Girlfriend issue

[Lilbeets]

okay so here's my dilemma I'm going into college as a freshman and my girlfriend is a Junior in High School... I know omg she's young blah blah w.e. but I really do love her and recently she hasn't been as affectionate with me which is one thing ive been thinking about. The other is that the day I move in is the day of her Birthday and her huge Birthday party it sucks. I want things to be like they used to when she would be affectionate with me instead of her being so distant. I don't know i'm just in a lot of pain its so hard to understand ive been so frustrated lately and really depressed. I just could use some advice, my friends and family haven't been the biggest help. Also we text ... like non stop her texts have gone from saying how I make her so happy and how she's so lucky and how I give her butterflies to just a simple love u 2.... it hurts. I don't want to lose her.

 

[Artemis923]

Chances are she's found some other d00d at her high school. Girls are so fickle, especially at that age.

Forget about her, go after some of those college wenches instead.

 

[Legion]

If she is growing distant (emotionally) and you are growing distant (physically) then there's not a lot of hope really...

Perhaps she has realised that you will be a part and she is hoping to lessen the blow by distancing herself from you?

I advise asking her what's wrong, and don't accept 'nothing' (in a polite way, I'm not suggesting you hold her at gun-point to get the reason).

 

[BlicaGB]

you might just be SOL dude.
Might be that she's just trying to distance herself from you because she doesn't want to get her heart broken or whatevs.

I usually go with "if you love something let it go, if it loves you it will come back".. over stressing and hounding can scare a loved one away faster than not paying any attention at all.

Either way. good luck.

 

[grimsprice]

If she is growing distant (emotionally) and you are growing distant (physically) then there's not a lot of hope really...

Perhaps she has realised that you will be a part and she is hoping to lessen the blow by distancing herself from you?

I advise asking her what's wrong, and don't accept 'nothing' (in a polite way, I'm not suggesting you hold her at gun-point to get the reason).

Scratch that, hold her at gun point. In my experience girls will do one of two things. They'll either call you up from a sand dune in Egypt just to tell you they miss you, or they'll deny their impending death from cancer. If you want a long distance relationship to work you have to part while you are still head over heels for each other. Find out whats wrong at any cost or she's gone.

 

[Julianking93]

Unfortunately, it sounds like your relationship is coming to an end.

Girls are extremely fickle at that age and they always want the next best thing. You moving away has added to her loosing interest anyway.

But, maybe, you being away will make her realize how much she really loves you and it'll be the way it used to.

That's just my opinion.

 

[Lilbeets]

Chances are she's found some other d00d at her high school. Girls are so fickle, especially at that age.

Forget about her, go after some of those college wenches instead.

Well were really loyal to each other and we would never cheat on one another so im pretty sure theres not another guy.

 

[Jedoro]

Like others have said, the distance will make or break the relationship, so just relax but let her know you're still interested. You're making your choice, so let her make hers.

 

[dark_taint92]

how long you been with her that could help
it happened to me a month back 9 months of seein the same girl kinda like made me wonder yy i was with her every thing had gone i become detatched from her emotionly and physically so i had to end it
only u can decide what to do but if its like that im thinkin that you might have to end it if shes being distant
hope it helps man

 

[Proteus214]

Long distance relationships suck. Your best bet is probably to end it now and move on. You got all of college ahead of you and there will be plenty of opportunities to come.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

If she is growing distant (emotionally) and you are growing distant (physically) then there's not a lot of hope really...

Perhaps she has realised that you will be a part and she is hoping to lessen the blow by distancing herself from you?

I advise asking her what's wrong, and don't accept 'nothing' (in a polite way, I'm not suggesting you hold her at gun-point to get the reason).

Go with Machines Are Us; truths fly from their fingertips.

 

[ae86gamer]

I think that she might have found another guy. Sorry to tell you dude, but I think that she's gonna break up with you soon.

 

[Artemis923]

Chances are she's found some other d00d at her high school. Girls are so fickle, especially at that age.

Forget about her, go after some of those college wenches instead.

Well were really loyal to each other and we would never cheat on one another so im pretty sure theres not another guy.

I said nothing about cheating. If she's distant, there's probably someone she's interested in at her HS. It happens.

But chances are, her interest isn't quite there anymore.

 

[No One Jones]

Take it from someone who's been engaged twice before 21 and divorced by 22. You'll lose her. Just let it go. Totally not a big deal because women come and women go, but dignity is forever.

 

[New Troll]

Talk with her. Sounds like she's distancing herself because she thinks with you going off to college, things aren't going to work out. Just talk with her. Only way to know for sure what's going on in her head.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

I would say this is something you need to talk with her about, face-to-face if possible. Bear in mind that you're dealing with a teenage girl here, we're talking emotional roller-coaster at best, emotional Perfect Storm at worst. I'm hardly a Love Guru, but I believe that communication is extremely important for a relationship to work so I advise talking to her, sucking up your man-pride and actually communicating your feelings to her.

 

[bug_chaser]

Most high school relationships don't last. Hell, most college relationships don't last either-the truth is, they're kind of expected to run their course. One of the things we learn through high-school heartbreak is how to gracefully let a relationship end so that we end up with closure instead of a restraining order. Not that I'm saying you're going to stalk her or anything, I'm just saying.

Worse, most of the people I know who managed to hold a high-school or college relationship together into their adult lives are unhappily married or divorced. In the same way that you're very different now than you were 4 years ago, you will be very different 4 years from now, and so will she.

I wouldn't have listened to well-meaning advice when I was entering college, *ahem* years ago but just in case you're smarter now than I was then-let this go. You're going to date in college, best not to be cheating on a girl you love when you do it.

 

[khaimera]

I would say this is something you need to talk with her about, face-to-face if possible. Bear in mind that you're dealing with a teenage girl here, we're talking emotional roller-coaster at best, emotional Perfect Storm at worst. I'm hardly a Love Guru, but I believe that communication is extremely important for a relationship to work so I advise talking to her, sucking up your man-pride and actually communicating your feelings to her.

I agree with evrythgin you just said, finally some decent advice. Just be careful to not come across as too needy, becuase that will turn her off even more. I think, like was said earlier, that she is trying to unconsciously lessen the blow from you moving away.

Find a way to make that party though.

 

[AkJay]

She's cheating on you, sorry man.

 

[open trap]

ouch, i say keep the relationship going untill it just cant work no longer