This is my first time living away from home and it's in a foreign country. Everything was fine at first but one of my flatmates had to move back home so now there's only two of us. Two weeks ago my flatmate said "My girlfriend's coming round to stay tomorrow, is that OK?". When I asked how long for she dodged the question but I eventually managed to get "About a week" out of her. So two weeks later she's still here. I asked how long she would be staying since she said 'about a week' and it's been two weeks. She replied with "Is it a problem?". I said I would just like to know and she told me 'It's as and when really'. So... For all I know it could be months.
It was no problem having her around at first but about two or three days after she started staying here the police came to our door. Turns out they'd had an argument in the street and someone called the police on them. My flatmate also had a black eye which she said she got from falling. Eventually the police left and they apologised to me. A couple of days later I see my flatmate hiding something in our old flatmate's wardrobe. She sees me and just goes to her room without a word. I look inside and it turns out she's hiding her phone, which is a bit concerning. I ask her to take the rubbish out with me as an excuse to talk to her but her girlfriend follows. They spend most of the time in her room, only leaving to make food, go to the bathroom or go out.
Nothing of that nature has happened since then and everything seems fine. However, they don't tidy up after themselves, which is really starting to get to me. Every surface in the kitchen is covered in cheese and crumbs and they've dropped teabags on the floor and haven't bothered cleaning it up so it's just covered in tea stains. My flatmate has barely contributed anything to the flat and to my knowledge has never cleaned any room in the flat since she got here, leaving it all to me and the flatmate that moved out. Now I'm on my own it's all becoming a bit much. I spent a whole day scrubbing the place before they got here and now it's a wreck. Also, this morning I went into the bathroom and discovered that they had left some balled up toilet paper with blood on it lying on top of my towels. There were two empty shelves above them, and there's the bin in the bathroom along with the toilet they could have used instead. It's like they're trying to annoy me but I have been nothing but nice. I clean, tidy up after myself, buy stuff for the flat if we need it, I've made her food, gave her an energy drink when she wanted it. Whereas she hasn't gone out of her way to do anything nice so I'm not sure what I've done to deserve this.
The kitchen has been a mess for days but I refuse to clean up their mess any more. I would talk to my landlord about it but she stipulated in the lease that everything had to be sorted between ourselves. I don't want to get into an argument with them either since I think I'd just crumble.
So... Any advice on how to handle this?
Also, I know this is quite long so thank you for reading.
It was no problem having her around at first but about two or three days after she started staying here the police came to our door. Turns out they'd had an argument in the street and someone called the police on them. My flatmate also had a black eye which she said she got from falling. Eventually the police left and they apologised to me. A couple of days later I see my flatmate hiding something in our old flatmate's wardrobe. She sees me and just goes to her room without a word. I look inside and it turns out she's hiding her phone, which is a bit concerning. I ask her to take the rubbish out with me as an excuse to talk to her but her girlfriend follows. They spend most of the time in her room, only leaving to make food, go to the bathroom or go out.
Nothing of that nature has happened since then and everything seems fine. However, they don't tidy up after themselves, which is really starting to get to me. Every surface in the kitchen is covered in cheese and crumbs and they've dropped teabags on the floor and haven't bothered cleaning it up so it's just covered in tea stains. My flatmate has barely contributed anything to the flat and to my knowledge has never cleaned any room in the flat since she got here, leaving it all to me and the flatmate that moved out. Now I'm on my own it's all becoming a bit much. I spent a whole day scrubbing the place before they got here and now it's a wreck. Also, this morning I went into the bathroom and discovered that they had left some balled up toilet paper with blood on it lying on top of my towels. There were two empty shelves above them, and there's the bin in the bathroom along with the toilet they could have used instead. It's like they're trying to annoy me but I have been nothing but nice. I clean, tidy up after myself, buy stuff for the flat if we need it, I've made her food, gave her an energy drink when she wanted it. Whereas she hasn't gone out of her way to do anything nice so I'm not sure what I've done to deserve this.
The kitchen has been a mess for days but I refuse to clean up their mess any more. I would talk to my landlord about it but she stipulated in the lease that everything had to be sorted between ourselves. I don't want to get into an argument with them either since I think I'd just crumble.
So... Any advice on how to handle this?
Also, I know this is quite long so thank you for reading.
