Getting Rejected : What's the worst that could happen?

[dietpeachsnapple]

I received a piece of paper with "Jenny 867-5309"

I didn't ask for her name. I didn't ask her number.

I was preemptively rejected.

 

[Daffy F]

When you're the last two people on Earth.

Yeah, that would sting. The LAST two, c'mon! ... No.

 

[MiracleOfSound]

Ah... I once had a hilarious rejection from a waitress I used to work with. She was 7 years older than me, and I was drunk.

ME: 'You should come back to my place'

Her: 'Look, you're a nice guy, but I'm too old for you, we couldn't have a relationship'

Me: 'I don't want a relationship, stupid, I just want sex!'

I did not get laid that night.

 

[SonicKoala]

Sure, worse stuff could happen, but when it comes to asking out girls, it seems to me that the potential gain more often than not FAR outweights the potential loss, so I still think it's a risk worth taking (and if you don't think that, I'd strongly suggest growing some balls - you're clearly lacking them).

Oh that's cute, just because a guy is concerned about having the worst happen to him he needs to grow balls. But not you of course, YOU ARE A MAN!!!!!!!!

Please.

If you'd have bothered to read the rest of the posts in the forum, you'd have seen that I made another post which addresses the fact that the line you quoted was more or less a terrible joke, and that in writing that, there were a number of factors I didn't consider.

I mean, come on.

 

[darth gditch]

Lots of things can happen. The question is, how much worse than the current status quo will it be? If the girl rejects you? Assuming the current status quo is unfavorable because you're crushing on a girl.

 

[BlindMessiah94]

I'm assuming the OP is still in school. Once you get out of there, it really gets easier. Teenagers tend to be a bit emotionally immature. But asking people out as an adult generally yields more mature responses. You may still be turned down, but the nature of the turn-down generally eases up quite a bit. You'll usually just get a polite, "No, thank you" or sometimes a white lie of "I'm already seeing someone." At least, that's what I do when I'm asked out by guys I'm not interested in. And remember, you won't hear "yes" if you never ask in the first place.

Oh god no, I'm not in school thank goodness. Not for 7 years now. And read the other posts please. Everyone here keeps assuming that I'm cowering in my basement crying over some rejection. Hardly.
I'm not hear to say "woe is me, I'll never ask anyone out again". I am the kind of guy that would rather know than wonder what if.
Like the OP says, misery loves company, I just wanted to hear other peoples war stories.

Also, I remember what it was like being a teenager, and though emotionally immature, that doesn't make your pain any less real. It can also cause long term emotional problems and confidence issues that last for years.
And when you get out of school, it definately does not get easier. It's always gotten much worse for me lol.
Still your advice is right though, and people should still try, but I'm not going to undermine someone elses pain by saying "they're just a teenager". That's just plain insensitive.

 

[Adzma]

Sure, worse stuff could happen, but when it comes to asking out girls, it seems to me that the potential gain more often than not FAR outweights the potential loss, so I still think it's a risk worth taking (and if you don't think that, I'd strongly suggest growing some balls - you're clearly lacking them).

Oh that's cute, just because a guy is concerned about having the worst happen to him he needs to grow balls. But not you of course, YOU ARE A MAN!!!!!!!!

Please.

If you'd have bothered to read the rest of the posts in the forum, you'd have seen that I made another post which addresses the fact that the line you quoted was more or less a terrible joke, and that in writing that, there were a number of factors I didn't consider.

I mean, come on.

Oh no, I read it. I just think it would've been a better idea to edit the original post.

 

[viking97]

laughing at you loudly and spreading rumors is about the worst that can happen. besides picking up the nearest eating utensil and jamming it into your eye. *sigh* no more binoculars for me. just telescopes

 

[Mana Fiend]

I once got told bya mutual friend that the girl I asked out wouldn't go out with me because I was "too geeky"...

Actually, that's a common complaint from the... 5ish people I've asked out. Apparently I'm not their 'usual type'.

 

[high_castle]

I'm assuming the OP is still in school. Once you get out of there, it really gets easier. Teenagers tend to be a bit emotionally immature. But asking people out as an adult generally yields more mature responses. You may still be turned down, but the nature of the turn-down generally eases up quite a bit. You'll usually just get a polite, "No, thank you" or sometimes a white lie of "I'm already seeing someone." At least, that's what I do when I'm asked out by guys I'm not interested in. And remember, you won't hear "yes" if you never ask in the first place.

Oh god no, I'm not in school thank goodness. Not for 7 years now. And read the other posts please. Everyone here keeps assuming that I'm cowering in my basement crying over some rejection. Hardly.
I'm not hear to say "woe is me, I'll never ask anyone out again". I am the kind of guy that would rather know than wonder what if.
Like the OP says, misery loves company, I just wanted to hear other peoples war stories.

Also, I remember what it was like being a teenager, and though emotionally immature, that doesn't make your pain any less real. It can also cause long term emotional problems and confidence issues that last for years.
And when you get out of school, it definately does not get easier. It's always gotten much worse for me lol.
Still your advice is right though, and people should still try, but I'm not going to undermine someone elses pain by saying "they're just a teenager". That's just plain insensitive.

I wasn't trying to undermine people's pain because of age. I was saying that rejections are usually harder (at least in my experience) during that time period. people tend to be less sensitive, whereas, once you get into the real world, much of that drama disappears. Again, that's just my experience. I'm also female, which means I tend to do more of the rejecting when it comes to people asking me out. That gives me a slightly different perspective, but I can say with confidence I'm more sensitive in the way I reject people now than I was in high school. Sorry if what I was trying to say came out wrong. It was late, I was tired.

 

[Deef]

It's really depends on how much of an asshole the person in question is.

 

[The Warden]

I've never been rejected.
Why?
Simple, I've never asked anyone out.
HEY, GET YOUR MOUSE POINTER AWAY FROM THE QUOTE BUTTON AND LISTEN BEFORE YOU TAUNT ME.
I've certainly got the balls to do it, but the reason is I don't want to.
Because everyone where I am is an asshole.
I'm serious, the schools I go to are chuck full of the most stupid, ignorant people I've EVER met, and I'm a guy who doesn't go for someone on looks only.
I once got transferred to another school for the B-Mod thing (I'm over my attitude problem, now.) and there was it was like fucking Heaven. It was where the nice people were, the smart people.
I met a nice girl there, and if you think love at first sight is wrong, your right. It isn't love, it's simple lust. I knew that, so I didn't ask right there. I quickly DID fall in love with her after I got to know her, and that's why it served as such a fucking punch in the gut when she once leaned over to me at lunch, pointed at this one guy, and said she thought he was cute, and continued to say this about several people to me over the course of the year.
I then never asked her out, I didn't want to ruin a good friendship with someone who wasn't interested in me.
I figured out later she was teasing me, or at least, I think she was. If I ever meet her again, and I'm trying to, I'll tell her how I feel.
I hate where I go now, full of Gangster talk, bimbos in short shorts, morons, I fucking hate them all.
The Teacher's are the only nice people, and considering I'm the nice guy in the crowd of bad people they have to deal with, I'm popular with the Teachers. That's why I've got them on my side trying to get me back where the nice people are, back where I belong.

 

[Random Argument Man]

The first girl I loved rejected me. She already had a boyfriend. It took me a week to make a smile to someone.

There's another girl I loved, but I never had a chance to properly know her. She hated me the second day she saw me. She stills does. I acted like a 5 years old and she never gave me another chance. She still haunts my mind from time to time.

People say "What's the worst that could happen?". When you're very attached to a person, everything can go wrong. For some reasons, you felt like you just lost something important.

 

[SimuLord]

There's a right time and a wrong time to put yourself out there like that.

Case in point: There's this girl I'm friends with. Been friends with her for awhile, quite like her. But I will never ask her out. You know why?

1) If I ask her out and she says yes, then I get a date with her, we start dating regularly, we have sex, it gets really awkward, we break up, she never wants to see me again, I lose a friend that I valued. Unless I think this girl is going to marry me (I don't), it's ultimately a sucker's bet.

2) If I ask her out and she says no, we can no longer maintain the illusion that we're just platonic friends with no interest in the horizontal mambo. In the back of her mind, she will always think "this guy wants to fuck me", and the fragile illusion of me as non-threatening, sweet friend and confidant will go right out the window. I don't want that. I like her too much to really act on the fact that she is very cute and attractive to me, if that makes sense.

So I have a little twinge in my mind every time I see her and think "I can't have that", but by not letting myself think with my dick, I have an awesome friend who I really enjoy seeing every single day (and who, when she does get a boyfriend, would make an awesome double date, and who I can imagine years down the line with her husband and my future wife and all our kids playing together, and I think "y'know what? I'll take that.")

So you see, sometimes asking a girl out is the absolute worst possible decision.

 

[Sleekgiant]

Luckily I don't get rejected anymore because my emotions have been stomped on so many times I just decided being alone and happy is better for me

 

[BlindMessiah94]

I'm assuming the OP is still in school. Once you get out of there, it really gets easier. Teenagers tend to be a bit emotionally immature. But asking people out as an adult generally yields more mature responses. You may still be turned down, but the nature of the turn-down generally eases up quite a bit. You'll usually just get a polite, "No, thank you" or sometimes a white lie of "I'm already seeing someone." At least, that's what I do when I'm asked out by guys I'm not interested in. And remember, you won't hear "yes" if you never ask in the first place.

Oh god no, I'm not in school thank goodness. Not for 7 years now. And read the other posts please. Everyone here keeps assuming that I'm cowering in my basement crying over some rejection. Hardly.
I'm not hear to say "woe is me, I'll never ask anyone out again". I am the kind of guy that would rather know than wonder what if.
Like the OP says, misery loves company, I just wanted to hear other peoples war stories.

Also, I remember what it was like being a teenager, and though emotionally immature, that doesn't make your pain any less real. It can also cause long term emotional problems and confidence issues that last for years.
And when you get out of school, it definately does not get easier. It's always gotten much worse for me lol.
Still your advice is right though, and people should still try, but I'm not going to undermine someone elses pain by saying "they're just a teenager". That's just plain insensitive.

I wasn't trying to undermine people's pain because of age. I was saying that rejections are usually harder (at least in my experience) during that time period. people tend to be less sensitive, whereas, once you get into the real world, much of that drama disappears. Again, that's just my experience. I'm also female, which means I tend to do more of the rejecting when it comes to people asking me out. That gives me a slightly different perspective, but I can say with confidence I'm more sensitive in the way I reject people now than I was in high school. Sorry if what I was trying to say came out wrong. It was late, I was tired.

Oh no worries. I think it's much different on opposite ends of the sex spectrum. Rejecting someone and being rejected are two very different things. Which is probably why in your experience it got better after high school, whereas for me it pretty much never got better.
Don't get me wrong though, high school does tend to be overly dramatic. But so does the real world. I've had jobs that turned out to be just like high school.
I'm glad that you are at least more sensitive to people asking you out.
Spread that philosophy around, k?

 

[Jark212]

Well a friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend, and she tried to kill him...

Motive of the story, be careful when dealing with mentally unbalanced women...

EDIT: I'm the only one that knows this took place besides the LAPD...

 

[Pegghead]

Well I've never really asked someone out so I wouldn't know. But I imagine the worst that could happen is something along the lines of this

Man: Fair woman, I was wondering if you would care to see a picture with me on the morrow

Woman: I must give my humblest apology but I am rowing a boat across the lake whilst twirling a parasol on the morrow

Man: