First Kiss

[Jewrean]

So as a few of you may know from a recent thread I created I'm currently dating a girl (holy shit a real one you ask? Not inflatable?). Now according to this family guy skit the perfect time to wait for the first kiss with a girl is the third date. My first date out with her was for coffee, a walk in the park, and a nice peaceful drive in the hills of a beautiful day. Our second date was to the movies and we saw 'Easy A' (her choice of course). I nonchalantly commented that the movie was "Decent" and we had Pizza at an Italian restaurant nearby after-wards (albeit a very pedestrian restaurant). So subconsciously in the back of my head I was basically thinking it was too early to kiss her after dropping her back home and walking her to her door. It didn't occur to me that she wanted to kiss. It wasn't until I was at home later that night when she sent me a message saying "You didn't kiss me goodnight waaah ". I sent her a message back saying that I was saving it for something special (pulled that out of my Arse!).

So my question to all of you is when do you think is the right time to kiss (/or other relevant milestone) with someone. Do you jump in straight away or give some time for it to settle down a bit and really get to know each-other? What's your plan of attack?

OH! And I need an awesome idea for our next date. Discuss!

 

[Stormpigeon]

Ignore any and all advice from Family Guy. Kiss her if you want to and she wants you to.
As for a second date, Paintball would be awesome! Or maybe just something simple like getting her round yours and cooking her a meal and renting a movie. Again, do what feels right.

 

[aPod]

Junior, the right time is whenever it happens. When you feel it, you go for it. Now that i'm in my 20's I can honestly say it doesn't matter, it's such an innocent thing comparatively.

 

[Jewrean]

Ignore any and all advice from Family Guy. Kiss her if you want to and she wants you to.
As for a second date, Paintball would be awesome! Or maybe just something simple like getting her round yours and cooking her a meal and renting a movie. Again, do what feels right.

Hehe yeah I'm not going to take advice from family guy. Just thought it was relevant and that it would satiate the readers that come for the 'lols'.

I did suggest Paintball and she thought it sounded like a good idea. In-fact I'm going to one in November so I will probably drag her along. Tomorrow she's coming over to mine and we are going to 'hang' and watch a 'flick'.

Whenever it occurs.

Treating a kiss like a carefully planned and thought out mission is a great way to ruin the fun and romance of a relationship.

True but if you knew me you would know I'm fairly devoid of emotion and treat everything like a planned out tactical nuclear strike. I've heard girls like a challenge and the whole puppy-dog thing to help nurture and change guys for the better so maybe that's why she is dating me? Or maybe she thinks I'm acting this way as a joke and that I'm going to be normal any second now... maybe now... Noooooww.....

How the hell would I know? I don't even know how to ask somebody out!

Neither do I. This is what happened for me! Shitty night club. A friend (wing-man) walked up to girls and said he was getting married (showed them his ring) and also informed them he had a baby on the way (which he does). They seemed overjoyed by this and began to hug him immediately (wtf?). He then told them that he was looking for some nice girls for his two very handsome and kind friends (no I'm not joking). Then we started dancing. Then she asked ME for my number.

So... get a wing-man... they work wonders!

Junior, the right time is whenever it happens. When you feel it, you go for it. Now that i'm in my 20's I can honestly say it doesn't matter, it's such an innocent thing comparatively.

It's quite funny reading that actually because I'm in my 20's too. However because I'm a 'NEEEERRRDD!' no one ever liked me in high school and I never went out with anyone (and god knows I tried). It's only now that I've shed my reputation and the oily odor of teasing douche-bags that I've been able to just be me.

 

[aPod]

Junior, the right time is whenever it happens. When you feel it, you go for it. Now that i'm in my 20's I can honestly say it doesn't matter, it's such an innocent thing comparatively.

It's quite funny reading that actually because I'm in my 20's too. However because I'm a 'NEEEERRRDD!' no one ever liked me in high school and I never went out with anyone (and god knows I tried). It's only now that I've shed my reputation and the oily odor of teasing douche-bags that I've been able to just be me.

Sorry brother man, I just assumed, didn't mean to be patronizing or anything. I also am a nerd, so i understand, even if i was never teased and the ladies always loved me.

Good luck with your lady.

 

[Dags90]

Now that i'm in my 20's I can honestly say it doesn't matter, it's such an innocent thing comparatively.

I've pretty much always had that view. Makes some amount of sense to me to weed out the bad kissers early on.

 

[Jewrean]

Now that i'm in my 20's I can honestly say it doesn't matter, it's such an innocent thing comparatively.

I've pretty much always had that view. Makes some amount of sense to me to weed out the bad kissers early on.

So bad kisser = not worth time?

Reminds me of that Lily Allen song where she's talking about her boyfriend who is awesome in every way (sensitive, handy, etc) but sucks in bed so she dumps him. LOL!

Sorry brother man, I just assumed, didn't mean to be patronizing or anything. I also am a nerd, so i understand, even if i was never teased and the ladies always loved me.

Good luck with your lady.

No worries! Cheers!

When you can get a friend to hold her down.

Whenever it comes natural. Planning things like this is just silly in my opinion, especially when she seems to genuinely want a kiss from you. Don't rush it, don't take forever, just do it when it feels right for you.

You're absolutely right... but to be honest it hadn't even crossed my mind to kiss her yet because we were just having so much fun. I don't want it to turn out to be 'just friends' either.

 

[Sebenko]

You should have said that you were taking the advice of Familiy Guy.

Clearly, it was the best solution.

 

[Timmehexas]

It depends on the relationship, my current boyfriend and I made out quite a lot on our first date. But we'd flirted quite openly and talked a lot over the internet before we ever had our first date, so it sought of got all the small talk out of the way...

 

[TheTinyMan]

My usual timing before the big M was "when it becomes a strong effort to NOT do something" (which for me is usually almost right away ) "and I'm pretty sure they want me to do it." And if I'm not sure about that last, do it extra-gently, in a way that makes it as easy for them to end it as for them to go with it.

Sounds dorkish I guess, but I'm now married to a great girl, so something worked! ^.^

 

[Betancore]

Depends, really. I wouldn't say there's a set 'right time' for anyone. There's no law saying you have to do it after a certain number or dates or anything. Since she seems to want a kiss from you, then why not kiss her when it seems appropriate on your next date?

I've figured out by now that the first time I kiss a guy, the only way I can make it not awkward is if I initiate it myself. So I do that, mostly. It works quite well.

 

[spartan231490]

my plan, is to kiss her when it feels right. scripting it beyond that just leads to problems like the one you experienced.

 

[AusQB]

It's too late, you're already in the friend zone.

 

[shadyh8er]

Just do what Hitch said: when you take her to her place and she looks like she's stalling just to make her time with you last longer, that usually means she's ready. Of course you have to test the waters first. Make eye contact then lean in but not all the way. Oh, and tilt your head to the left when you kiss her. (Just joking about that last sentence. Scrubs reference).

 

[Mutie]

Second date, no tongue. As for special; do it at a time when you find he really attractive. Like when she's just said something really cute or funny. If you know she wants you to kiss her, then you can't really worry about timing on her part, just do it when it feels right; when you really want to. Then it will be a good kiss.