Gentlemen, Is chivalry dead?

[Ham_authority95]

Chivalry isn't how sexual attraction works anymore.

If an unattractive chick started doing favors and opening doors for you, would you be anymore attracted to her because of it?
Of course not. Same for women, too.

In the ye-olde times when chivalry was popular, women looked for men who give and do more stuff for them. The more stuff the men could give women, the more rich they were, and the higher on the social latter they were.

The norm has changed since then and women don't need to do that anymore to gain opportunities.

EDIT: However, that's no reason to not have common manners and politeness.

 

[Luftwaffles]

Im more of a courteous kinda guy. I dont give up my seat to every woman i see, nor do i open doors at every whim. Im more of a "oh preggo lady/elderly/blindman comes near my seat with full train, please sir/ma'am have my seat. And ah this person is about to go through the same doorway as i am, here, let me get that for you.

 

[BlueInkAlchemist]

As I am pressed for time, I'll just point you fine gentlemen in this direction pursuant to my thoughts on the matter:

Chivalry: Taking It Back [http://www.blueinkalchemy.com/2010/04/15/chivalry-taking-it-back/]

 

[Mistermixmaster]

Chivalry is definately dying... I tried the whole chivalry thing once with opening a door for a woman and got laughed at (she thought it was funny because it was "just like the old days").

Being a gentleman is underrated, which I find a shame, as I enjoy acting like one =/

 

[SwimmingRock]

Well, chivalry implies that you are doing a nice action mainly for the reason that the person in question is a female, which distinguishes it from simply "being nice".

I have heard people say that they have been scolded by women for holding a door open for them, the women citing that this is "anti-feminist" or "partronising" or something. However, if I was in that same situation, my answer would be that I also hold the door open for men, because I'm generally a nice guy.

So what I'm saying is that chivalry strikes me, on reflection, as "selective niceness". If you want true equality, without the death of "chivalry", you hold doors open for men and women.

Doesn't matter, mate. They don't know that you also hold doors for men and won't believe you when you tell them. Trust me. Even if you hold the door for a male and female at the same time, she'll assume you're being patronizing to her. Or maybe it's just me. Perhaps if I were attractive it would be sweet instead of patronizing. Who knows?

 

[DonMartin]

As I am pressed for time, I'll just point you fine gentlemen in this direction pursuant to my thoughts on the matter:

Chivalry: Taking It Back [http://www.blueinkalchemy.com/2010/04/15/chivalry-taking-it-back/]

Excellent link, old chum. My compliments on that fine fedora of yours, too. /monocle!

 

[Jedamethis]

Oh, almost forgot.

If I might be so bold...

 

[DeepComet5581]

Why, old chap. Of course Chivarly isn't dead.

Why, 'pon the 'morrow of the coming Tuesday I shall prove this very fact.

*dons Overcoat and Monocle*

 

[archvile93]

Chivalry is just disguised chauvanism. I hope it dies. You shouldn't be polite to somebody because they're a woman, you should be polite to everybody who's not an asshole because it's the right thing to to do.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I think it has been diluted quite a bit but not really totally gone. If I'm out with a girl and she is freezing cold, I will offer my coat. If we are eating out, I offer to pay. I don't insist to pay for the food but I offer.

[sub][sub]Anyone know a good place to buy a monocle?[/sub][/sub]

 

[Jake the Snake]

I'm a very chivalrous person. Girls deserve your respect and attention because well, they're girls, and therefore smarter than you. BOW TO YOUR SUPERIORS...or just hold the door open for them, that's cool too.

 

[zehydra]

Chivalry came about as ways to behave around a lady (and not specifically females, your lord's wife, or Queen).

Somewhere along the line, this notion of respecting and showing love to your lord's wife transformed into being "A Gentlemen" to ALL females, regardless of nobility or leadership.

Chivalry is more than just manners, it's specifically oriented towards one gender, and that kind of social inequality really has no place in a society that highly values gender equality.

 

[hurfdurp]

Just omit the word 'chivalry' from your vocabulary and replace it with 'decency' . Think of the genders as people instead, give your coat to anyone who seems in need of it. Have compassion for anyone.

 

[Randam]

Chivalry is not dead. Chivalry can't die from a few "What you don't think I can take care of myself?" and a slap or two on the face. Feminism is taking itself to a new level if you ask me. The thing in my honest opinion is that, chivalry is just being good to other people. I myself try to treat everybody better, no mater the gender. As for the ladies, I've got one, so no chap, chivalry isn't even close to dying.

 

[Zorg Machine]

I am a gentleman. or at least, I try to be.
Chivalry will never die. Asshats will come and go but there will always be one person, somewhere who can be depended on to act chivalrously.