Gamers in relationships.

[cherrybomb]

I feel I need to say this because people are getting defensive for some strange reason.
1. This is not my view on relationships, I've been with both gamers and non gamers, to me all of them were assholes and my relationships with them ended because they were pricks to me.
2. I am just asking a question because I am curious as to others feel about it, a lot of people I know feel they couldn't have a relationship with a non gamer, because they find it difficult to manage their time.

AND THIRDLY, my last ex was a MASSIVE gamer and he could never find the time for me, and I'd also consider myself a gamer, but I couldn't handle how much time he spent with his PC. So I guess it works both ways...

Just one question, why have you posted such a shallow reason for loving or going out with someone? For how they look, based on NOTHING else? You know, maybe you should look at your own love life for a minute. I'm sorry if you've had bad experiences, and it is really your ex's fault, and it is unforgivable that he'd rather play WoW (or whatever) than spend time with you, but really, gamers aren't all like that, they aren't ALL social rejects ... But I'd hardly call myself a gamer at all anyway, so perhaps I'm not the best source.

Now, I got defensive (and I apologise) because of how shallow you seemed to view me and others, and love in general. Nothing personal.

I'm not viewing anyone as shallow, I'm just asking a question. My experiences are mine only, I wouldn't not go out with another gamer just because of past crap, nor would I not date someone because they don't game.
It's just a question. That is all.

 

[cherrybomb]

As a gamer, do you think you could date someone who wasn't one, no matter how ridiculously good looking they are.

If you don't date someone because they don't share one hobby with you, you probably are single.

If you think how good looking they are should be the main factor in picking a bf/gf, you are probably single.

The last part was me trying to be funny, have you not seen Zoolander...it's a quote from that movie.

 

[William Dickbringer]

in one where she isn't a gamer don't mind it
we connect on different levels other than that

 

[Caligulove]

Never dated a girl who was a 'gamer', current gf plays games with me every now and then and makes some jokes about the games we play, but that hardly makes her a 'gamer' or something. I don't even consider myself a gamer primarily.

I think what's important that you're able to share things each of you like, but never let them get in the way of spending time with each other. It's fun to play with your SO, though. One of my fondest memories of dating my gf right now is the first month we were dating we played Donkey Kong Country 2-Player on my old SNES- ridiculously fun.

 

[cherrybomb]

It's good to see so many happy in love people here I hope all of your relationships prosper and last.
Once again I wasn't trying to start anything, it was just a random question that popped into my head, and out of curiosity I asked.

 

[cherrybomb]

Never dated a girl who was a 'gamer', current gf plays games with me every now and then and makes some jokes about the games we play, but that hardly makes her a 'gamer' or something. I don't even consider myself a gamer primarily.

I think what's important that you're able to share things each of you like, but never let them get in the way of spending time with each other. It's fun to play with your SO, though. One of my fondest memories of dating my gf right now is the first month we were dating we played Donkey Kong Country 2-Player on my old SNES- ridiculously fun.

That sounds awesome Glad you have a happy healthy relationship.

 

[Blood Countess]

Been with plenty of non gamer girls and never was an issue.Got lucky though and married a total gamer geek like me so all is good in my world on that end

 

[LordGarbageMan]

Yeah I just game less. I don't think I could game as often and be in a relationship at the same time, doesn't seem feasible.

 

[cherrybomb]

Been with plenty of non gamer girls and never was an issue.Got lucky though and married a total gamer geek like me so all is good in my world on that end

Congratulations I'm very happy for you that you found love, not just because she is a gamer girl, but because, well, it's love

 

[cherrybomb]

Yeah I just game less. I don't think I could game as often and be in a relationship at the same time, doesn't seem feasible.

Yeah I understand, at least you have your priorities in check

 

[superbatranger]

I'm pretty sure that wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. For one thing, it isn't the only thing I like.

 

[Brutal Peanut]

If my husband wasn't a gamer like me, it wouldn't matter.

As long as he could accept my hobby, and chosen form of entertainment. Such as not calling it childish or giving me a hard time about it all.

His cousin is going through that right now with the lady he loves. He likes games and wants to play more of them, and she isn't fond of any technology besides the d.v.d player and the t.v. Instead of allowing him his hobbies, she gives him a quite hard time about playing games and says they are just for children. That makes their relationship difficult.

But I met, fell in love with, and married a fellow gamer geek/nerd/dork person and life is sweet. =D

Edit: We don't just play video games all the time. We do plenty of things, and with other people. Movies, trips, get-togethers,BBQs, etc, etc.^_^

 

[NintenTim64]

My girlfriend isn't a gamer and we've been in a relationship for about 2 years now. Although nowadays she has a Wii so there's some common ground on the gaming front there, but having games in common hasn't been a necessary part of our relationship.

 

[The Stonker]

I married not only a non-gamer, but a game hater. The silver lining? A convert on our hands, gentlemen!

From the start she tried to limit my game-time and outright forbid me from table-top playing. I've been receptive, within bounds, and it's payed off.

You got pwned by her. =D

But, my ex girlfriend was a gamer, I used to destroy her tho in TF2 and well, every single game you could imagine.

 

[DanielBrown]

I've only been in relationships with non-gamers. One of them was a bit of a pain since she always went with the "You'd rather play WoW than be with meeeeee!"-card.

 

[archvile93]

No I can't see myself in a relationship with a non-gamer, but then I can't see myself in a relationship at all since it's such a massive waste of time and energy.

 

[Eleima]

This is a silly question, and I don't mean that in a condescending way, but what I mean is that being a gamer isn't our sole defining quality. It's only one aspect of our personality, and it is only part of what makes you you. Hence, you could very well get along swimmingly with a non-gamer and completely clash with a gamer.
I've dated only one gamer, and that didn't turn out so well. My hubby is non-gamer, and well, we've gotten along just fine for the past seven years. So to answer your original question, yes I could and yes I already have, and yes I even married one.

No I can't see myself in a relationship with a non-gamer, but then I can't see myself in a relationship at all since it's such a massive waste of time and energy.

Bitter much? ^_^

 

[James13v]

I am, lol. My gf has played a lil tf2/puzzle agent on my comp, but other than that, is confused by why people game :/

 

[archvile93]

This is a silly question, and I don't mean that in a condescending way, but what I mean is that being a gamer isn't our sole defining quality. It's only one aspect of our personality, and it is only part of what makes you you. Hence, you could very well get along swimmingly with a non-gamer and completely clash with a gamer.
I've dated only one gamer, and that didn't turn out so well. My hubby is non-gamer, and well, we've gotten along just fine for the past seven years. So to answer your original question, yes I could and yes I already have, and yes I even married one.

No I can't see myself in a relationship with a non-gamer, but then I can't see myself in a relationship at all since it's such a massive waste of time and energy.

Bitter much? ^_^

Yeah maybe, but it still sounds like a lot of effort for sex and for some reason, feelings of happiness as my money goes down the drain. If I need it that bad I can just do it myself, and it won't cost me large sums of money and years of my life with a very slim chance that I'll get any anyway. I guess I could give it a shot, and risk a high probability of humiliation and sorrow, but then I could just play video games instead which are easily just as good, cheaper, and have less risk involved.

 

[Swny Nerdgasm]

My current girlfriend wasn't a gamer when we first got together, after some trial and error in seeing what she was willing to try I am happy to report that as we speak she recently finished assassin's creed 2 and is in the middle of trying her hand as a GM for my Pathfinder RPG group next week