Getting to know people

[Deverfro]

So last seimester I was in this class. And in said class was a girl. We didn't talk much, like at all. But she found my Facebook page for my art work. Added as friends and what not. So we started talking a bit here and there. We have Twitter conversations pretty often. But yeah, getting to know her, she seems pretty damn awesome!

So I want to get to know her. But I'm not sure how, she lives pretty far from the uni. I thought about sending her a message saying something like: "I wanna get to know you, we should meet up" or something.

I do sometimes worry I over read friendliness, but I figured, I like her, might as well try.

Need help! Any advice?

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

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Sounds like you're on the right track. Next step would be meeting in person. The only thing I would suggest is wording it differently "I wanna get to know you, we should meet up" sounds kinda creepy. Try to be a little more casual
"Hey lets hang out." Go see a movie or something.

 

[gazumped]

I tend to get stuck in the IM stage for months before I get round to actually hanging out with people, I find it a nice non-pressure way to get to know people.
As for inviting her out, probably the most natural way to do it is find something you both want to do (see something in the cinema or go to some event) and go 'well, why don't we meet up somewhere on the weekend and do that?'

That's what I usually do/is usually done with me.

 

[Angie7F]

I would also suggest finding a event you are both interested in and ask her to join you.
It seems much more natural to do so.

 

[Deverfro]

Well I asked her, and since she lives in a town thats about a 2 hour train ride away, and she's not moving back down until september. But She did suggest meeting up over the summer, so I'm taking that as a positive!

And I can still try and catch her the days when we're both in.

But yeah, is this a good response?

 

[Angie7F]

I think it is a good response.

I personally would be texting and skyping every waking moment with a guy I am into, so maybe you could try more digital methods of getting to know her in the mean time?

 

[Deverfro]

I think it is a good response.

I personally would be texting and skyping every waking moment with a guy I am into, so maybe you could try more digital methods of getting to know her in the mean time?

You know, that honestly didn't cross my mind...Silly me

But on that subject, how should I suggest skyping? This might be a silly question, but as you can tell, I'm new/bad at this who forging relationships thing!

 

[Spud of Doom]

I think it is a good response.

I personally would be texting and skyping every waking moment with a guy I am into, so maybe you could try more digital methods of getting to know her in the mean time?

You know, that honestly didn't cross my mind...Silly me

But on that subject, how should I suggest skyping? This might be a silly question, but as you can tell, I'm new/bad at this who forging relationships thing!

Depending on how forawrd you want to be... You could say something about how it's a shame she lives so far away, because you'd like to see her more often -> Segue into Skype videocalls.

 

[Lethos]

But on that subject, how should I suggest skyping? This might be a silly question, but as you can tell, I'm new/bad at this who forging relationships thing!

Honestly there is no need to complicate this. A simple "hey btw, do you have Skype?" is all that's needed. No need to over think things, just be calm and natural.

 

[Kasawd]

If you want to meet up, go for a coffee shop. I've always found them to be great, if the other party wants to 'get out of dodge'. Also, it stimulates conversation, as you already seem to have a common interest.

 

[Mel Theofficegamergirl]

You know, there was this kid I met in one of my classes back when I was going to this community college. I didn't really talk to him. Then it was the last day before the end of the semester. I waited 'til we got out of class and just asked "Uh, hey, you want to hang out some time?" He said yeah, and we had lunch a couple days later. It's pretty easy. Doesn't hurt to ask.