Girl Friend wants me to share her

[smurf_you]

Yeah, dump her and move on.

Polyamorous relationships need to be open and upfront from the beginning. One partner in the relationship suddenly wanting to be shared just says to me that they want out of the relationship but don't have the courage to say so.

Get rid of her and don't look back. Better to be on one's own than to be with someone who doesn't respect your feelings.

Pretty much this actually, if you want an open relationship you have to be honest about it form the beginning... you can't just decide thats what you want to do after you've been monogamous for a while.... bad form

 

[OneCatch]

Iv'e been going out with her for a few months now and around a month ago she admited to having feelings for another man she said she would stop them from growing but when we had to spend some time away from one another she got close to him and since we got back together shes been seeing this other man and this weekend she spent two nights at his house and asked me that she wanted me to share her with this man I talked to him about it and he blantently doesn't care that I'm going out with her and she seems ready to leave me whenever I object to her doing something with him or talking about it to my friends. I really care about her but what shes doing is really messed up and everyone I've talked to has told me to bin her. Now this is partly my fault because for a time I wasn't Mr. perfect but I didnt do anything really wrong and I would do nothing like shes doing right now. I just don't know how to handle this in any way other than i just let her have her way and take the punches to stay with her or breaking up with her. So what you say Escapist any advice. Yes i know this is not a place to talk about this emotional crap.

Get the hell out of there. Open relationships can sometimes work, but not when it's being forced on someone who doesn't really want it, and the other people involved don't give a shit. You'll probably hate to hear it now, but it just isn't worth your time.

Also, this:

Yeah, dump her and move on.

Polyamorous relationships need to be open and upfront from the beginning. One partner in the relationship suddenly wanting to be shared just says to me that they want out of the relationship but don't have the courage to say so.

Get rid of her and don't look back. Better to be on one's own than to be with someone who doesn't respect your feelings.

 

[chiefohara]

She is a selfish person with no regard for your feelings. If she treats you like this now with just a month int the relationship, she'll treat you with even more contempt down the line

Have some respect for yourself and Dump her.

 

[chiefohara]

i'm sorry to say this bro but if i were you i would dump the ***** as soon as she even fucking mentions polygamy, dump her and treat her like she's a whore when you do so.

Nice. -_-

OT: If you can't get comfortable with the idea, end it. Otherwise? What's wrong with an open relationship? As long as this other guy is trustworthy, not a psycho or anything, what's the big deal? Just don't let jealousy take you over.

Easier said than done, also who's to say that jealousy won't come from the other guy, or even from her if the OP finds someone else.

There is wayyyy too many mitigating factors in an open relationship which is why most people don't involve themselves in them.

 

[Salomega]

This is very dangerous territory, I knew a girl that was in a relationship like this and after several years of marriage the man told her to pack her **** and get gone. It nearly destroyed her and I can't think it would do you much better when it finally happens, and it most probably will.

I know it sounds painful but, cut your losses now, in the big picture she's already made a choice, so its time for you to make one too.