Girl question

[artanis_neravar]

Some of you might remember some of my previous post, most likely not but it's possible. Anyway basically this past weekend I went to a gaming convention with my friend, I'm gonna call him D, his fiance E, and her best friend K whom I have feelings for.

Spoiler

Anyway the whole weekend I flirted my usual way with K, then on Saturday we were in the vendors room where they had some old games (N64, PS1, etc) and K sat down to play one. My friend D made some comment about how he was surprised she wasn't back at the house playing Arkham city. Then some girl from across the table makes the comment that it's probably because the game has batman and that's enough to make any game unplayable. K took offense to that (she loves batman, which is exactly why I like to make fun of him) but she didn't say anything and D and E told the other girl off.

Now yesterday (Monday) I got a facebook friend request and a message from the girl who didn't like batman apologizing for insulting me and my girlfriend. I found that a little weird (not to mention creepy that she found me) I told D and E about (who I believe told K) and we still aren't sure if the girl mistook me for D or if she thought K and I were dating (which is more likely because D and I look pretty different.

Just a little more of the story left so, please, bear with me. Saturday night we stopped by the bar where D and I had a Jack and Coke (mine was almost completely Jack) and K had nothing (E had some fruity drink but that's not important) after that we walked back to the house where we sat down with E's dad and his friends and continued to drink. Over there next couple of hours D and I had two beers and a Whiskey and coke, and I had some of K's apple-pie like drink, and K had her apple-pie like drink and some of one of my beers.

At this point I was decently drunk (I still remember everything so I wasn't that far gone) and I typed out a text to K saying "Batman is lame" and showed it to D who promptly hit send. It was obvious we did something and E demanded we tell her, so I caved and said that I definitely did not send K a text saying batman is lame, no one believed me for obvious reasons. K then threatened to roundhouse kick me in the face, which I promptly challenged her to actually do. Nothing has come of that yet but I am keeping my guard up. That's not important though.

After most of the people had left, leaving just me, D, E, K, E's dad and his GF, K said that she was debating having a beer, so I opened one for her fully expecting that I was the one who was going to end up drinking it. She ended up taking it and drank most of it (I had a sip because I'd never tried that kind).

Now the next day when we were leaving one of E's dads friends came over to say buy and said it was nice to meet us but D and I probably didn't remember him. I said I remembered everything except for the things that didn't happen, and how i definitely didn't make fun of Batman (K was standing next to me) and he informed me that I did and he would gladly vouch for that fact. To which K replied that she remembers it and still owes me a roundhouse kick. I commented that I didn't think she could really do it. The guy then proceeded to explain how she could actually do it (something to do with a sternum punch).

He then commented that, while he was enjoying digging me a deeper hole with K, he had to go. It wasn't until we left that it occurred to me that (at least in our circle) that phrase is used to describe couples when one of them just doesn't know when to stop talking(I know it's used other ways but the entire weekend everyone in our group used it in reference to couples)

So I was just curious, is it possible that we didn't know we were acting like a couple?

Oh and sorry for all the text I spoiler-ed it to make it take up less space.

 

[Tiger King]

i didnt read anything that made me think you guys were a couple.
i read a lot suggesting you both get on well and could be more than friends though.

 

[Phasmal]

No, that seems like regular friendship to me.
If you have feelings for this girl stop beating around the bush and just ask her out.

 

[artanis_neravar]

i didnt read anything that made me think you guys were a couple.
i read a lot suggesting you both get on well and could be more than friends though.

As long as I'm not going crazy

No, that seems like regular friendship to me.
If you have feelings for this girl stop beating around the bush and just ask her out.

I would except I am currently unemployed

 

[Tiger King]

i didnt read anything that made me think you guys were a couple.
i read a lot suggesting you both get on well and could be more than friends though.

As long as I'm not going crazy

No, that seems like regular friendship to me.
If you have feelings for this girl stop beating around the bush and just ask her out.

I would except I am currently unemployed

so?
you dont need a job to tell someone how you feel

 

[artanis_neravar]

i didnt read anything that made me think you guys were a couple.
i read a lot suggesting you both get on well and could be more than friends though.

As long as I'm not going crazy

No, that seems like regular friendship to me.
If you have feelings for this girl stop beating around the bush and just ask her out.

I would except I am currently unemployed

so?
you dont need a job to tell someone how you feel

That...didn't occur to me

 

[BloatedGuppy]

so?
you dont need a job to tell someone how you feel

I don't know the girl in question, and clearly this isn't a universal rule, but if you're a guy, and you're considering dating, you do really need to have a job. Social expectations being what they are, etc. I don't want to get into a big thing about whether that's fair, or whether it necessarily applies in this case, etc, etc. That's just how it is, alas.

OP: If you like her, though, you'd best get on with letting her know sooner rather than later, even if that involves finding a source of income. You keep on with the platonic clowning around and you're going to find yourself a landed resident of the loathed "friend zone", from whence few ever return.

 

[drisky]

so?
you dont need a job to tell someone how you feel

I don't know the girl in question, and clearly this isn't a universal rule, but if you're a guy, and you're considering dating, you do really need to have a job. Social expectations being what they are, etc. I don't want to get into a big thing about whether that's fair, or whether it necessarily applies in this case, etc, etc. That's just how it is, alas.

OP: If you like her, though, you'd best get on with letting her know sooner rather than later, even if that involves finding a source of income. You keep on with the platonic clowning around and you're going to find yourself a landed resident of the loathed "friend zone", from whence few ever return.

Agreed, I know that a large percentage of women won't date someone unemployed. You don't need to be spending a ton on her, but having a job shows you can take care of your self. The rules might be different with unemployment as high as it is, but being jobless might shot you in the foot sooner if not later. Unless your a student, then it is excusable.

 

[artanis_neravar]

so?
you dont need a job to tell someone how you feel

I don't know the girl in question, and clearly this isn't a universal rule, but if you're a guy, and you're considering dating, you do really need to have a job. Social expectations being what they are, etc. I don't want to get into a big thing about whether that's fair, or whether it necessarily applies in this case, etc, etc. That's just how it is, alas.

OP: If you like her, though, you'd best get on with letting her know sooner rather than later, even if that involves finding a source of income. You keep on with the platonic clowning around and you're going to find yourself a landed resident of the loathed "friend zone", from whence few ever return.

I don't believe in the "friend zone", but other than that I am trying, the thing is no where around me is hiring engineers with no work experience.

so?
you dont need a job to tell someone how you feel

I don't know the girl in question, and clearly this isn't a universal rule, but if you're a guy, and you're considering dating, you do really need to have a job. Social expectations being what they are, etc. I don't want to get into a big thing about whether that's fair, or whether it necessarily applies in this case, etc, etc. That's just how it is, alas.

OP: If you like her, though, you'd best get on with letting her know sooner rather than later, even if that involves finding a source of income. You keep on with the platonic clowning around and you're going to find yourself a landed resident of the loathed "friend zone", from whence few ever return.

Agreed, I know that a large percentage of women won't date someone unemployed. You don't need to be spending a ton on her, but having a job shows you can take care of your self. The rules might be different with unemployment as high as it is, but being jobless might shot you in the foot sooner if not later. Unless your a student, then it is excusable.

I'm working towards my masters degree while she is a senior in college

 

[azraelthor]

i didnt read anything that made me think you guys were a couple.
i read a lot suggesting you both get on well and could be more than friends though.

While I agree with this, it's possible that your body language gave away more than you think it did, in fact if other people saw something there, then there is a chance that she already knows about your feelings and is just waiting for you to do something about it

 

[Giftfromme]

One of my friends asked out his friend, and she said "we're just friends" and it was awkward for a bit and then it was fine. They're still good friends. So just either ask her out or try and go for situations where its just you two. If she won't be out with you alone, its probably not gonna happen.

 

[artanis_neravar]

i didnt read anything that made me think you guys were a couple.
i read a lot suggesting you both get on well and could be more than friends though.

While I agree with this, it's possible that your body language gave away more than you think it did, in fact if other people saw something there, then there is a chance that she already knows about your feelings and is just waiting for you to do something about it

That is possible I have noticed things about my body language, that would at least indicate my feelings for anyone paying attention, but I don't think she knows she tends to be oblivious to this kind of thing

One of my friends asked out his friend, and she said "we're just friends" and it was awkward for a bit and then it was fine. They're still good friends. So just either ask her out or try and go for situations where its just you two. If she won't be out with you alone, its probably not gonna happen.

Easier said then...said...you know what I mean. I think it would be easier for me to actually ask her if her friend (my best friends fiance) knew about my feelings and approved. (I know that's weird but I consider them as close to family as they can get and they are some of the very few people whose opinions I actually care about) And I haven't been able to figure out if she knows and is pushing towards doing something about it, or if she doesn't know and just happens to do things make comments that nearly force my hand.

 

[Gamblerjoe]

So you're working on a Masters in Engineering? That trumps the hell out of working at 7-11. You must pull the trigger on this, and you must do it soon. It sounds to me like you are at the top of her food chain.

Some people are good at reading body language. Reading a story doesn't give us all the details. If someone there who was seeing you two together for the first time assumed you were dating, odds are it was based on his read of her. In other words, if people mistake you for a couple, then she is probably sending signals that she is attracted to you. If you aren't picking up on them, it is probably just you being overcautious.

Go for it man. 90% chance she says yes and you two end up having a spectacular relationship.

 

[artanis_neravar]

So you're working on a Masters in Engineering? That trumps the hell out of working at 7-11. You must pull the trigger on this, and you must do it soon. It sounds to me like you are at the top of her food chain.

Some people are good at reading body language. Reading a story doesn't give us all the details. If someone there who was seeing you two together for the first time assumed you were dating, odds are it was based on his read of her. In other words, if people mistake you for a couple, then she is probably sending signals that she is attracted to you. If you aren't picking up on them, it is probably just you being overcautious.

Go for it man. 90% chance she says yes and you two end up having a spectacular relationship.

Did I specify engineering here? or do you just remember me saying it somewhere else? Either way I honestly like your advice best out of all of these. Thank you.