Girl gamers and their boy issues.

[Kathinka]

i'm a girl who plays games. now i refuse to identify myself with this while girl gamer sub culture and therefore refuse to refer to myself as such^^ but anyway:

i think a girl playing games not finding anyone would have also problems if she DIDN'T game. maybe more so. must guys our ages play videogames, at least arround here, and at least to some level. so gaming is a plus. were the ot not gaming, it might be even harder to find someone.

<== *with her boyfriend and trying to kick his ass in cod (glorious pc gaming master race, obviously!) happily since 2004*

 

[Vault101]

I dotn thin its just the gaming thing, I mean you cant let one hobby define you as a person, its the whole well...the whoel combination of things

I mean If you having nothing in common with somone sure a relationship isnt going tp happen

as for relationships (with a guy who played games)....well Ive had one and found it wasnt to my liking (I realised Im kind of a ***** :/)

 

[StormShaun]

Alas we gamers have these problems being the people who we are, but this happens to both genders, I want a gamer girlfriend myself and the only one I know is my best friend's sister which I like, I have explained this in many, MANY forums.

 

[Henkie36]

One of the best Call of Duty Modern Warfare discussion I ever followed between a girl (Alice) and a boy who's name I cant remember, so lets call him Joe.

[Alice knives Joe]
Joe: That's not cool.
Alice: Yes it was, I just knived you.
Joe: Knife is a weapon for fags.
Alice: You'd pay to see me gay.
Joe: Fag is not the same as gay.
Alice: Yes it is.
Joe: Well, yes, but... Shut up, you know what I'm talking about!

 

[Sarkule]

Whenever I start talking about Mass Effect people just get annoyed >.<
Probably cause I get all intense. Or if I'm talking about Skyrim I generally just start SQUEEEING loudly.

Also, problem is, while I'm super confident online, I'm really shy in real life. So its annoying...
And all the male 'gamers' seem to be people who play games like COD on xbox >3 DO NOT WANT

 

[Zoe Castillo]

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[WolfR]

At least you aren't in a country were games are despised or made fun of by the general public (Italy).
Seriously, some gamer girls I know have to hide their passion because otherwise they automatically become social outcasts.
It's almost the same even for guys (except for COD:BO and Fifa Soccer, durrr), and when you try to be in the middle ("I'm a gamer, yet I have other interests too") it becomes even harder.
Your gamer friends look at you as a jock and your non-gamer friends look at you as a nerd.
To sum it all up, it could be worse for you ladies, at least America is accepting.

 

[Sarkule]

Oh, I wish I could find a girl I could discuss Mass Effect with!

This. Im a male gamer and metalhead, thus I find it extremely difficult to find a girl who will talk to me full stop. Most of the girls who live in my area of England are preppy and artificial so I pretty much get looked down upon because im wearing combats or black jeans coupled with a band t-shirt. Just pisses me off because they don't get to know me. It would be a dream come true if I could find a girl who would talk about Mass Effect with me, hell any kind of game. Sadly stigma in our society is a real ***** to anyone even remotely different.

Nyawwwwwh! I would hug you if I could :>

 

[Vault101]

Could be worse. Could be a girl gamer who is also into girls. Much smaller pool than either gender of straight gamers has to deal with.

really? there arnt that many gay gamer girls?...eh I guess it makes sense

I mean I dont see why the other person being a gamer has to be such important criteriea, unless youre entire world is gaming

and THERE's your problem

 

[Entropyutd]

Is being a gamer really that big a deal? Can't you be in a relationship with something without a total overlap of interests?

It can be, it all depends on how frequently you game.
From experience a non gaming partner is always going to think you spend too much time gaming irregardless of how much or how little time you spend actually gaming.
Relationships are hard enough, often the added pressure caused by an activity the other person deems pointless can be the straw that broke the camel's back.

 

[The_Decoy]

ive never meet a Gamer Girl

ever

Go to more conventions. You'll be up to your neck in girl gamers before you know it.

There aren't really any conventions where I am at least. Kinda makes it hard. And while it is fun meeting girls who play games(I imagine, haven't found one yet), there's not a whole lotta point if they live on the other side of the country.

But those people saying relationships with non-gamers can't work are just plain wrong. There's lots of other fun stuff you can do with people :3

 

[Zenhurak]

Just replying quickly, haven't read the whole 5 pages so apologies if this has been said. I believe the problem stems not from the stigma on gaming as a whole, but more the stigma with the gaming label. Gaming culture and the casual approach to it has grown in recent years but the problem lies in labelling, for example if I mention I'm a writer or talk about a lot of writing related topics, people label me as such and believe my life revolves around it. Similar thing to gaming, you talk games and gaming they think your life revolves around it the same way a bloke who gets excited talking about a Footy team is really involved in that sport. Just a male opinion based on experience and observation chiming in.

 

[A Free Man]

So yeah. I noticed there are bizarrely many topics about gamers(male) having problems with getting girls.

Just wanted to say it's not all that easy for girls either. (sadly)
I'm a gamer girl.. And yeah for me that hasn't worked out at all. Maybe it's just the lack of male gamers in my environment. But I wonder if more girls have been experiencing this problem.

For instance you're at a party talking to a nice guy... And realize you've ended up talking about Mass Effect. And the guy is like: Riiiiight... *backs off*
It's funny how non gaming guys are just as freaked out as girls... Oh well. Just curious after thoughts, and if more girls have experienced this problem.

Hmm I can't be sure but I think I kind of know the problem here. Just for the record I'm a guy. But I think there is a certain stigma that even if gaming isn't necessarily bad it kind of dominates people's lives. As in, if they game, that is all they do. The problem with this is that if you start talking about a game people automatically think of you as a gamer and probably will think that you do nothing else. Try (not to actually lie or ignore that part of you) but rather introduce it at some point late in a conversation as more of a hobby or a timekiller than a lifestyle. This can be kind of hard since most people like to just stereotype you as quickly as possible but if you can do it I feel it makes it a lot easier to talk about. Remember that a lot of people play games now so that stigma will only really apply to people that play games so much as to not really have anything else to talk about.

 

[Kashif Omer]

I found one of my best friends for the first time when she mentioned kingdom hearts, I really wish i did not move away. But don't worry I think we are all gonna be happy in the end

 

[Abedecain]

Haha, you should try being a gay gamer, difficulty x1000

 

[iLikeHippos]

Gaming's but a hobby like anything else. Doesn't change the hardship of dating and finding someone perfect/decent/at least not retarded.

I myself have known a few gamer girls, but none I would actually like to date. Beside the fact they liked games and you could strike a discussion with them on how cool it was when you found an epic ring at level 44, there was little to other interests that struck as well...
Plus the overall physique wasn't all that great in my opinion. And that is not a great asset, for a friend has a good mind you can agree with, but not a body. Whilst a partner can have a good mind, but certainly have the body.

A gamer girl to me is just like any other girl, and I look at those other prioritized targets in beforehand if I was looking for a partner.
... But in the end, it's quite awesome some girls actually dwell in the matter, I admit. Thumbs up for you, I suppose!

 

[Griffolion]

So yeah. I noticed there are bizarrely many topics about gamers(male) having problems with getting girls.

Just wanted to say it's not all that easy for girls either. (sadly)
I'm a gamer girl.. And yeah for me that hasn't worked out at all. Maybe it's just the lack of male gamers in my environment. But I wonder if more girls have been experiencing this problem.

For instance you're at a party talking to a nice guy... And realize you've ended up talking about Mass Effect. And the guy is like: Riiiiight... *backs off*
It's funny how non gaming guys are just as freaked out as girls... Oh well. Just curious after thoughts, and if more girls have experienced this problem.

I'd go out with you any day of the week if you started talking about Mass Effect .

It's just a case of mis-fortune, I do hope you find someone who can understand how awesome you are.

Captcha: your willons - What about my willons, Lord Inglip?

 

[Elsarild]

I think I'll just be happy that I'm moving in with my gamer girlfriend in less than a month and leave it at that and good luck to you all ^^

 

[strobe]

This kinda seems less like a problem with people getting freaked out by people who play games and more about something more general. I'm sure if you went to a church and started talking about how much you hate god then you wouldn't make too many friends either.

Not the best analogy but I'm sticking with it! Don't talk about crap that people are not likely to like if you want them to like you.

 

[Kragg]

Oh, I wish I could find a girl I could discuss Mass Effect with! Yeah, it's just the stigma gaming still unfortunately carries with it for all those who don't understand our shared hobby. Male and female gamers alike are thought of as "a bit weird" by their contempories. Be yourself, and you won't have any problem attracting a nice gamer lad.

Haha I've driven my room mate insane with mass Effect... xD I'd say it's one of my favourite games... But I guess I could say that about most Bioware games... So I'll just say that I really like Bioware games
Yes but the trick is to FIND a nice gamer lad There is one nice lad working in my local game store... But eh... No courage 8D

go for it !

You dont need a gamer though, i prefer my partner to not be, to (in an overly dramatic way) pull me out of the gaming world and into her world, but thats me! When i think of 2gamers i think of that 45 year old couple with kids in an MMO, that let the tv raise their kids while they do raids in warcraft for 5 hours a day ... scares me

If you do want a gamer, think that guys prolly have it harder ^^ hanging around the game store might help you find them, aslong as you dont turn into the freaky girl that rents 15 games a day but youre dutch and pretty ! youll be alright, veel succes, komt wel goed