something. (pasta is easy to make, it just needs sauce, and it's really cheap.)

Don't go cheesy either, this is not a date for grand romantic gestures. Casual or Semi-Casual would be best. (in terms of dress code, sports coat is fine, tux means you're trying way too hard)

 

[YourSoCoolBrewster]

Out of your options, I'd say go with the Tunes idea. Sounds pretty solid, would provide some excellent conversation starters. I'd save the walk in the park for a 3rd or 4th date. I'm a proponet of movie + coffee afterwards. It's an excellent first date, in my opinion, movie is a public place, allows you to be with her without forcing you to constantly keep a conversation going, then take her out for coffee. While you two are enjoying coffee, the movie should've provided some talking points. If you guys end up going on more dates, just be sure to vary it up really, all the ideas you have are pretty sound. Plus, the more you get to know her, the more you'll know what she likes to do. Hope that helped.

 

[MistressGarbutt]

Picnic in the park then go see a movie?

 

[Imp Poster]

So yeah, asked a girl out, got a yes, woo hoo. Now the problem is finding where the hell I'm supposed to go. I know movies aren't exactly great first dates, but my town doesn't have much else. I've seen walks in the park as a good choice, which might work. We're both also huge into music, so I was considering going to Tunes (a local music store) and just walking around the other stores afterward.

My main problem is budget. Being a high schooler without a job I'm low on money. So expensive options are a no-go. Any other options here? I'm pretty much run dry of ideas.

Not sure, how expensive is getting into ice or roller rinks? Hmm, do they even exist though where you are at? Is there music venues where local bands or starting bands go to play that you can go to? NY has a famous punk club like that. I am not sure if they are still up though or they still roll like that, CBGB & OMFUG. In my area, there is the GLASS HOUSE, but dam, they got expensive. Just to give you an idea what I am talking about: http://www.theglasshouse.us/v1/home.html

 

[FinalHeart95]

Not sure, how expensive is getting into ice or roller rinks? Hmm, do they even exist though where you are at? Is there music venues where local bands or starting bands go to play that you can go to? NY has a famous punk club like that. I am not sure if they are still up though or they still roll like that, CBGB & OMFUG. In my area, there is the GLASS HOUSE, but dam, they got expensive. Just to give you an idea what I am talking about: http://www.theglasshouse.us/v1/home.html

The nearest roller/ice rink is quite the drive. And there are local shows, but I don't know how often they happen. It's not like something where there's a show EVERY WEEK, it's kind of sporadic.

Ok, don't go wandering around stores for a first date, especially if you're working on a budget.

The important thing to remember is, that on a first date, what you want is conversation. This is the date where you get to know each other.

One of the best things you can do for a first date is having a meal together. Go to a decent restaurant. or if you're really strapped for cash, make something. (pasta is easy to make, it just needs sauce, and it's really cheap.)

Don't go cheesy either, this is not a date for grand romantic gestures. Casual or Semi-Casual would be best. (in terms of dress code, sports coat is fine, tux means you're trying way too hard)

Well, I was considering going to Tunes then walking around the surrounding area, which happens to have a lot of stores. I wasn't necessarily considering going into many of them.

And that seems to be the problem I'm having, I need to find some way that we can hold a conversation. That's why I thought Tunes, because that way we could talk music since we're both into it so much. I figure I'd work off of the major common interest that I know we both have. The thing with a meal is that if it's not going well it's hard to get out, though.

...Mind you, we're in high school. I wasn't even thinking about wearing a tux, or anything close to that, really.

Out of your options, I'd say go with the Tunes idea. Sounds pretty solid, would provide some excellent conversation starters. I'd save the walk in the park for a 3rd or 4th date. I'm a proponet of movie + coffee afterwards. It's an excellent first date, in my opinion, movie is a public place, allows you to be with her without forcing you to constantly keep a conversation going, then take her out for coffee. While you two are enjoying coffee, the movie should've provided some talking points. If you guys end up going on more dates, just be sure to vary it up really, all the ideas you have are pretty sound. Plus, the more you get to know her, the more you'll know what she likes to do. Hope that helped.

I'd do movie and coffee.... but I hate coffee. I get where you're coming from though, and the idea works. Maybe movie and then find somewhere else to converse? The problem is finding somewhere else to talk. I don't think the movie lobby would work particularly well.

Like the advice from everyone though. Thanks!

 

[zombiesinc]

So yeah, asked a girl out, got a yes, woo hoo. Now the problem is finding where the hell I'm supposed to go. I know movies aren't exactly great first dates, but my town doesn't have much else. I've seen walks in the park as a good choice, which might work. We're both also huge into music, so I was considering going to Tunes (a local music store) and just walking around the other stores afterward.

My main problem is budget. Being a high schooler without a job I'm low on money. So expensive options are a no-go. Any other options here? I'm pretty much run dry of ideas.

Go to this 'Tunes' store, possibly buy a few albums between the two of you, then go for a walk in the park. Sit down and further discuss your purchases, and musical interests. From there, hopefully, the conversation will branch off into other things you two share, or enjoy.

Movies are a horrible first, second, third date destination. Movies mean sitting beside one another, not talking, not paying attention to anything besides the film. Save that for later on in the relationship, if it takes that route.

Don't stress too much about this first date. What's important is getting to know one another, and conversation. Beyond that really, everything's a bonus. Good luck!

 

[DougNotDougie]

As a fellow high schooler (I also am in college... but its complicated) I would suggest the movies and a dinner or lunch. You would have to buy her ticket and the food... On a date your not supposed to go dutch; it will make you look cheap.. Compliment her.. Using things like "Your Beautiful". Saying things like "hey babe, Your hot." Is never a good idea....
Good luck.

 

[BonsaiK]

So yeah, asked a girl out, got a yes, woo hoo. Now the problem is finding where the hell I'm supposed to go. I know movies aren't exactly great first dates, but my town doesn't have much else. I've seen walks in the park as a good choice, which might work. We're both also huge into music, so I was considering going to Tunes (a local music store) and just walking around the other stores afterward.

My main problem is budget. Being a high schooler without a job I'm low on money. So expensive options are a no-go. Any other options here? I'm pretty much run dry of ideas.

The music store. What girl doesn't like shopping? Just walk around, look at stuff, have a chat, have fun and maybe get some food or something. Sounds like a great stress-free first date.

 

[Silentsmoke1990]

Picnic in the park then go see a movie?

That picnic in the park is a real gem of an idea. I only wish I didn't live in Scotland, (our version being a picnic on the living room floor.) as to the money situation, try to borrow some off your parents, surely your old man would slip you some cash if he knew it was for his sons first date?

 

[Zaverexus]

I know movies aren't exactly great first dates, but my town doesn't have much else. I've seen walks in the park as a good choice, which might work. We're both also huge into music, so I was considering going to Tunes (a local music store) and just walking around the other stores afterward.

Movies can be just fine if you can find the right one (something you are both interested in, or a comedy, or something you can discuss) and if the theater is in a mall pizza or walking around are always good choices (walking around can be less awkward)
All of the things you listed seem like good options otherwise

 

[Zaverexus]

I know movies aren't exactly great first dates, but my town doesn't have much else. I've seen walks in the park as a good choice, which might work. We're both also huge into music, so I was considering going to Tunes (a local music store) and just walking around the other stores afterward.

Movies can be just fine if you can find the right one (something you are both interested in, or a comedy, or something you can discuss) and if the theater is in a mall pizza or walking around are always good choices (walking around can be less awkward)
All of the things you listed seem like good options otherwise

I disagree to an extent. Movies can be fine, but not really for a first date. You want to spend your time getting to know that person, what they're about, interests and stuff like that. Sure, you could go out afterword and do that but sometimes you don;t have that much time to really make the first impression that you like someone, and that's an hour/2 hours you won't get back. :x

Now if you know them, and are going out and things are established, movies seem fine to me but they don't offer the one on one time you could be using to grow/develop with someone otherwise. :x

Just my opinion though!

No, I see what you mean and it makes sense. I'm just not always a big talker so if you have something like a movie to discuss then there's something

 

[M Rotter]

I think the Tunes store is a good idea also, just (and i know this sounds weird) but think about musical conversations to have with her beforehand so that if you get nervous and tongue-tied, you arent just spouting nonsense for an hour. Again i know it sounds strange, but dont underestimate in-the-moment nervousness. Im not saying plan your whole conversation but make a list of bands you really like (and maybe divide them into 2 categories-ones you think she already listens to and ones you'd like to introduce her to. If you introduce her to music youll give her a strong tie to you because your that guy who got her to start listening to it) and why you like them and interesting things about the band itself etc. Then i think getting coffee afterwards is a great idea, especially if you can find a coffee shop in a bookstore (then you guys can either go wander around the manga section if thats what you like, or get into nice conversations about books, which always make for meaningful conversations.) And best of all, coffee is cheap without it seeming like youre trying to get out of paying for things-also if you have enough extra cash, buying her a cd or book would probably go a long way. I would wait for a movie only because there tends to be a certain expectation when you go to the movies (holding hands, things like that) so i would wait until you have a firmer (heh) relationship with her to take her to a movie. I remember one of my first dates (went to see Return of the King) and being uncomfortable for 3 hours because i was nervous that he was going to kiss me the whole time (i wanted him to but i was 13 so both of us were super shy). You want to steer away from anything that could potentially turn into something uncomfortable for either of you.

wow...that post ended up being longer than i ever expected hope it helps!