Getting tired of (certain) women.

[Nickolai77]

OP, you only really make eye contact/smile at people in certain contexts and i suspect you might be getting those contexts wrong.

The general rule of thumb is you smile/make eye contact/nod at friends or acquaintances you may pass during the day (normally you would stop and talk to friends) if you don't know that person you don't try to make eye contact because they don't know you and would be wondering why your doing.

Although, it seems you've given yourself something of a negative reputation, which sucks because you have Aspergers. For now, reconsider how you interact with people, focus more on your friends and avoid making eye contact with strangers.

 

[TheVioletBandit]

Also, have you considered that you might just be acting kind of creepy? Do you go around smiling at dudes?

Smile, nod, greet... it's normal here.

On the street?
How do you get shit done?

I can tell you, as a woman, its more annoying to have some random dude come up to you and start talking to you. Just cause I'm a lady doesn't mean I have to give a shit. (People always talk to me at bus stops. I hate it).

Yeah I hate it when people try to interact with me as well, or complement me, or acknowledge my existence. It's such an annoyance to be wanted, sought after, or liked. Ugly people think they have it hard? They don't know the half of it! Try being beautiful for a day; being adored by those you find repulsive, it's just so gross! One time I was at the bus stop and this BALD man complemented my long glorious blonde hair so I was like "uh, whatever" then I spit right in his face. How dare he speak to me! These uglies just don't understand what a total burden this is.

Someone is deeply butthurt.

Is that it? that's the whole of your argument? Someone is sadly basic and uncreative. At least tell me why you disagree with me, that is if you even disagree with me. For all I know your comment is one of mistaken empathy. Maybe your butt hurts most of all or your "butthurt" most of all? (however you use this made-up word). Anyway, Something about how painful your ass is. You may as well have just wrote "fail" or "u mad bro". I mean, come on! Put a little effort into you posts for fuck's sake. Actually, I take that back; if this is the kind of post you normally make I would hate to see the literary diarrhea you could come up with if you actually tried, so just forget I mentioned it.

Just because you're being so verbose doesn't mean you're actually saying anything of worth. If you're not going to say anything meaningful you might as well be succinct like Kaulen Fuhs was.

...but he didn't say anything meaningful. Maybe your confusing succinct with lazy and immature. If that's the case I can abide; pffffffffffffffffffffffff< that's suppose to be fart noises.

 

[TheVioletBandit]

...but he didn't say anything meaningful.

I know. That was my point, neither of you did.

Okay... Well, I would have to disagree, but thanks for the input, I guess?

 

[TheVioletBandit]

...but he didn't say anything meaningful.

I know. That was my point, neither of you did.

Okay... Well, I would have to disagree, but thanks for the input, I guess?

You're very welcome.

No, YOUR very welcome. pfffffffffff! < This time I imagine the fart blowing off your stupid hat.

Just joking Hats can't be stupid.

 

[TheVioletBandit]

...but he didn't say anything meaningful.

I know. That was my point, neither of you did.

Okay... Well, I would have to disagree, but thanks for the input, I guess?

You're very welcome.

No, YOUR very welcome. pfffffffffff! < This time I imagine the fart blowing off your stupid hat.

Just joking Hats can't be stupid.

I don't know. The sorting hat in Harry Potter never seemed too bright to me. I mean who thinks it's a good idea to bunch all the future stars of Cops together in one house and expect them not to act like a bunch of criminals.

You have a point, but then when you think about it the fact that the sorting hat was able to organize people in any fashion (right or wrong) sort of makes it the Albert Einstein of hats. More interestingly, is the fact that these wizards and witches which we assume are of "average intelligence" are letting a hat make decisions for them. Who's the dummy in that scenario?

 

[TheVioletBandit]

...but he didn't say anything meaningful.

I know. That was my point, neither of you did.

Okay... Well, I would have to disagree, but thanks for the input, I guess?

You're very welcome.

No, YOUR very welcome. pfffffffffff! < This time I imagine the fart blowing off your stupid hat.

Just joking Hats can't be stupid.

I don't know. The sorting hat in Harry Potter never seemed too bright to me. I mean who thinks it's a good idea to bunch all the future stars of Cops together in one house and expect them not to act like a bunch of criminals.

You have a point, but then when you think about it the fact that the sorting hat was able to organize people in any fashion (right or wrong) sort of makes it the Albert Einstein of hats. More interestingly, is the fact that these wizards and witches which we assume are of "average intelligence" are letting a hat make decisions for them. Who's the dummy in that scenario?

True, we've definitely lost once we reach the point where we let an old hat become our ruler.

I wonder if George Bush was just an old hat in a person suit.

 

[Powereaver]

You're definately not alone.. and contrasting to what some people in this thread think.. i think it is quite rude to just flat out ignore people who are being genuinely friendly.. i also suffer aspergers syndrome and appreciate people just giving a smile and stuff.. but i dont think a lot of people have the time of day to even acknowledge people these days.. and thats said just how unfriendly and rude society is becoming because it definately frustrates me to no end.. because we are perfectly nice people if just people gave us a chance to show it.

 

[gazumped]

No, stop being silly, stop advocating not being polite. I don't care if you don't agree with whatever this guy's views are, but he's not asking you for a conversation in the street, you can smile at someone without breaking your stride and it's simple common politeness, not to do so is incredibly arrogant.

Perhaps this is a bit off topic because the OP doesn't live in a big city but I thought it's kind of interesting to share:

My step-mum moved down here to London from the rural midlands in her twenties. Smiling at strangers was natural to her so she did it here as well. And then got followed home by strange men every other night.

It's a result of the collective cityfolk not being commonly polite to each other, true, but I'm just saying that in some settings, a smile is uncommon enough to be seen as a signal or used as an excuse to take action that may be unwanted.

Heck, it's not unheard of for people to be beaten or murdered for making eye contact in this city. (Male on male, though.)

Personally, I'll keep my head down to avoid having to acknowledge anyone. If someone (always a guy) calls out to me I will acknowledge them with a brief smile and a nod, but only because ignoring them has in the past resulted in them screaming abuse at me down the street.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

You're definately not alone.. and contrasting to what some people in this thread think.. i think it is quite rude to just flat out ignore people who are being genuinely friendly.. i also suffer aspergers syndrome and appreciate people just giving a smile and stuff.. but i dont think a lot of people have the time of day to even acknowledge people these days.. and thats said just how unfriendly and rude society is becoming because it definately frustrates me to no end.. because we are perfectly nice people if just people gave us a chance to show it.

Now I'm no expert on the subject, so correct if I'm wrong, but isn't a predominant trait of aspergers syndrome an inability to recognise social cues and/or exaggerate their own attempts at social subtlety?

There's a very fine line between being a friendly stranger and a creepy stranger.

Like I said, I'm no expert, so feel free to correct me if I've crossed a line.

 

[Powereaver]

You're definately not alone.. and contrasting to what some people in this thread think.. i think it is quite rude to just flat out ignore people who are being genuinely friendly.. i also suffer aspergers syndrome and appreciate people just giving a smile and stuff.. but i dont think a lot of people have the time of day to even acknowledge people these days.. and thats said just how unfriendly and rude society is becoming because it definately frustrates me to no end.. because we are perfectly nice people if just people gave us a chance to show it.

Now I'm no expert on the subject, so correct if I'm wrong, but isn't a predominant trait of aspergers syndrome an inability to recognise social cues and/or exaggerate their own attempts at social subtlety?

There's a very fine line between being a friendly stranger and a creepy stranger.

Like I said, I'm not expert, so feel free to correct me if I've crossed a line.

Depending on the aspergers person this can be true but that doesnt excuse the behaviour ive seen from a lot of women especially in my life.. some are just flat out rude and unfriendly no matter how you are.. and aspergers or not noone deserves that.. i personally im unlike the majority of aspergers people and still get the same reaction from a lot of people as the topic suggests.. so i dont think its aspergers related at all in my case because a lot of people dont even believe i suffer from the condition.. i think its just society becoming more unfriendly and unwelcoming in general.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

You're definately not alone.. and contrasting to what some people in this thread think.. i think it is quite rude to just flat out ignore people who are being genuinely friendly.. i also suffer aspergers syndrome and appreciate people just giving a smile and stuff.. but i dont think a lot of people have the time of day to even acknowledge people these days.. and thats said just how unfriendly and rude society is becoming because it definately frustrates me to no end.. because we are perfectly nice people if just people gave us a chance to show it.

Now I'm no expert on the subject, so correct if I'm wrong, but isn't a predominant trait of aspergers syndrome an inability to recognise social cues and/or exaggerate their own attempts at social subtlety?

There's a very fine line between being a friendly stranger and a creepy stranger.

Like I said, I'm not expert, so feel free to correct me if I've crossed a line.

Depending on the aspergers person this can be true but that doesnt excuse the behaviour ive seen from a lot of women especially in my life.. some are just flat out rude and unfriendly no matter how you are.. and aspergers or not noone deserves that.. i personally im unlike the majority of aspergers people and still get the same reaction from a lot of people as the topic suggests.. so i dont think its aspergers related at all in my case because a lot of people dont even believe i suffer from the condition.. i think its just society becoming more unfriendly and unwelcoming in general.

Being a twat has nothing to do with what parts a person has between their legs

As a rule of thumb, you're going to remember the hostile people more often than the indifferent people.

Nothing has changed, socialising in a city has always been different than in a small town or village.

 

[Powereaver]

You're definately not alone.. and contrasting to what some people in this thread think.. i think it is quite rude to just flat out ignore people who are being genuinely friendly.. i also suffer aspergers syndrome and appreciate people just giving a smile and stuff.. but i dont think a lot of people have the time of day to even acknowledge people these days.. and thats said just how unfriendly and rude society is becoming because it definately frustrates me to no end.. because we are perfectly nice people if just people gave us a chance to show it.

Now I'm no expert on the subject, so correct if I'm wrong, but isn't a predominant trait of aspergers syndrome an inability to recognise social cues and/or exaggerate their own attempts at social subtlety?

There's a very fine line between being a friendly stranger and a creepy stranger.

Like I said, I'm not expert, so feel free to correct me if I've crossed a line.

Depending on the aspergers person this can be true but that doesnt excuse the behaviour ive seen from a lot of women especially in my life.. some are just flat out rude and unfriendly no matter how you are.. and aspergers or not noone deserves that.. i personally im unlike the majority of aspergers people and still get the same reaction from a lot of people as the topic suggests.. so i dont think its aspergers related at all in my case because a lot of people dont even believe i suffer from the condition.. i think its just society becoming more unfriendly and unwelcoming in general.

Being a twat has nothing to do with what parts a person has between their legs

As a rule of thumb, you're going to remember the hostile people more often than the indifferent people.

Nothing has changed, socialising in a city has always been different than in a small town or village.

Probably true.. i find cityfolk tend to be a lot more rude then someone from a smaller town but still people can be unfriendly no matter where they were from originally.

And on a sidenote it tends to be women a lot more then men in my own personal experiences with unfriendliness.. even with mum whos like super social women seem a lot more awkward and stuff when she talks to them.. men tend to be a lot more relaxed.

 

[KingsGambit_v1legacy]

I doubt the OP even has problems with women beyond the usual for someone with Asperger's Syndrome and as such a certain degree of social awkwardness.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with the OP.

Ummm...don't these two statements contradict each other? There's nothing wrong with the OP. The OP has Asperger's Syndrome. The two are mutually exclusive.

 

[KingsGambit_v1legacy]

Depending on the aspergers person this can be true but that doesnt excuse the behaviour ive seen from a lot of women especially in my life.. some are just flat out rude and unfriendly no matter how you are..

That's as may be but there are some crucial points here that should be taken into account.

1. A stranger doesn't know whether or not a person has Asperger's.
2. Asperger's is a syndrome that specifically describes people with "significant difficulties in social interactions".
3. A stranger doesn't have any reason to care about another. Whether or not they have AS is irrelevant.
4. As has already been mentioned above, women, particularly attractive ones, can often get a lot of (unwanted/unsolicited) male attention. The end result is that, like the "boy who cried wolf" they are more likely to treat any new male attention as insincere until/unless there is a reason to do otherwise or unless the attention is desired/welcomed at the time.
5. Following on from point 3, strangers don't owe you, or me, anything.