Guys (or girls I guess): How would you react to this?

[ReservoirAngel]

So me and the boyfriend were talking about this earlier on today, after branching off from a conversation that WAS about coffee. Dunno how we got from coffee to this topic, but oh well.

Basically, how would you react if one of your same-sex friends confessed to having a really strong crush on you, or even loving you?

Cause both me and him have been on both sides of this situation. I've had a friend I didn't even think was into dudes confess to thinking I was massively cute and that he wanted to fuck me, and I've confessed pretty much the same (while slightly stoned, I admit) to another one of my friends over Facebook (private messaging, nobody else saw).

As for my boyfriend, he had a friend of his practically declare his undying love for him, and has confessed a massive crush to someone who he practically KNEW hated his guts. Didn't end well for him, but that's a story for another day.

So yeah, what would your instinctual reaction to be if one of your close friends suddenly out of pretty much nowhere confessed such feelings towards you?

 

[Cybele]

I would back away from them, slowly.

 

[New Troll]

Has happened. Joked about it, laughing it off. Never let it affect friendship, but let him know he wasn't getting his desires/ wishes. Frankly I find it flattering. No big deal.

 

[Wondermint13]

I had that a few times back in my younger more charming days..

I would just smile wickedly, take a win where I could find it and give him a big old hug!
Nothing more than that.

 

[Sebenko]

Considering that the number of my same-sex friends I'm attracted to is pretty small (consisting of one guy who looks like a geeky version of Thor from the movie of the same name, and my boyfriend), I suppose I might give a straight guy answer.

Say no, I'm not interested. It's not like it's difficult to get guys anyway.

 

[Rascarin]

I'm a lesbian so... sure. Great.

Edit: Oh, if it was a close friend... Well, I'm also dating my best friend. So. Sure. Great.

 

[Vault101]

well..Id be flattered

however nothing would happen for obvious reasons and ALSO because they are my freind, regardless of sex thats just...awkward

 

[FOXGEAR]

It happened to me a few weeks ago. My best friend of the last 6 or 7 years told me he had had a crush on me for some time. I had to turn him down, because while I am Bi, I'm just not into him that way. Plus, he has a girlfriend that he talked to about it, and she said she was cool with it because "it wouldn't technically be cheating". Dumb *****.

But yeah anyway, I was a bit weirded out, but both of us were able to not make it awkward.

 

[Not-here-anymore]

I'd be flattered, but I'd try to let them down gently/not let things get weird. Think they'd know I wasn't planning on reciprocating though...

 

[DJDarque]

I would simply tell him that I am not interested in him, but also let him now that I think no less of him and would still like to be friends.

 

[evilstonermonkey]

My first reaction would be discomfort. Not freaking out, judgemental screamy-hatey discomfort, not end of friendship, harsh-words-best-left-unspoken-but-regretfully-not discomfort. Just I don't really have a problem with this but I really wish you had just kept it to yourself discomfort. I consider myself completely straight (though my personal definition of straight is just "someone who hasn't yet met a member of their own gender they've wanted to bang") but I'm not homophobic. Actually, really speaking I would feel the same way if one of my female friends told me they wanted to go out with me. The intellectual and/or physical attraction would be weighed against, and most likely be outweighed by, the fact that I see them as a friend and don't want to risk that.

 

[endnuen]

Brush them off and tell them to never ever speak of it again. Ever.

 

[similar.squirrel]

I'd be flattered and slightly annoyed that I wasn't gay, I guess.

 

[Thaluikhain]

It'd be awkward having a close friend reveal they fancy you, as it'd risk damage the friendship.

 

[Sjakie]

I'd declare him insane, feel flattered and tell him to go find someone else for those desires.

It would be a serious blow to our friendship, but since we are close friends it would survive ofcourse! The way we treat eachother would probably change though.

 

[Jonluw]

Oooh, I would be very awkward.
I'd turn him down, but... I really don't know how to go about such things.

I'd try to remain friends, of course, but I don't know how easy that'd be for him if every time he was hanging out with me it would bring up such feelings.

 

[nitat]

My first reaction would be a bit in the sense of" What the hell are you smoking" or "You need to get eyes checked".
I can't imagine why anybody would be attracted to me.