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Girl Problems
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She's clearly interested in you, there's the possibility she's only going with him because you set them up. If your friend continues to hesitate, you are fully justified in making a move on her.
BUT: You should talk to your friend about it first. And for the love of God, be subtle. Tell him that you like her too. Tell him that you're going to make a move if he doesn't, and see how he reacts to that. Let him decide what to do. Do not mention what she wants to him at all. She told you that in confidence, and if she wanted him to do something she should tell him herself.
Just be careful. Two friendships are on the line here, and they will both change no matter what happens.
BUT: You should talk to your friend about it first. And for the love of God, be subtle. Tell him that you like her too. Tell him that you're going to make a move if he doesn't, and see how he reacts to that. Let him decide what to do. Do not mention what she wants to him at all. She told you that in confidence, and if she wanted him to do something she should tell him herself.
Just be careful. Two friendships are on the line here, and they will both change no matter what happens.
Get the hell out! Flee! Run! Distance yourself!
I don't know why you spent so much time foolishly trying to set them up if you like her so much but things have gone too far now. Any action can only result in pain. Either for you with your unrequited feelings or for your friend if you were to put the moves on her. Sure, it's lame because he keeps denying feelings but the fact that you know there's denial means that you know he likes her. Plus... emotions are never logical.
Think of this analogy for girly situations:
Girl A spies an outfit in a store that looks good. Thinks she might like it but is indecisive. Is with her friend, Girl B who also sees the shirt. Jump to the next day when the girl finally makes her mind to get the shirt only to find that friend has just bought the fucking thing.
It's a rather shallow example but it's basically the same. There's always gonna be this tiny sense of betrayal.
That being said... if distancing yourself becomes difficult, you'd better let your friend know ASAP. It's gonna sting either way but at least this can be a balm.
I don't know why you spent so much time foolishly trying to set them up if you like her so much but things have gone too far now. Any action can only result in pain. Either for you with your unrequited feelings or for your friend if you were to put the moves on her. Sure, it's lame because he keeps denying feelings but the fact that you know there's denial means that you know he likes her. Plus... emotions are never logical.
Think of this analogy for girly situations:
Girl A spies an outfit in a store that looks good. Thinks she might like it but is indecisive. Is with her friend, Girl B who also sees the shirt. Jump to the next day when the girl finally makes her mind to get the shirt only to find that friend has just bought the fucking thing.
It's a rather shallow example but it's basically the same. There's always gonna be this tiny sense of betrayal.
That being said... if distancing yourself becomes difficult, you'd better let your friend know ASAP. It's gonna sting either way but at least this can be a balm.
Really don't get why you tried setting them up when you liked her. I guess that you hadn't been in this situation before and imagined you were being noble, but I guess now you've learned is that all that happens is you set yourself up to be in competition with your best friend.
So be honest with him that you like her (although, like someone said, probably best not mention your time with her at the dance) so that he's aware that he has to make the same kinds of decisions that you've been making over what's more important, her or your friendship. And tell him that you've liked her for ages so that it doesn't like you're just now getting jealous and deciding you want a piece of that.
You're going to have to agree between the two of you to be gentlemen and let the lady decide. Ideally, the two of you will go to her together and ask her if she knows who she wants, so that you both know where you are and the one who's turned down can concede fair play to the other, without there having to be any warring over trying to impress her or ask her out before the other one does.
So be honest with him that you like her (although, like someone said, probably best not mention your time with her at the dance) so that he's aware that he has to make the same kinds of decisions that you've been making over what's more important, her or your friendship. And tell him that you've liked her for ages so that it doesn't like you're just now getting jealous and deciding you want a piece of that.
You're going to have to agree between the two of you to be gentlemen and let the lady decide. Ideally, the two of you will go to her together and ask her if she knows who she wants, so that you both know where you are and the one who's turned down can concede fair play to the other, without there having to be any warring over trying to impress her or ask her out before the other one does.
Exactly. He needs to man up or get out of your way. You know he likes her, but he is refusing to act, and that obligation ended the first time you set them up and they both backed out. If he really likes her, he needs to do something about it, and you need to warn him that if he doesn't, you will.TheKruzdawg said: