Gamers in relationships.

[Woodsey]

Why would I ignore someone who's stupidly fit just because we don't have one interest in common? Just because they're not interested in it doesn't mean they're against it (which seems to be the thinking here) anyway.

 

[Valkyira]

My girlfriend isn't exactly a gamer but she puts up with me being one... She often takes interest in me playing games which is awesome. We've played a few together but I wouldn't class her as a gamer just yet.

I'm moving with her to Australia next year so I'll work on converting her over there (;

 

[gl1koz3]

I don't think it would be possible, given that non-gamers might need a lot more attention. I will never know, though. So far I never even started to get into a relationship because I much prefer to work (hobbies/work that kinda stuff) as opposed to socializing.

I get extremely bored of socializing when done more than once a week, hah. Now how such relationship would work with a non-gamer.

I guess you just haven't found the right person for you And when said person comes along your views about the amount of time you spend with someone will probably change haha

That's pretty much true. But I gotta admit, meeting new people is hard when you try not to. Or trying not to is hard when you meet them... or...

 

[bartholen_v1legacy]

SO wait... this thread assumes that gamers can't or don't want to date people whot aren't gamers? Gaming is a hobby, just as is reading, watching movies or listening to CD's. Why the fuck should gaming matter any more than those when considering who to date?

And if that didn't bring my point across yet, yes, I totally would and would probably even want to.

 

[Trillovinum]

Gaming or not gaming shouldn't be a factor.
Sadly I do get the impression that when I say I play computer games in my free time, people tend to file me away in the "nerd" corner.
But it's not like I don't do anything else or that gaming gets in the way of spending time with my patner.

 

[Jester00]

Many many guys are very unattractive. Especially those of the gaming community. They all either have very short hair and look really bland or they are really fat. Just because someone have the same interests doesn't mean that two people are compatible. There are a lot of things that connects together for that.

ok, on that point you're right. i'm an exception.

 

[JMPease21]

My current girlfriend isn't a gamer and it's really not a big deal, Well she plays Bejeweled but that doesn't count.

As long as we had at least something else in common then I could date them.

 

[Knusper]

Well if I was to date a non-gamer, there would be a pretty big personality contrast, but I guess if she was open to exploring them, it wouldn't be so bad, it's just that otherwise we might not have such an interest in each other's lives - gaming's pretty big in my life, to be honest.

It's more likely to be my taste in music that would cause problems.

 

[Sneeze]

Depends what else we had in common, and how much we both enjoyed that. As long as there is some common ground I ain't fussy, I would prefer said common ground to be gaming but if we got on well enough it'd be silly to turn em down. Just as long as they didn't have a problem with me being a gamer, that is. I'd never *stop* for someone, but equally I wouldn't force them on someone.

 

[Distorted Stu]

All my exs have been non-gamers and weve had good relationships. Its good for the fact that games are pretty much Unisex, so anyoen can enjoy them .

 

[StBishop]

No..
I want someone like me..

If you're homosexual or bisexual, try cloning.

If you're heterosexual; apparently they're working on opposite gender clones... I don't know what they'd be called as they aren't really a clone, but yeah, it's interesting.

You wouldn't be able to reproduce with a clone, because the offspring would be genetically inferior, but that's ok, you can adopt if kids are important.

 

[Legion IV]

I dont think i could. Gaming is my passion in my life. Am surrounded by it everyday at work and at home. Games games and more games. Everyday i go to work and look around me i hear the song "What a wonderful world"

So if i met a girl who didnt share one of the most important things in my life. Bleh Peace out goodbye.

But in general dont see much of a point in relatioships anyway.

 

[Kachiporra]

well, you could always try to make her a gamer.

 

[GeorgW]

Sure. It's not that big a part of my life, but even if it would be, as long as she accepted it it would be ok.

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

I did. She ended up tearing up my heart in seventeen different directions for no real reason, but I digress. I did, and it worked for a little while, or at least I thought it did.

I'm sorry to hear that you got your heart broken, it's not a nice feeling.

Bah, I'm over it now. ^^

 

[cherrybomb]

SO wait... this thread assumes that gamers can't or don't want to date people whot aren't gamers? Gaming is a hobby, just as is reading, watching movies or listening to CD's. Why the fuck should gaming matter any more than those when considering who to date?

And if that didn't bring my point across yet, yes, I totally would and would probably even want to.

There are no assumptions being laid. Just an innocent question. Also there are people out there take gaming to the level where it's not just a hobby and more a way of life.

 

[MelziGurl]

As someone who was with a gamer for 4.5 years, it works if you have an open mind. I accepted his gaming and reclusive ways, but toward the end it became frustrating. There was very little room left for me in his life and while I never expected him to give it up, I did expect that he could make more time for me. It wasn't what broke us in the end, but it was something I realised when we split. Would I do the same thing again? Absolutely, I can't pick and choose who I love but a little less time on the console and some more time for me would be lovely

The same thing happened to me last year, It sucked the big one! Hope everything is ok for you now though!

It's been only 4 months and I'm back on the dating scene, I'm fine

 

[nightwolf667]

As long as they are willing to make your relationship a priority in their lives, then it shouldn't matter. If either party begins to feel that the hobby (any hobby) is more important to their partner than they are, then that's where (some of the possible) the problems start.

Gaming can and often does consume large portions of a person's life. For me, since I game, that usually doesn't matter and I can enjoy spending time with my significant other even if we're just in the same room together. Him reading, me gaming, me reading, him gaming, surfing the web, whatever. Add a spatter of conversation here and there and that makes up most of our evenings. We're both a little reclusive but we can be reclusive together.

 

[cherrybomb]

As someone who was with a gamer for 4.5 years, it works if you have an open mind. I accepted his gaming and reclusive ways, but toward the end it became frustrating. There was very little room left for me in his life and while I never expected him to give it up, I did expect that he could make more time for me. It wasn't what broke us in the end, but it was something I realised when we split. Would I do the same thing again? Absolutely, I can't pick and choose who I love but a little less time on the console and some more time for me would be lovely

The same thing happened to me last year, It sucked the big one! Hope everything is ok for you now though!

It's been only 4 months and I'm back on the dating scene, I'm fine

Good to hear!

 

[Cain_Zeros]

I am in a relationship with someone who's pretty much a non-gamer. She's in my DnD group, but that's it. And she played some Sonic the Hedgehog when she was younger.

This sounds like my girlfriend, though you have to substitute DnD for Star Wars Tabletop RPG and change Sonic to Kirby. We have some pretty different interests, since I like video games and paintball while she likes dirtbikes and music. We still share a love of books and movies, so it all works out.
To be honest, her interest in what most would consider "manlier" things like dirt bikes or ATVs are what drew me to her initially, though over time the hobbies the two of us have really started to shrink in importance as we got to know each other better.She could decide tomorrow that she likes frilly dresses and wants to listen to nothing but the latest taylor swift album and I'd still love her.

Yeah, pretty much. Although, mine's more into acting and theatre and such. Might explain her enjoyment of DnD...