Have you looked at yourself in a mirror? You're beautiful! They probably think you're out of their league. The reason I haven't asked too many girls out is because none of the girls I know appeal to me.
Guys; I've had enough.
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Seriously? HOw do people think your intimidating? I think your purrrtyNaturalCauses said:
But ya I am way too shy to ask out girls :/
Do you relise how embarrasing and awkward it is to get shot down? of course not your a fucking girl. Girls getting rejected by a single guy is almost unheard of unless hes gay or the girl is lower than like a 3 on a 1/10 scale especial near prom. It's fucking humiliating almost every guy in the world will tell you that.NaturalCauses said:I have friends. I have girl friends, and I have boy friends. Only once have I had a boyfriend. My courage in asking him out resulted in two good months, until he decided to invite my friend over and ended the night with making out with her. I haven't tried any relationships since- that was a year and a half ago.
Last summer, after prom, a friend of mine asked if I wanted to go out with him. He said he had liked me for a long time. I didn't feel the same way about him, so I said no, and then asked why he waited until now, when I'd be moving away soon anyway. His response was that he was afraid I would say no; and the funny thing is, I had feelings for him a few months prior, and would have said yes had he asked then. Instead, we both continued on our lives, and we haven't loved anyone since.
The past five years of my life, in terms of love, have been miserable. I'm sure plenty of you understand. No guys ask me to go out with them, and I find it hard to become infatuated with anyone because the only experience I've had with relationships has been unpleasant. Right now, I'm at breaking point, feeling absolutely alone and that I'm missing on something wonderful.
My point in all this? Why won't any of you guys ask me on a date?
I say 'you' in general. 'You guys'. It's always the same excuse- "I'm too shy", "She'll say no", "She's so intimidating".
Us girls are screaming to be asked out. There's no way that you know we'll deny you. So why can't you just ask? You won't lose anything. I'm still friends with the guy who broke my heart, and the guy who missed my heart. So why can't you just ask?
I wish a guy like one of you folks here on the Escapist could meet me in real life. You're kind, you're intelligent, but you can't just ask. It's a problem all of us geeks and gamers seem to have.
So for discussion:
Go ask out that girl you like. Please, do it now. If she says yes, dance; if she says no, get over it; if she says nothing, crack a bad joke. Why can't you just do it?
Not just 'gamer guys' are lonely.
((Apologies for coming off as depressed or whiny. That's never me; except tonight, for some reason...))
BESIDES. you girls also apparently find amusement fucking with our heads.
this is a rather odd topic. considering you rarely see decent looking girls complaining about not getting asked out. I mean all you got to do is stand next to a guy and say "Hi" and he'll probably go nuts. We have to actually develop social skills and be somewhat fit.
I'm not antagonizing females. I'm just pissed you girls have it easier.
this is a rather odd topic. considering you rarely see decent looking girls complaining about not getting asked out. I mean all you got to do is stand next to a guy and say "Hi" and he'll probably go nuts. We have to actually develop social skills and be somewhat fit.
I'm not antagonizing females. I'm just pissed you girls have it easier.
Hooray! I was hoping someone might take my advice. My awkwardly bolded advice. :]Drumming Panda said:But, to make an interesting story, i will go up to the girl i like and ask her out next time i see her.
If you read the first post, yes- but not since. And I just moved somewhere new, so I'm just feeling miserable and unloved and reflecting on a lonely background.sheic99 said:
I actually do. In fact, I cover myself in conversation-starters. I always introduce myself to the person next to me in my lectures. My laptop wallpaper is from Mass Effect, so I've had a couple people start talking to me about that. But then that's as far as it ever gets.Ahlycks said:
You know heres a crazy idea, ask someone you like out yourself. Seriously this is the 21st century and we're meant to be striving for equality of the sexes. A woman doesn't have to wait on a man anymore and men will be well relieved you're so candid.
Also lets face it us guys can be pretty stupid about realising emotions sometimes, it's not just in comedys/soap operas/movies where a guy doesn't realise a girl he likes is crushing on him just as bad until it's too late.
Edit: Oh read the OP again and realised you did.
Well I don't know, well there's always what half my female friends do, find a nice guy that barely know you, pre-emptively jump their bones before anyone else does, spend a shit load of time with them and bam they wake up one morning and realise they've been going out with them for 6months.
Also lets face it us guys can be pretty stupid about realising emotions sometimes, it's not just in comedys/soap operas/movies where a guy doesn't realise a girl he likes is crushing on him just as bad until it's too late.
Edit: Oh read the OP again and realised you did.
Well I don't know, well there's always what half my female friends do, find a nice guy that barely know you, pre-emptively jump their bones before anyone else does, spend a shit load of time with them and bam they wake up one morning and realise they've been going out with them for 6months.
Damn straight. I wouldn't mind if a girl asked me out, I don't see what the problem is with it anyway.Paksenarrion said:
I realized two things:
1. my keyboard fucking sucks.
2. Nice girls are surrounded by jerks. Bitches are surrounded by nice guys.
your just looking in the wrong places.
1. my keyboard fucking sucks.
2. Nice girls are surrounded by jerks. Bitches are surrounded by nice guys.
your just looking in the wrong places.
Please allow me to shed some light on the subject.
I consider myself to be a fairly typical guy. I have things I'm good at and stick with them because that's the realm I can control. It's not that YOU personally are scary, (I'm going on the assumption you don't look like a german strongwoman that could bench press a 'duce and a half') but more than guys are venturing into the unknown because they don't know what you're thinking. It's the same feeling of rejection you fear by asking a guy what he thinks of you, and it has to do with the persons psyche, which is very hard to override.
As far as your reason for being jaded, that bites, and I feel sorry for you, but allow me to share my own personal bit here. I met a girl my senior year of hs through a co-ed trip to the gulf of mexico where we crewed a ship and sailed around to various snorkeling spots. Fate decided that we were to be paired up as buddies, which I thought would be hell since she was the most outgoing, friendly and nicest person there, and I was an introvert due to moving every 3 years, and had just joined the group. During that one week she helped me feel apart of a group and discover parts of my personality that I had kept locked down for far too long. (note: nothing happened on the trip since the guys and girls were quartered on opposite ends of the ship) After I got home, we started to hang more and more to the point people who knew us thought we were siblings separated at birth, and people who just met us thought we'd been going out for a few years. After she told me of her own heartbreak because she pined after a taken guy, I finally worked up the nerve to tell her I had feelings for her, which made her extremely happy and told me she felt the same. We were together for about two months, and I got her a christmas present she'd been searching for for months. (GH1 for PS2) I left soon after to visit family for the holidays and talked with her regularly while I was out of town, counting down the days when I'd come home. When I got home, I found out she'd disappeared and despite my best efforts at contacting her, had no idea where she'd gone to.
Two months later, she came back with a new bf on her arm and practically a new family, and had no idea why I was hurt. She'd do this cycle for 3 years during every time she had a falling out with a guy, and I'd fall for it every time. Now, I'm a very jaded guy with more than a few trust issues doubting I'll ever find a girl to settle down with as I watch my sister and cousins find wonderful people and get married.
To finish my post, I empathize with you. I know what it's like to feel totally alone, but sometimes the reason we don't ask girls out is because we've been burned bad.
I consider myself to be a fairly typical guy. I have things I'm good at and stick with them because that's the realm I can control. It's not that YOU personally are scary, (I'm going on the assumption you don't look like a german strongwoman that could bench press a 'duce and a half') but more than guys are venturing into the unknown because they don't know what you're thinking. It's the same feeling of rejection you fear by asking a guy what he thinks of you, and it has to do with the persons psyche, which is very hard to override.
As far as your reason for being jaded, that bites, and I feel sorry for you, but allow me to share my own personal bit here. I met a girl my senior year of hs through a co-ed trip to the gulf of mexico where we crewed a ship and sailed around to various snorkeling spots. Fate decided that we were to be paired up as buddies, which I thought would be hell since she was the most outgoing, friendly and nicest person there, and I was an introvert due to moving every 3 years, and had just joined the group. During that one week she helped me feel apart of a group and discover parts of my personality that I had kept locked down for far too long. (note: nothing happened on the trip since the guys and girls were quartered on opposite ends of the ship) After I got home, we started to hang more and more to the point people who knew us thought we were siblings separated at birth, and people who just met us thought we'd been going out for a few years. After she told me of her own heartbreak because she pined after a taken guy, I finally worked up the nerve to tell her I had feelings for her, which made her extremely happy and told me she felt the same. We were together for about two months, and I got her a christmas present she'd been searching for for months. (GH1 for PS2) I left soon after to visit family for the holidays and talked with her regularly while I was out of town, counting down the days when I'd come home. When I got home, I found out she'd disappeared and despite my best efforts at contacting her, had no idea where she'd gone to.
Two months later, she came back with a new bf on her arm and practically a new family, and had no idea why I was hurt. She'd do this cycle for 3 years during every time she had a falling out with a guy, and I'd fall for it every time. Now, I'm a very jaded guy with more than a few trust issues doubting I'll ever find a girl to settle down with as I watch my sister and cousins find wonderful people and get married.
To finish my post, I empathize with you. I know what it's like to feel totally alone, but sometimes the reason we don't ask girls out is because we've been burned bad.