Just a wee deconstruction here, won't take too long: (Wall of text incoming)
old_school said:
Wow so many "I have girl problem" posts. I'm an older guy so Ill "shoot" this to the young guys head on.
We're nerds, did you miss the meeting we all had about girls? Also, 'shoot' isn't enough of an idiomatic term to need quotation marks, we know that you are not literally shooting us.
Rules
Don't Screw your friends. You don't mess with a girl whom you have been freinds with forever. screws things up badly. An you screw your self in the end.
This is actually quite reasonable, if a bit obvious (and could have even just have been simplified to 'don't be a dick').
If you suffer from the "I'm a dork" symdrome. Wonderful. New invention called hair gel. Buy some. An buy the more expensive D.O. for your B.O. Basicly clean your self up. Any one can date any women any day. Their is no leages. If you want a girl to like you. Stop right there. No trick to tricking women into "liking" you.
Doesn't apply to everyone for starters. And if someone being a 'dork' (although I believe the word kids these days are using is actually nerd) is a major issue then I don't think that all the hair gel and deorderant in the world will change that. And 'any man can date any woman' is complete bollocks, people have standards and things they like and don't like in people for a reason.
All women have desires etc. Make your self appear desirable duh. Most women enjoy conversations that are humorus and intel. Be your self as well, no one like a fake dork. That just deems you as a lier and a dork. An no one wants to date a lier. Dork is passable if your "cool". In the sense your easy going and fun to be around. An do not discuss sex, penus sizes etc. Every girl hears this crap everyday. Guess what your peter ant happening. Discuss something interesting. Not sexual unless its a joke or funny. Even then your walking a thin line.
So don't fake yourself but make yourself what they desire, isn't that contradictary?
"Im shy!"Really? Get over it!
For starters, being shy isn't something people can always just 'get over' (for some people it can be a serious mental or emotional problem), this isn't so much advice as calling a huge portion of people out there pussies under the impression that 'really, I'm helping you'. Also, some women find shyness attractive.
"I'm fat". Who cares. Put down the fork and make your self desireable.
Some people appreciate a 'larger individual' (so losing weight doesn't always make one 'desireable'). Also, this is just bordering on flat out insulting people (remember, you're trying to boost people's confidence, not diminish it, insulting people needlessly is just making you a part of the problem).
"She said no". Great, now date her best friend.
That's the kind of crap someone who calls themselves a 'playa' or a 'pimp' would say, while there's truth to the saying 'there are plenty more fish in the sea', this doesn't mean that you should just ove from one woman to another (that's a bit of a dick move actually).
Finally! It's almost over!
Most of you are in deed kids. Little story about my self. I was a true dork in school. Guess what, I grew up. High school lasts four years. The shame you recived from school ends on graduation night. No one cares after that day. So get over it. When I went to my 10 year reunion, I was probly the most talked to guy. Why? Because I grew up. I enlisted in the military, went to college and recived three degrees n various fields. Plus I was no longer nerdy, I lead a very interesting life. The "High School Cool Guy", lead the life of welfare. An about 50 lbs later, he entered the room.
Yes, once you finish school it's all over and done with but for people who are still going through it that's still a cold comfort, some people may stop caring after graduation but there are others who are left with bad memories and issues that last a long long time after (a child with abusive parents may have moved out but the memories of their childhood will still be with them). You were the most talked to guy?
Great, lots of people wouldn't give a shit (honestly, I wouldn't
want to talk to most of the people I went to school with).
You enlisted in the military and got degrees? Great, you're effectively a hired killer with an education (I think I'd rather achieve my degrees and diplomas without having to get shot at, the Army seems like the stupid way out to me).
Also, why do you connect nerdiness with childishness? Nerds can be man-childs but some of the most mature people I know are of a 'nerdy' disposition (depending how you define 'grown up'), and even bedroom bound nerds can lead interesting lives (the important part of this is that it is
we who determine whether our lives are interesting or not, you shouldn't be pushed into doing something just because 'it's what you're supposed to do' according to that jackass with 50 or more friends).
You guys want to lead happy lives? Go to college, enlist in the military, learn a skill trade, marry for true love etc. List goes on forever. Think with your brain, not your other head. Use common sense and set small realistic goals for your self. Be realistic when making choices. My life long goal is to be a pilot. Guess what, it's a realistic goal. I set my life up for success, so someday I can afford private lessions for learning how to fly.
You want to lead a happy life? Ignore the bollocks this guy's spewing, you want to live a happy life then just be content and happy with yourself, if you are the kind of guy who wishes to sit around and play video games, then do just that (as long as it is
your choice and what
you want to do with your life).
Never let anyone try to tell you that what you do isn't worthy and that you're wasting your life, you do not have to live up to their standards.
All of you have the power today to determine your own future and sucess. You have dreams? Set your self up for sucess. Your looking at a guy who had failure written all over his self in high school. Knocked up my high school sweet heart at 17. I did not have super good grades and I came from a broken home.
Good for you? There are plenty more people out there who didn't have super grades and a broken home and now they are sitting poverty and slowly drinking themselves to death. Just as there are plenty of people who opted to join the army after school and got themselves killed in the line of duty (how many near death experiences did you have? How many people did you have to kill? How do you live with that?), and then there are veterans who come back to poverty, depression and post tramatic stress disorder (did you never hear about the large number of Vietnam vets who committed suicide afeter their cold welcome back to the US?).
Just because you have things good does not mean everyone will.
An yet I made something of my self. An you can to. Honestly I fill I owe my sucess to the lessons learned becoming a United States Marine. However, you may find a different path. Everyone is different. Set your goals and follow through. Their are allways challenges placed ahead of you before you reach the goal. Face the problem dead on and move past it. Life is not easy. But it can be completed honorably.
This bit actually has truth to it, nothing worth doing is easy and great reward can come from adversity (but so can crushing and crippling defeat and loss). You've somehow gone off topic from talking about girl problems to how you can make your life better (apparantly) by enlisting in the military (I'm English so this whole idea of the army being a place you want to be is alien to me).
Overall...your advice isn't very good and you went out of your way to insult people on a couple of occasions (apparantly this is a skill you didn't learn in the army).
so I didn't even know what it was.
