As a member of the LGBT+ community, I don't find the "acts exactly like a straight person" thing offensive at all. In fact, I will always disagree with feminists who say that women who act like men with breasts are somehow inherently bad and should be avoided (though I understand their criticism that it implies women are only "worthy" when they have embraced traditionally male values), or other depictions of minorities behaving exactly like privileged groups.peruvianskys said:To me, having a flaming homo stereotype as a protagonist/antagonist in a work of art is offensive, but so is having a protagonist/antagonist who is in every way indistinguishable from a straight person but arbitrarily labeled gay once or twice in the screenplay for added "diversity" points. LGBT people are not all flamboyant queens, but they are also not exactly the same as straight people. In our admirable rush to fight stereotypes, can't go too far in the other direction and pretend that there is no unique LGBT experience that influences sexual minorities; at that point, you go from offensive caricature to erasure, and both are shitty. We need to have LGBT characters who are developed enough as human beings that their sexuality is a meaningful element of their personality without letting them cross over into parody.
tl;dr gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender men and women have unique experiences and outlooks based on their sexuality and pretending that those things don't exist by writing characters as straight and awkwardly dropping "but he's gay!" every few pages in the script is no more respectful than having them all be flaming fags.
Assigning traits to groups is a bad thing. It's inherently limiting, divisive and Othering. This is why gender roles and gender constructs are a bad thing, because they constrain men and women into rigid categories which are punished for diverting from, draws a divisive line between the genders, and keeps certain traits away from them. I am all for the destruction of stereotypes and constructs and the homogenisation of culture. I am all for women acting like men with breasts, and for men acting like women with dicks. I am all for the systematic deconstruction of manhood and womanhood, of race, ethnicity, gender identity and sexuality. People of all genders, sexualities, races, classes, ages and so on, have the right to look and act outside the way society expects them to look and act like.
Having LGBT+ characters who act just like their cis and straight counterparts is an inherently good thing in my book. Of course, having cis straight characters who act in ways traditionally ascribed to the LGBT+ community is also an inherently good thing for me. I would love to see a campy straight guy or butch straight woman for every traditionally feminine lesbian and traditionally masculine gay guy.