It all comes down to this:
[bold]What happens when someone complains?[/bold]
So what happens when somebody criticises the community for how bad the trolls have gotten?
We hear about how that's the Internet and people should grow thicker skins, and its all free speech, and you can't judge a community on five or six highly vocal assholes who appear to only exist to make conversation impossible.
And it isn't the trolls who do that. It is the 'reasonable' people. It takes the responsibility to stop the bad behaviour off of the abuser, and puts it onto the person being abused.
We hear all about the 'legitimate criticisms' the person being attacked isn't dealing with, and again that takes the responsibility off the abusers and placed it onto the person being abused.
This is what takes it from being some random nutjobs on the Internet to being a reflection on all of us, the way we treat complaints. We tend to side with the causes of problems, rather than those who point them out.
It doesn't just happen with feminist issues, but it is in those issues where we have allowed this sort of thing to breed. Every now and then it spills over to effecting everybody else.
And we are inconsistent. I honestly think the idea of defending the artist, of preventing the medium being 'neutered' as Jim Sterling put it, is a reflection of this.
The same people who are all about defending the artist's right to feature character models with big boobs, will often turn around and scream free speech to defend people threatening artists they don't personally like.
We saw this exact same sort of thing in microcosm with Mass Effect 3's ending, the cry of 'entitled' was simply another example of taking the focus off of the thing being complained about, and placing it on the complainer.
It all ties together, and it does reflect on all of us, because by doing all of that, we end up as accomplices to the very abusers we don't want to be painted in with.