Girlfriends (boyfriends) and getting them.
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Yea....picking up girls with low selfesteem isn't always the way to go....and they RARELY make girlfriend material.....Glass Joe said:
I'm very unassuming. 'Cute', the ability to seem as if you couldn't fight your way out of a wet paper bag.
It's certainly not my looks, anyway.
It has worked a couple of times for me, but be prepared say goodbye to any dignity you thought you may have had.
It's certainly not my looks, anyway.
It has worked a couple of times for me, but be prepared say goodbye to any dignity you thought you may have had.
I know why I can never have a girlfriend, it's because I'm ugly, and I'm technically retarded, I have aspergers syndrome. That one was always fun to use on bullies. (You'e retarded! I know, I have a certificate!)
The only good points I have i that I try to be nice, I've been told I'm intelligent (i don't seriously believe that), and I'm on very rare occasion, funny, and goodness knows, no girl gives a crap about that. It's just looks, and money.
So my advice, if you ain't good looking or rich, give up, there's more fun things to do in life than constant rejection. It'll save you effort.
The only good points I have i that I try to be nice, I've been told I'm intelligent (i don't seriously believe that), and I'm on very rare occasion, funny, and goodness knows, no girl gives a crap about that. It's just looks, and money.
So my advice, if you ain't good looking or rich, give up, there's more fun things to do in life than constant rejection. It'll save you effort.
I have all of those in ample suppy! But I agree, carry yourself well.inflamessoilwork said:
Also, see if you have anything in common. Be nice and friendly and don't seem rash or make it obvious you want to go out with her/him. Also, text/msn whaterever relationship ARE ALMOST DESTINED TO FAIL. If you know them already and talk to them, then sure ask them by text whatever, but its better if you do it in person, cause it shows confidence and means they will be more sure coz they know it's less likely to be a prank or something.
Words of Wisdom, by Scotland's own, Chogg Van Helsing. LOL
How do you acquire self-cofidence when you don't have any? What if you don't believe in yourself? How do I find someone who shares the same interests as me?
Whenever I talk to anyone, my mind goes blank... seriously... I can be in the middle of a sentence, then I suddenly forget the next word, and can't finish it... also I can never think of anything other than things nobody else would understand...
Whenever I talk to anyone, my mind goes blank... seriously... I can be in the middle of a sentence, then I suddenly forget the next word, and can't finish it... also I can never think of anything other than things nobody else would understand...
How do I go about getting a girlfriend? Hm...confidence, good hygiene, and a sense of humor are the three most important. Long story short, I cast my net out and date as many women as humanly possible at once(and I don't mean having multiple girlfriends and relationships) and see which I want to be with, if any, after a set period of time and dating(again, not going into relationship territory), drop the others that I don't get along with and click with as well, and stick with that one as her boyfriend. If there isn't a woman I want to be with from those people, I rinse and repeat.
Thing is, I've had praise -heaped- on me ever since elementary school, including a pick of the best colleges in the States. it's just that when I make mistakes, I tend to hate myself for it more than I probably should.
I don't play cards, or gamble. Not for religious reasons, you see; I just think there are much better ways to get money, while not having the risk of selling the clothes off your back.SimuLord said:
Go for it buddy. You'll probably end of regreting it if you dont and she ends up dating your best friend... Just tell her how you feel, if she feels the same, great. If not, then there are plenty of other fish in the sea.theironbat46 said:
Why's that?Ironic Pirate said:
Exes are tough. I've only had to get over one girl, but it took me longer than I'd ever have imagined. The thing is, I started thinking of all the bad times we had and that would make me really annoyed. I was with some girls when I wasn't ready and came off looking like an asshole after breaking up with them. But now, everything's fine, and whenever I look back on it I just take the positives. It was a great relationship for me as it gave me loads of confidence, and also kind of steeled me from letting myself be so hurt again.Fluffles said:
Looks are a very subjective thing, I doubt there's many people that would be considered universally 'ugly'. Obviously I've no idea how old you are, but I'm only 22 and even now I notice that people I know have moved beyond superficial reasons for entering into relationships. It's no longer about being 'hot' or overtly muscly, it's just about connecting with people. Also, money hasn't factored into things right now, neither me or my girlfriend have jobs at the moment and we split things fairly evenly when it comes to going out and stuff.Doclector said:
I think you're being too cynical when you say girls don't care about humour. My girlfriend is very honest and open and she constantly goes back to the fact that I make her laugh. and if people are telling you that you're intelligent then work off that, don't doubt yourself immediately. From what I've seen, people don't just fling compliments around with wild abandon, it can be quite a personal thing to tell someone they're smart or good-looking, so take it and believe it, because if even one girl felt that way that's all you need.
I've never really had the thought of 'looking' for a boyfriend/girlfriend in my mind before, every relationship I had just kinda happened. My current relationship, I met the person randomly but my ex and I were friends for two years before going out. I think some people think too much about it and let it affect them, but it shouldn't be like that, it should happen naturally. I don't really believe in dating websites and such, I mean I know people do get married and stuff from meeting on there, but I like to leave some of it to fate.
Because I'm not attractive enough to have people ask me out, and whenever I've tried to ask a girl out I either couldn't get up the courage or it ended horribly.PolarBearClub said:
And I'm so fucked up sexually that any chance for a normal relationship is pretty much nil.
Sorry about my little whining session here, I had to get that off my chest.
Use humor and groome yourself. And be confident. That's about it really, although there is no formula for girls/boys. If you make people laugh they'll want to be around you.
P.S. Know how to talk to people. There's nothing worse than having an awkward conversation because the other person is not good at sympathizing or being polite.
P.S. Know how to talk to people. There's nothing worse than having an awkward conversation because the other person is not good at sympathizing or being polite.
Chin up my friend.Ironic Pirate said:
You are still young. Your time will come.
Maybe im an optimist but hey, if you focus too much on your negative attributes, they will become much more noticeable to others.
Little scenario I could use some help with (not worth it's own thread so I figure this is as good a place as any). So there's a girl, and according to her friend she likes me. We've met twice (both times we were part of a group of seven) and got on alright, I guess. We haven't seen each other for a while but I figured I might as well act on the tip her friend gave me. Would it be a little bit weird to get her msn from her Facebook page given that we haven't met or spoken at all in quite a while?