Gamers in relationships.

[cherrybomb]

Well the fact my girlfriend is a gamer too is quite nice. Then again, our gaming interests differ greatly. I'm more into singleplayer RPGs, she's more into multiplayer FPS. So in the end, we don't have that much in common gaming wise.

Haha well I guess you share the main common interest but branch off, which I guess keeps it fresh? haha

We do both enjoy Mass Effect

Well that's because Mass Effect is freaking awesome!

 

[mythtech]

i'm fine with non gamers but it would be a different issue if they tried to actively restrict my gaming. my last gf was at my house while me and bout four friends were having a cod session and she disrupted my game play but it was a non issue for the relationship, that being said if it was regular then there might be an issue

 

[2xDouble]

AND THIRDLY, my last ex was a MASSIVE gamer and he could never find the time for me, and I'd also consider myself a gamer, but I couldn't handle how much time he spent with his PC. So I guess it works both ways...

Well, that's exactly it. Gamer/Non-Gamer is irrelevant. It's whether or not they can see what is more important that matters. I've known many relationships (and two marriages) to go down the tubes, even between hardcore gamers, because they put games and gaming ahead of their relationship.

However (dramatic key-change), while I disagree with the the "gamer" label as a concept, I have to acknowledge the similar "non-gamer" label/stereotype. These are the people who simply don't "get it" and, for no good reason other than they don't want to, refuse to understand (the very definition of "noob", or at least mine). For me, a long-term relationship with someone like that just isn't going to happen.

 

[Samuel Cook]

Only one girl I've had a relationship with has been into gaming, and that was just the Ratchet and Clank series. Sure it would be nice to be intimite with someone who also put up a good fight on Call of Duty, but it's not something I look for in a girl.

 

[Gaderael]

I married not only a non-gamer, but a game hater. The silver lining? A convert on our hands, gentlemen!

From the start she tried to limit my game-time and outright forbid me from table-top playing. I've been receptive, within bounds, and it's payed off.

Hy, me too! Sort of. I married a woman who was not really a gamer, and used to get really annoyed when I played my games. Now though, she has her wii, which she plays every day, and plays those Popcap, casual style games far more than I play my games. It's great.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

Already have, and it didn't really make a difference. I don't care if people I date have different interests to me. In fact, it's one of the things I like about people I date; they introduce me to new things.

Of course, it's always a bonus if someone makes a game reference. Then I'm all like *HEARTEYES*

this. i have yet to date a single girl who played video games. (idk what it is, but in my area no girls are gamers or also no offense..it looks like they haven't been outside in years) so i dont seem to have any problems with non gamers, they usually have their own hobbies that are pretty cool so no big deal.

although my current girlfriend does use more than the average "gamer" language and abbreviations, and she did send me an "assuming direct control" text the other day, i nearly tore my pants in half with a boner when i saw that text.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

As a gamer, do you think you could date someone who wasn't one, no matter how ridiculously good looking they are.

Oh hell yeah, in fact I'm seeing someone who looks like she'd barely know what to do with a controller. Although she did make an obscure reference to a pain in the arse essay being 'like the red ring of death on an xbox 360'...that was certainly a surprise.

 

[alexjones89]

my girlfriend hates games and makes fun of me for playing them. It's alright i do the same to her for things like fake tan. So it's all good really.

 

[Jedoro]

Oh yeah, as long as she's not a ***** and tries to get me to stop playing.

 

[megaraccoon]

As a gamer, do you think you could date someone who wasn't one, no matter how ridiculously good looking they are.

currently in a relationship with a non gamer and have been for two years and its not really a problem at all i enjoy my pc, 360 and ps3 she loves soaps, reading and shows like the opra or ballet but inspite of our differences we work together to make it work and show each other our interests and gain an interest in each others stuff. hope this answers your question.

 

[JemothSkarii]

Well, I'm in a relationship with a gamer chick; we're both console gamers so we can easily do things together on the same piece of furniture if we wish. I tried going with a non-gamer chick, but she was kinda slutty, I mean, we never did anything, she was very flirty...with everyone.

I guess that's turned me off of them, so I'd go with a gamer girl.
Then again, physical disabilities are also a deciding factor.

 

[Smooth Operator]

That's not really fair though, you should be able to tell prospective partners that you game...

You haveto put your good traits on the table first, and our nerdy undertakings come in at the very end, unless the partner is into that.
So if they hang around for long enough they will notice that anyway, if not they really don't need to know.

 

[Palademon]

No.
If I wanted someone attractive but without common interest I wouldn't have been single for my entire life...or maybe I'd be single but would've tried aksing out more than one person in my life...

 

[Mandal0re]

-Spend time with girl i like not talking about or thinking about gaming.

-Go home and play games.

As long as you are capable of seperating a hobby from the rest of your life then it doesnt make a difference if you game or not.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Actually, most of the girls I've gone out with were non-gamers. It wasn't my gaming hoby that ended the relationships though. In fact, gaming almost never came up unless they called and asked what I was doing.

My current gf games on occasion and actually wants to play some videogames with me. She probably won't play as much as I do, but she's fairly open to it and doesn't seem to mind. I don't mind that she doesn't game much, but I do give her a hard time for having a Wii and gamecube that were both gifts from a while back. I liked the Gamecube alright, but I hate the Wii. Nothing against the system itself, it's just not my thing.

 

[Anachronism]

I've been with my girlfriend for nearly four years now, and she isn't a gamer in the least. In a way, it's kind of a good thing; since she doesn't play D&D, I can use that as a good opportunity to hang out with my friends. For videogames, it gives me a chance to have some time to myself, which, no matter how good the relationship is, (and mine's pretty great) is always important.

All the same, I'm determined to get her to at least give D&D a try.

 

[DTWolfwood]

does it count if she wasnt a gamer at the start but then was converted to a gamer afterwards? I got my last GF into F2P MMOs pretty hardcore... as a matter of fact she kept playing even months after i have lost interest XD

 

[Addendum_Forthcoming]

I'm an unabashedly huge gaming nerd to the point where if there as a king/queen of the gaming Nerds, he'd/she'd be my ***** because I would be God-King/queen of the Nerd parallel universe (Plane of Existence if you will ;P) situated beside this one.

So I'd like someone who also likes gaming n.n whether tabletop or VG ... though in ther past it hasn't seemed to matter.

Though what does matter is that they have some fleeting passion for shopping and clothes in general. Because I'm shallow and that clothes maketh the person.