Girlfriends (boyfriends) and getting them.

[theironbat46]

Be yourself.

Okay I need some tips. I really like this girl. We are really good friends. We have an entire group of friends around seven people. We go to the movies many times. Maybe even this Saturday.. We have a lot of stuff in common [Comic Books, Jokes, Television, etc.] We have shared lots of awesome moments. That time we all saw Iron Man 2. I sat next to her, we talked the whole time. It felt like a date. The last movie we saw [Eclipse, she liked it I heard The Last Airbender sucked ass.] So all our friends left and we just sat on the bike rack [My parents make me wait till everyone leaves so no one is abducted] and talked. It was great. But she never responds to my text, but she used to in the spring. Also she might have a crush on my best friend. So you have an idea of how much I like her, and my reasons for being so nervous. Should I ask her out at The Other Guys [this Saturday] or Scott Pilgrim [for a romantic tune] ? Or at all? Please advice.

You may be stuck in "the friend zone" in which case, she either likes you and is waiting for you to make a move, or she doesn't and You'll just have to settle for being friends. Even then, I've never had a good experience come from dating somebody who has all the same friends as you. usually drives people apart. its kinda like that addage, "don't stick your pen (is) in the company ink" Oh, and take her to see the expendables. I really want somebody to try that please.

Wish I could try the Expendables thing but 1] I'm out of town when it comes out, and 2] Her parents don't let her see rated R movies. That's what stopped us from seeing KickAss. That's why I'm settling for Scott Pilgrim. Also I've been dreading "friend zone" stuff. Man, my life is resembling KickAss more and more.... Hopefully the movie version..

 

[hyperhammy]

Be yourself.

Okay I need some tips. I really like this girl. We are really good friends. We have an entire group of friends around seven people. We go to the movies many times. Maybe even this Saturday.. We have a lot of stuff in common [Comic Books, Jokes, Television, etc.] We have shared lots of awesome moments. That time we all saw Iron Man 2. I sat next to her, we talked the whole time. It felt like a date. The last movie we saw [Eclipse, she liked it I heard The Last Airbender sucked ass.] So all our friends left and we just sat on the bike rack [My parents make me wait till everyone leaves so no one is abducted] and talked. It was great. But she never responds to my text, but she used to in the spring. Also she might have a crush on my best friend. So you have an idea of how much I like her, and my reasons for being so nervous. Should I ask her out at The Other Guys [this Saturday] or Scott Pilgrim [for a romantic tune] ? Or at all? Please advice.

You may be stuck in "the friend zone" in which case, she either likes you and is waiting for you to make a move, or she doesn't and You'll just have to settle for being friends. Even then, I've never had a good experience come from dating somebody who has all the same friends as you. usually drives people apart. its kinda like that addage, "don't stick your pen (is) in the company ink" Oh, and take her to see the expendables. I really want somebody to try that please.

Wish I could try the Expendables thing but 1] I'm out of town when it comes out, and 2] Her parents don't let her see rated R movies. That's what stopped us from seeing KickAss. That's why I'm settling for Scott Pilgrim. Also I've been dreading "friend zone" stuff. Man, my life is resembling KickAss more and more.... Hopefully the movie version..

The comic ends nicely, at least you get to see pronz of her. xD

 

[Kaez]

I pretty much didn't have confidence to start dating when I was in my teen years. Mostly because I felt I wasn't good looking enough, or I didn't have the same interests as the girls I went to school with.

Thankfully they built two new schools and amalgamated like 5 schools each into one of them. Mind you I didn't actually start dating till I was about to go into Grade 12. Despite all new people I could get to know, many of them had boyfriends from their old school or met up with a new guy from a different school.

Even by the time I got around to dating, the person I was attracted to didn't know I was (and I didn't know they were attracted to me either). At the time I started having any kind of feelings for her, she was dating someone else. It didn't last mind you, and we started hanging out more and more. I never actually asked her out (and no I wasn't placed in the friend zone either) but rather one of our friends pretty much asked us how we felt about each other and we started dating... Almost 5 years later we are engaged and have been living together for 3 years. Still after 5 years I have almost the same level of confidence that I had back then, only slightly better.

Confidence is a good approach... if you have it.

As it turns out, we have many of the same friends, and what's even more odd is many of our friends hooked up, and are still together. Though I think we are the longest running relationship out of them all.

 

[Kialee]

As stated before, you really need to be careful about the speed at which you form a relationship with the girl.
Too fast is definitely a bad thing, yes, in both a universal sense and the sense that the girl trying to go too fast is either after something you have or might just be a bit of a tit.
On the other hand, if you go too slow and don't show enough interest, welcome to the friend zone. You just have to find the right balance.

Actually, balance seems to be key in all of it. Be presentable, but don't look like a fucking poodle. Be witty/seem intelligent, but don't make her feel overshadowed/like a dipshit. Be nice, but don't be a puss.

I've dated quite a few people, but I've only had two relationships that I'd say were even close to serious, being my current one and my previous one. High school is just a terrible place to date, and I'm glad it's behind me. It's a mess.

 

[ALuckyChance]

My two rules would seem self-contradictory, but they work:

Don't go looking but don't miss it when it comes to you.

You want to drive a girl wild, make her feel like you're something other than putty in her hands. Overeager is a pretty good antonym for sexy. If she's asking herself "why's this guy different? Is it me?" then you've done half your work already.

My best relationships were the ones where the girl approached me, I spent some time sizing her up and not overplaying my hand, then when I saw the opening, I seized the initiative.

God man, you sound like you're playing cards instead of actually trying to get a romantic relationship.

 

[hyperhammy]

Don't go hunting for love. In other words: don't just look for a girlfriend for the sake of having a girlfriend. Only go after a girl if you really want HER.

 

[hottsaucekid]

my main problem isnt confidence because over the years ive been a very confident person. the thing is i dont know what to do when im on a date. ive dated a few girls before but it never lasted long. i always try and be myself but i dont know how dating works really.

 

[Grigori361]

As the other guy said, confidence is key.

Even the fattest, hairiest and sloppiest looking man (general hygiene is still important, mind you) can get a girlfriend if he has confidence and a good personality.

Confidence is different than being a dick as well. Just hold yourself up and show that you care about yourself and others, don't be obsessive about yourself and others though, that's not a good policy.

There are plenty more tips I could give, but you may also want to check out BonsaiK's relationship thread.

Totally agree, however since I usually prefer to be an arrogant dick that usually limits my options to the more unusual types... which suites me just fine.

 

[Sir Thomas Sean Connery]

This is going to sound like whining, but I don't even know how to start.

I have never had a girlfriend, or even talked to a girl in a dating sort of way. The biggest problem for me is just meeting a girl. I live in a VERY small town, (about 3500 people) I am home-schooled, so I don't have that access and I can't drive to go anywhere to meet a girl.
(and even if I could, I'm not old enough to get into a bar or party)
Just to top it off, the way I dress and act do not help at all and I am not willing to change that much just for a possibility of a girlfriend.

 

[zehydra]

I didn't have a girlfriend till 18, but it wasn't something that I tried multiple times, it just sort of happened.

 

[thedeathscythe]

Confidence, definitely that, but also a good sense of humour. I'm not that attractive by any means, but I'm not ugly either, kinda just normal, but I seem to woo many girls with my comedy and how I present myself. I think if you make em laugh, you can make em like you.

 

[edman270]

So, my policy of being an uncaring asshole probably isn't the best then huh? Damn, it was so fun too.

i know right everybody else seems like such an idiot but me

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

So, my policy of being an uncaring asshole probably isn't the best then huh? Damn, it was so fun too.

i know right everybody else seems like such an idiot but me

Woah, that was scary. It was like looking at a less grammatically correct version of me!

 

[blankedboy]

Theironbat

You need to quote him if you want him to read that, there's less than a one percent chance of him looking back at this thread. There's just too many topics to do otherwise.

I'm 14 and have never had a girlfriend, so I don't have any useful advice here.

 

[Thaius]

I will say right now: a genuine person doesn't "get" a girlfriend/boyfriend, they "find" one.

Tips and tricks are deceptions, really. It's a matter of acting differently than you normally are in hopes that someone will notice you and... what, have sex with you? You couldn't possibly plan on building a long-term relationship based on "tricks," can you? Because that would be stupid.

Trying to "get" girls is shallow and a display of poor character. Wait until you meet someone who you could genuinely see yourself with, then move.

 

[Glamorgan]

Dating: problems/experiences with.

Yes, Problems would sum it up quite nicely. But for me, what works is...
Actually, I have no idea. I know a couple of girls have liked me, but I have no idea why.
So much for that.

 

[Jewrean]

most of the girls I am attracted to are dating someone else.

This. Always this. I would like to say all the good ones are taken but that's not true.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

Yeah... All of my girlfriend's always put the moves on me first. The only advice I can give is don't look, they'll find you. Not really helpful, sorry.

Only problem; society suggests that the guy makes the first move. So if the girl makes the first move, it's very rare. And with statistics, next to never happening.

That's how I met my current boyfriend.

I find that being open, friendly and kind helps a lot... just being myself attracts a lot of guys. But then again, I'm the elusive nerdgirl, and apparently rather rare.

 

[Gizmo]

The way I met my girlfriend was she had a crush on me since she first seen me but I ddin't know her, and one day she asked me to hangout with her and a few of her friends. One of those friends of hers liked her and was trying to be all over her and every time she moved closer to me and we just had this connection and it went from there.

 

[Ghostbody]

TL;DR - Dating: problems/experiences with.

I always befriend them, then wait several months before exploring my interest in them, by which point I've crash landed the friend-zone.

Oh wait, how to get them? S***, not a clue, sorry. =/

I HATE it when that happens!